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Thursday, January 03, 2013

I have Beka. her Mother called and asked if I would keep her instead of taking her home. DH doesn't think this is a good idea for financial reasons. From talking to Kelly, Beka's mother, it is either I take Beka now or wait to see if CPS ask me if I will take her. I didn't think that was a good option so said yes.

Beka of corse is very upset. She loves her mother and I'm not sure which hurts her more that her mother doesn't want her at home or that her mother is having so many problems that it is necessary for her to live with me. Kelly is bi poler. She has been told over and over why this is necessary, and had even voiced over a year ago that she knew her mother would never be really better and this might happen, but she is 11.

The room she stayed in when she stays with me is also a storage room. I'm having her set up the exercise room as her room. This means for right now the storage room/exercise room is topsy turvy but thought this was the best way to make her feel more at easy.

Beka's father lives in San Diego. I of corse called him right away. He had spoken with Kelly and thought this was a good arrangement. As much as he would like Beka he thinks she would do better living with a grandmother she spends weekends with and close enough to see her mother once in awhile instead of moving 2000 miles to live with a step mother and 1/2 sister she barely knows.
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    So sorry to hear that you are having this problem. I know it's difficult but I'm sure you will do what's best. Beka is a lucky little girl to have you.
    1960 days ago
    You are a wonderful grandmother to dear little Beka. She is very blessed to have you in her life, and to come to her rescue. Children are resilient, and Beka will adapt & thrive in your loving and welcoming home.
    1962 days ago
  • DEE797
    I am sorry this has happened to Beka, but so glad that you are able to take her in. Sounds like you are trying to do what is best for her and giving her a room of her own will help. She is still too young to understand all of what is happening but sounds like she has figured out some things on her own. Sending thoughts, prayers, emoticon and emoticon
    1962 days ago
  • DEE107
    Oh my poor Beka and feel for her
    1963 days ago
    Poor Beka. I'm sure it is confusing, but seems she understands her mom is not well. I don't know what conditions she was living under with her mom, but for CPS to become involved, the situation couldn't be good. I wonder if you contacted the foster child agency they could make you all official foster parents and you could get some money to help feed and clothe her? I don't know how that works with grandparents. Poor Kelly. Seems she has enough wits about her to be sure Beka is being cared for!
    1963 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear Becca is having to go through this, but she is very lucky to have you to take care of her. It is good to give her space of her own even though I'm sure it isn't easy to move everything out of the room and find a place for it. emoticon
    1963 days ago
    It's wonderful that you can take her. I'm sure she will be well loved and taken care of there. It sounds like you all want what is best for her and hopefully she can accept that, even if she can't fully understand all the whys. You will be in my prayers.
    1964 days ago
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