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Monday, December 31, 2012

Dad's in the hospital still. Hospital wants him out. We're not filthy rich. He never filed any sort of power of attorney or other similar end of life paperwork. (note to self: do this!! SOON!).

The "wife" may not really be legally his wife....

The "girlfriend" is very helpful because she's been like the keeper of Dad's secrets the past 18 years or so. For a variety of reasons they never married...(different drama and not mine really to discuss.). But the "wife" of course is still carrying her baggage and anger towards the "girlfriend" and so is not helpful. Actually seems to be a bit bi-polar? or passive aggressive? she's on SSI disability - and so girlfriend and I wonder if she's angling to try to get my dad's Social Security death benefits... even though she admits she has not lived with him in over two years so even by "common-law" standards in Texas, that still wouldn't be considered "together" or "a couple." And his Food Stamps eligibility case was filed as single person. Hmmm She's not trying to manipulate the system, is she??

So it's a stinky mess.

I'm going to bed.
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    Oh woweee. Life er people can be complicated praying for a resoultion for your situation and get some rest too emoticon
    1970 days ago
    Julia I'm sorry things are so complicated. Good thing for your dad that he has a strong, smart advocate in you.
    1971 days ago
  • M77355
    I'm praying for restoration, peace and clarity for you ... you're juggling so much and want you to to rest in God's care while you calmly discern each step.
    You're a very special lady to me and hoping for the best outcome.
    1971 days ago
    My goodness. I hope things get worked out for the better sooner rather than later. Keep your chin up!
    1972 days ago
    Lord God, be with your Daughter as she struggles through making decisions...made especially hard with business offices being closed for the New Year celebration.
    Give her wisdom and strength as she moves through this week. Amen
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    1972 days ago
    Awwwww, hugs and prayers. It's so difficult to go thru such emotional upheaval . . . exhausting! Why people want to be so nasty towards one another I just don't understand.

    Prayers that things get sorted out. **SIGH**
    1972 days ago
  • JESSIKA_56
    Sorry times are so tough. emoticon Praying for you and the family.
    1972 days ago
    Sounds like you have your hands full. There is a lot of information on the web about SS and who gets what. It's pretty straight forward. Anyone he was legally married to has claim, even if they are estranged and/or divorced. Wishing you a happy, easier new year!! You deserve it!!
    1972 days ago
  • AWOOD1973
    Oh my... Sounds like you just got handed a big, big mess. Sorry for you having to deal with all of this. You are right tho, lesson learned when it comes to making sure you have all of your affairs in order for "that" time. Take care... emoticon
    1972 days ago
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