Dating a Non-sparker

Saturday, December 29, 2012

I have found a man that I have many things in common with (our jobs, political views, faith, sense of humor, and most importantly... our choices in movies) BUT he does not workout. Actually, it is worse than that... he also does not enjoy fitness, he doesn't know anything about nutrition, and he does not entertain me when I talk about it. Fitness and dieting is also becoming a sore subject in our conversations. Which is a hard topic to avoid since it is something I'm excited and passionate about.

Even worse, our dating is beginning to interfere with my fitness goals. I'm having a hard time sticking to my running program, because when I explain that I have to be home in time to run on my treadmill, he does not "get it". When I order a salad at dinner, or ask to split an entrée, he does not understand why. He thinks that anyone who is that committed to their health is "vain".

Does anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with sticking to your personal comittments without alienating your date or looking "vain"?

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    Your health and fitness need to be a priority - for you and him. The body and mind you have now is the one you'll always have and it's up to you to take care of it. Whoever you are in a relationship with needs to understand how important health and fitness are to you, and share that with you.

    My opinion? Next!

    Someone out there is looking for a woman with your priorities....
    1940 days ago
    This is why for me, I refuse to date men who don't live a healthy lifestyle, and I make it perfectly clear in all of my online dating profiles. Anyone who doesn't support my healthy food and exercise choices is not worthy of my time or energy, because I worked too hard to lose the weight, and I want to keep my new body!
    1941 days ago
    I'm certainly not one of those women who date jerks. I'm very selective and picky about most men that ask me out. Since my divorce (two years ago) this is the first man I've dated more than once. He is a nice man, not abusive in any way.... I just notice that if we get serious, this is not a part of my life that he will want to share. This limits how much time we could spend together, where we could eat, hobbies we wont share. I feel I'm just too old to compromise on those things anymore.

    Maybe it is selfish to expect a partner to want to workout with me, cook with me, get excited about fitness with me. But, I feel that's what I'm looking for.
    1942 days ago
    He sounds like the man of your dreams in your first sentence.....

    but by the end of your blog I'm thinking "dump him - this man doesn't care about you"

    Where men are concerned, it is better to be alone than with someone who isn't right for you....

    1942 days ago
    Sounds like you need to decide which is more important, your life and health or dating this guy. There is nothing more basic than how you treat your body, his comments border on an abusive attitude and I'd run for the hills! Wishing you the best emoticon
    1942 days ago
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