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Learning to Treat Myself Well Again

Wednesday, January 02, 2013

Hi everyone! I hope your holidays were happy and that you are looking forward to a wonderful 2013. I sure am.

I'm not going to lie. The last part of 2012 (going back to work full-time) was a huge adjustment for me, and I struggled to make time for myself. That needs to change. We were also really sick for most of the season. Tomorrow we take Keira to the ear nose and throat doctor to talk about getting tubes to help with her ears. I can't wait to finally have a solution.

Becoming a mom for the first time is a wonderful thing and I love my family, but for someone who has always been independent and as an only child accustomed to "alone time" it can be difficult at times. It's also hard when you don't have support of from your parents. I need to accept that and stop being resentful.

So I just wanted to say hi to everyone and make a commitment to myself again and getting back in shape and learning how to love myself more. I have been falling victim to a lot of negative self-talk lately. I'm happy that I haven't gained any weight since my whirlwind autumn, but I still need to lose 50 lbs to get back to where I was in 2010.
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    Have you talked with your parents? Perhaps having them maybe watch the baby for a hour while you exercise. I know my mom and dad will watch my girl now that she is older 1 1/2 yrs of age. I think they are easier and less clingy. I am so with you! on finding me time.
    1945 days ago
  • ROCKMAN6797
    1961 days ago
    Nice to see you back....and I hope you had a wonderful New Years! I don't know how working mom's do it....all of it.... I can barely manage to get my butt to the gym and all I have to do is manage myself. So...kudos/congrats/hugs/whatever..
    ..work on that alone/me/exercise time and the balance thing...and make it work for you (all of you!)

    Happy 2014!
    1965 days ago
    Can't to wait to see you back in 2013! Don't let negative family get you down on yourself. I used to let that effect me. I knew certain relationships and feelings made me behave badly and hurt myself. You're a wonderful, beautiful, strong woman and mom. You deserve all the happiness in the world!

    1965 days ago
  • ALOFA0509
    Happy New Year sista!!!! Making time for you is number one, balancing that "Me" time is tricky,, but dam is sooo worth it. Peace, Love, and Happiness 2013!!!
    1966 days ago
    Happy New Year Babe! Glad to see you back on the Spark - will send you some of my torch to help relight yours! You absolutely got this! No, it won't be easy - but it will be SO WORTH IT!
    1966 days ago
    Hiiii! Keira is gorgeous, just like her mama. well done!

    I hope you can find some much-deserved you time!! We'll be here, if you need us :)

    To a wonderful 2013!
    1966 days ago
    You're a wonderful mom! Such a beautiful family!
    1966 days ago
    You're in a great place right now; eliminating negative self-talk and loving yourself more is where it's at!!

    1966 days ago
    Happy New Year! You know you can do it just take it one day at a time!!
    1966 days ago
    Happy New Year to you and your family as well! It's a balancing act for sure and the first year is all about adjustments. You will get there! One day at a time, one goal at a time, you will do it! I'm in the "same boat" different reasons but we can all cheer each other on and we will all meet our goals!
    1966 days ago
    yup yup....even Jillian Michael's has made comments of how much harder it was than she had realized with kids. Balance. You'll find it!!
    1966 days ago
    1967 days ago
  • FREES1
    Happy New Year to you and yours too... it is tough to find 'me time' and it, as you know, is really important to do (and if one has the time to use it creatively rather than vegging)... its too bad that your parents aren't giving the support you wish they'd give and its good that you can accept that without resenting them as that resentment would only be hurtful to you - for whatever their reasons might be they are valid to them - Once Keira's older she can learn to give you that time and hopefully in the meantime you can find it now and again...
    Good luck getting your mojo back - I feel confident you will..
    Have a happy and hang in there
    1967 days ago
    It is hard to have 'you time' with kiddos.. I've made time to workout during the day at work and have found the drive to and from work can be nice alone time too. Hope you find the right balance for yourself! May 2013 be a healthy and great year for you and your family!
    1967 days ago
    Happy New Year to you as well! Oh we went through the same thing with our DD's ears. We finally had tubes put in and the infections stopped. I wish we had done it sooner as all of the antibiotics did a number on the enamel on her teeth. She has a beautiful smile (just very thin enamel). I don't even know how many bottles of "pink" amoxicyllin we went through. GRRR

    Blessings to you and your family in 2013 hun!

    1967 days ago
    I am in the same place that you are! It's so much harder when you have a young child and no support. My family lives 900 miles away, my husband works nights, and I work days, and we split child care. So we barely see each other, and my "alone" time after she goes to bed at night, is trying to fit about 4 hours of house work into two! I wrote a blog today about "Valid Excuses" but having to try and find a way to do it anyway.
    1967 days ago
    I know we're trained to think it's selfish, but everyone needs to make time for themselves. We're all better for it!

    1967 days ago
    Just remember, baby steps. This isn't an all or nothing lifestyle.

    Pick one little thing - maybe 10 minutes that you can sit down and journal - and when that becomes a routine for your household, try another little thing. Just keep building on that and eventually you will be back into the groove.


    1967 days ago
  • AWOLF24
    Yea to a fantastic 2013!!! You are worth it and I am worth it and I totally agree! emoticon

    I hope tubes help for your daughter. They were great for my older son back when he was 2 1/2, and we are back to thinking about them for my 18 month old son now...he is on his 3rd ear infection since starting day care in October, so I completely understand. Good luck with that!
    1967 days ago
    Yayyy! My heart gets all happy when I see a blog from you, K! :D Happy 2013 to you and the fam. *Cringes*- no alone time?! You are not selling this "pop a baby out, already!" like the rest of mine and Mike's family is trying to tell us every.single.day. ;-) We are pretty much the same person, so I fear I would have the same issues.

    Anyway, that's not the point! The point is that I am happy to see you here, and I know that you can do this, you just have to re-believe, and make time for YOURSELF! YOU deserve it, but it is also up to you to ask for help(which is OK!), and ask for a little ME TIME to get your ish done! I am only a text or call away if you need an extra cheerleader or an @$$ beating- you know this! Maybe we can get a challenge going? Fitness minutes? % lost? pounds lost? I don't know. I'm bad at brainstorming that kind of stuff, but if you think of something interesting and wanna get down, let me know!

    xoxoxoxoxo love you girl!!!
    1967 days ago
    Happy New Year!

    You are RIGHT on all fronts here- take care of you and the rest will be okay :-)

    I don't get help from my Mom either- it's okay. She raised me, did her best- it's not like some kind of right of mine to have her help me.. that's how I see it. I know it seems unfair, but you are tougher for it!

    Like Sharon said- you did it before. You got it in you- you can do this!
    1967 days ago
    I am right there with you.... Lets make 2013 the best year yet!

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    1967 days ago
    You can do it! :D No, really, you did it before, you can do it again. No one is more important to you than YOU! You can't be a good wife, mother and employee if you don't take care of yourself first.


    Happy new year!
    1967 days ago
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