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What is Indulgence?

Thursday, January 03, 2013

Ever notice how those of us with weight issues always think of "indulgence" in terms of food? My intuitively normal sister doesn't. For her, indulgence is sleeping in, or having an hour to read a book. For some it's enough hot water to take a long hot shower. Or a massage. For me, it's food.

But it doesn't have to be foods I shouldn't eat. I will always think of food as reward and comfort, as pleasure and indulgence, but I have altered the concept of "indulgence" to mean a special version of foods I can have, formerly known in WW as "legal". Sometimes I'll use a fat exchange as a small piece of bacon with my egg. Or take the time to simmer that wonderful tomato sauce. Or, indulgence of indulgences, 3 oz of filet mignon instead of ground beef.

Jean Nidetch used to talk about how much thought and creativity went into being fat, how she had to select the lounge chair closest to the pool to shorten the distance between dropping the wrap and being in the water. How carefully she had to select her hat and necklace to draw eyes to her face and away from her body. That same creativity can go into selecting food.

They say that a simple change in attitude changes everything. Simple? HAH! But we change our attitudes about a lot of things, like in-laws and technology, even home decoration. And we can do it about food. I will always think of food first, but indulgence doesn't have to mean whipped cream. It can mean lobster tail or lamb chops. I can feel totally indulged and still be "legal".
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  • no profile photo CD9743971
    An OCCASIONAL indulgence is a good thing. I always remember that the first three letters of diet are DIE. SP is a lifestyle change, not a miserable diet.
    2841 days ago
    Fresh raspberries all year round: yup, huge indulgence (especially at $4 a pint).

    Cheaper than kettle chips. In more ways than one.

    Great great blog: and thanks for your comment on my craves and faves blog!.
    2850 days ago
    Many wonderful indulgences await us in life. How about skiing on a sunny day? And a hot tub after? Thanks for the reframing.
    2851 days ago
    emoticon blog!
    2852 days ago
    or dream topping the indulgence of whip cream with less fat and calories, me though indulgence is being able to iron in peace without interuptions or a bubble bath in peace without interuptions.lets face it anything without interuption would be an indulgence,lol. emoticon blog by the way love. emoticon
    2852 days ago
    Being selective. Hmmmm. It's making me realize that I'm a "catch-as-catch-can" person in many areas. Even in my reading. I know that I can check books reviews or friends' opinions including friends on Spark, but...Oh, No!...I must be "intuitive" and "live in the moment" and be independent, often ending up with books from the library that I don't read.
    It's fun being helter skelter! Oh, yeah. So, where has this attitude taken me? To a disorganized life, in many people at the last minute instead of making a plan-ahead coffee meeting. And how does that work? It doesn't! Now they are doing the same to me. They're calling ME at the last minute and I'm beginning to resent it.
    This ties in with eating habits because I DON'T PLAN and end up grabbing whatever is around or grab something just before I get to the cashier and that's often JUNK.
    You've shown me and others, Nell, that we are all worth more than that PLUS we can have a good life by using our brains, knowing our weaknesses and playing to our strengths.
    Sorry to go on and on. Your blogs always inspire though I've yet to embrace your messages. If I was rich, I'd hire your for three months!!! Happy New Year!!! Sandra
    2852 days ago
    Nell, since you have kept your weight off for decades, it's eye-opening to read that you still struggle with food. My rail-thin trainer was surprised yesterday when I mentioned stories I've read of people who kept weight off for two years or more and then gained it back. "You'd think they'd have developed better habits in all that time," she commented. Maybe, but I had just blurted out that I was starting to feel deprived because I wanted to eat a big ol' buffet lunch of Chinese food, and I realized that I had just thought of such a lunch as "normal" eating. Where did that come from? So, while I don't wish torment for you, it's reassuring to know I'm not alone in this struggle that will probably last the rest of my Foodie life.
    2852 days ago
    Hmm, smoked salmon is one of the indulgences I will put on my list...good blog, need to think about it for a while!
    2852 days ago
    I think of food and non food indulgences - going to a morning movie in the middle of the week for example is to me a delicious indulgence!
    And I have a taste indulgence every day (and track it and keep within my range in anticipation of it) - one block of really good dark chocolate (at the moment have ferrero rocher noir box and so look forward to my one every night that it motivates me to make sure I still have enough in my calorie allowance to indulge)
    2852 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Awesome Blog!!! I will Agree with You Too. God Bless You and Have a Terrific Day. Take Care.
    2852 days ago
    very true great way to put it though I prefer ground beef to steak but that's me
    2852 days ago
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  • TEDYBEAR2838
    I agree also! emoticon
    2853 days ago
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    2853 days ago
    I totally agree! I don't think having an indulgence means that we have to go off plan. I love experimenting with healthy recipes that are satisfying and taste great without breaking my calorie bank. It definitely keeps me even more motivated like I can really keep up my healthy lifestyle changes permanently.
    2853 days ago
    2853 days ago
    Mmmmm, filet mignon! emoticon
    2853 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3876543
    Great point. And more and more I'm starting to think of non-food indulgences as ways to help me stay on track. For example, reading a great book, watching a movie, seeing a friend - all indulgences when I'm generally so busy and harried.
    2853 days ago
    Your blog makes sense to me. I often swap foods for something that I haven't had it a long time.
    2853 days ago
    great blog. love it emoticon
    2853 days ago
  • BELLAMEMAW've given me something to think about; thank you!
    2853 days ago
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