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Saturday, December 22, 2012

ACCM: December 22, 2012

Christmas and Deceased Relatives

Did your family visit the cemetery at Christmas? How did your family honor deceased family members at Christmas?


1. My family visited the cemeteries where ancestors were buried every holiday. I can't remember doing so at Christmas, though. That's not to say they didn't, I simply cannot remember.

2. There have been several ways we honor our deceased at Christmas time. Since Bob and I have been married, we always get luminaries that line the waterfront for the Christmas program that is done each year. We usually get four - one for my parents, one for his, and one for each of families in general. Mine says my dad and mom family names just as Bob 's says his dad and mom family names. Sometimes I'll order poinsettias for the altar at church in memory of my family members who were members there. The Christmas after my dad died, my mom gave money to the Criminal Justice ASsociation at Kent State University where i was a student. it was to be used for a scholarship for a student majoring in criminal justice/law enforcement. The students voted to name the scholarship in his honor because he had been a deputy sheriff in the county and the money that enabled them to give the very first scholarship from the Association. The Christmas after our mom died, we donated the children's books to the Head Start in our community in her memory. I was invited to attend the community program and make an official donation of them. Then in January, I was invited back to read some of them to the students. I really enjoyed doing that. I believe both of my parents would have been very honored by these. My mom especially would have grinned from ear to ear to know this was done in her memory. Education was very important to both of them, but it was also my mother's career field. She loved teaching! The only things she loved more was her family and children, and of course her faith.

These are some of the ways we have honored our ancestors during the holiday season.


Do you have ways of remembering your family members who are deceased? Tell us about them, please. I am really enjoying the memories that you draw when you read some of mine from the Christmas season.


The weather remained cooler her in NE FL today. Tonight may go to 32 degrees F, but they are predicting 34. Bob is still going to cover the orange tree, just in case. He has tried to grow so many and each time they are near producing fruit, there is a freeze that kills them off. I'm hoping this year will be different. The major tree is in the front yard and was a gift from the young man across the street. He is such a good kid. He calls Bob "grandpa".


Enjoy your weekend and the joy that Christmas brings. The gift that God gave us that first Christmas was the most wonderful gift of all - His son. It is this "gift" that we are celebrating this week. No matter what you do to celebrate - whether it is quiet family time or busy, noisy family/fried time, remember to do several things. Get enough rest, make the best choices you can, treat yourself with non-food treats, take pride in helping others feel good, and as always, smile.

My love to each of you. You are the best!!

Peace Love Joy


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    We remember our deceased but really don't do much to honor them. I guess our thought is that they are really in heaven and not here on the earth...we were taught not to mourn but to celebrate.
    2005 days ago
    Great blog Ev!
    2006 days ago
    WE don;t visit the graves for any holidays, but every year or two my mom and i go out and clean the graves stones. We did it this summer. It is important to her to do this every few years. I suppose I will continue it as the years go on as i know where they are, but if I don't it isn't something that will keep me awake at night.
    My mom and I usually have some nice visits during the cleaning sessions, as she will recall memories of these relatives. Some I never knew, great grandparents, and others I was too young to really know and barely remember.

    The one grave we have not gone to is my Dad's grave at Ft. Snelling. I have thought about locating it, and never done so. My Mom has never asked to go see it. In a way I want to, and in another way I don't want to. Maybe I am just not ready for that yet, even thought it has been 12 years since he passed away.
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    Nice to read but nothing to add. We never went to graves, in fact few Knew where they were buried, I know my Mother and stepfather, And we know DH parents but they are the only ones we know .
    Thanks EV. I love the inspirations you give to others with this. It brings people out of their shell sometimes.
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    Pat in Maine.
    2006 days ago
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    2006 days ago
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