The Ego, The Villain, Our Hero, The Essence
Wednesday, January 02, 2013
My name is Marion Peters-Jaraway. You all know aka NOMORESTALLING and for most of my life, I've had a really wacky relationship with food. I've lost track of how many times I've tried and failed at most of the diets out there on the market, gained and lost hundreds of pounds, kept at least four or five different sizes of clothing in my closet, and felt tremendous shame and sadness about my relationship with food and inability to keep my weight in line. Now, after following the inquiry process that I've been sharing with you all and chronicled along the way and training myself to go on this same thought path, I'm losing without worry or effort and I know I'll never gain the weight back. Why? Because I can't. I don't think about food the way I used to anymore and if I don't think about it, I have no desire for it and if I don't desire it, I won't eat too much of it, and I won't gain weight.
I really want to commend you for embarking on this journey with me. It is a courageous choice to change habits that have caused you to suffer. I call it the hero's journey. As we venture forth together, we will uplift each other and yourself and everyone else around you. It is a truly courageous and generous act to embrace your own growth and evolution. This is a spiritual journey as well as a physical that will lead in the direction of true happiness and deeper into the cave of your own hearts.
Without further ado, let's get started.
Here is the wonderful news I want to share with you! Yes, it is possible to be free from obsession with food and body-weight! It is possible to live without worrying about what you will eat next, whether it will make you fat, or whether you'll have the willpower to eat in a way that keeps you from busting out of your jeans.
No matter how long we've been struggling with food, we don't have to take our eating, weight, and body image issues to our graves. We can be free of them for good. All you have to do is follow The 3 Steps to Incredible Health and Weightloss by Learning to Eat to Live!
But first let's learn to incorporate these five essential steps sent to me by Laura Katleman-Prue, into our daily routine. All it takes is five minutes a day. I think we can find five minutes a day don't you?
The Ego and Essence in the Battle of the Bulge
The epic battle enacted under the guise of the battle of the bulge is the struggle between the ego, that negative chatterbox in our heads, and Essence, the spark of divinity within each of us. It's the suffering caused by this battle that moves us to break free from our unconscious patterns and conditioning and instead live in our natural state of Essence. In this state, we experience the peace and joy available in each moment and that can never be taken from us. This is the battle: resistance versus acceptance; the ego versus Essence; self-delusion versus the evolutionary impulse for Truth; the ego's small sliver of truth about food and the body rather than the whole picture.
In our struggles with overweight, the ego in the form of the Relentless Critic is the judgmental voice inside our head, berating the way our body looks, telling us: "You're too fat." "Your legs are too skinny." "You're out of shape." "You'll never attract the kind of relationship you want unless you get into better shape."
When it comes to food, the ego, in the form of the Pleasure-Seeking Child, causes us to gain weight by telling us things like: "You've been working so hard and deserve a slice or two or three of cheesecake." "You should live a little and give yourself a treat." "Eating a bit more won't hurt even though you're already full." "You've had a lousy day, so why not make yourself feel better with a little Pleasure Food?" "Indulge now and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow."
Now that we've seen the villain in our story, it's time to meet our hero. Essence is our true self, what we were before we started listening to and believing in the ego. It's that internal place of calm and serenity that we've all visited in moments when the mind is quiet. Think back to a time when you've felt completely at peace. That delicious feeling is Essence. Even though we may not be aware of this consciously, each of us touches into it every day!
Connecting with Essence means entering the thought-free state. Although meditation is the most common way to move out of the mind, it can happen anywhere, anytime, as long as we're not caught up in thoughts or feelings. We can be noticing the clock on the wall, the leaf floating in the breeze, or our hand as we turn the page.
Any information that comes to us from the senses, unfiltered by thoughts, takes us to Essence. If we are to break the habit of listening to the negative mind, the habit that's responsible for our food issues, we have to cultivate a new habit of moving into the thought-free state, ideally for at least 10-15 minutes every day.