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Treat Yourself Like a Friend

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

If you and a friend were on this weight loss journey together, what would you say to your friend if they fell off the wagon? Would you tell them that they were stupid and useless. Would you tell them they were fat and they would always be fat because they had no self control. Would you call them lazy, and even worse names? Of course you wouldn't, they are your friend. You want them to be healthy. You want them to succeed. You would tell them to get back on the wagon, that they were worth it, and that they could do any thing they set their mind to. Right?

So why is it when we fall of the wagon, we treat ourselves so badly. We tell ourselves all of these negative things. We beat up on ourselves to a point where we have no self esteem left.

Although there are probably many reasons that people do this, I think my reason for engaging in this negative self-talk is to use it as an excuse for not trying. By saying I am not worth it, it gives me permission to eat anything I want and to not exercise. If I have learned anything on this journey it is that I must treat myself at least as well as I would a friend. A friend who cares about my friends health and well-being and wants only the best for that person.

Treat yourself like a friend.
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  • TKA54321
    Great advice. I especially like your analysis - that saying that we're not worth it or incapable of doing something gives us permission to let go and give up.

    I think I have been (very) guilty of that before.

    Your story is inspiring! Well done :-)
    1530 days ago
  • 3016DEBRA
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    1958 days ago
    This is excellent advice and a great attitude to live life by.

    Love yourself and treat yourself the way that you treat your friends.

    I really like this. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1959 days ago
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