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Comparing me & you

Monday, December 10, 2012

This very day, I overheard one preschooler momma say to another, “thank you for the Mickey Mouse cake you made for our daughter’s birthday party! It was so nice, how did you make the icing so smooth?” As the momma's discussed the secret of icy smooth frosting, I began asking myself as I sat in the school hallway waiting for one of my children in that same class, "why don’t I have a stay-at-home business like her since I’m home with my kids? What can I do? This momma makes cakes, the other one is a photographer …what am I?" An awful sinking feeling erupted in my stomach and my eyes felt heavy and downcast. I'M SUCH A LOSER!

Then God reminded me within this very morning, that I have businesses that I’ve put on hold because of recent health struggles. I earned my B.S. in recreational therapy. I have been trained as a reflexololgy and body alignment practitioner. I earned my certification as a holistic health coach. But after having 3 babies in 4 years, I’m struggling to put it all together–my life, my home, my kids, my sleep habits, and in the midst of it all, my body is screaming at me! Fibroids! Cysts! Fatigue! So, here I am, comparing myself one moment, and in the next I’m “slathering myself with grace” as you call it.

The gifts and qualifications I have are still very much like a “lady in waiting”, just given the right God-appointed time and I will have the chance to continue serving others with those gifts. Until that time, I am resting, waiting and healing in Jesus’ name as He strengthens my body & spirit with His word; and I am committed to helpful food choices, gentle exercise and right living. Who am I to compare myself with others? In this I have sinned, for I am fearfully & wonderfully made.

Comparing ourselves to others can cause a stomach reflex, that sinking feeling, that brings us down a few notches in an instant. When that happens to you, what are your strategies for turning off the "noise"?

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  • DS9KIE
    You the Mom, is saying you don't have a job when the fact is you do have a job raising three kids (actually its 3 jobs) so just keep up the job of raising your kids its the best, tiring, wonderful,` thankless, rewarding job (that never ends, no wonder your tired) And you think your not doing much until one of your kids comes up to you and says something and then you remember why your here emoticon
    2015 days ago
    As mother's we can be so hard on ourselves. I heard a wonderful quote from a speaker in MOPS last year, "Don't compare your private self, with everyone else's public self"

    I remind myself of this often as I start to wonder why it seems like some moms can do it all. They can't really do it all either. We all have different times and different areas we excel in, and we tend to try to put our best stuff out there and "hide" all of our weaknesses.

    There will be a time for your career. Maybe now is the time, but clearly you have been doing much more important things. Caring for babies is a wonderful, but exhausting and fleating time. Also caring for yourself and health -vitally important. We all know we can't properly care for others unless we take care of ourselves as well.

    I'm so happy that you caught yourself and "slathered yourself with grace" We all should be so giving of grace to ourselves and other mothers.

    I love reflexology. I wish we lived closer.
    2015 days ago
    My neighbor brought homemade cookies over and my DH exclaimed how delicious they look and are his favorites. I made a s'mores brownie dessert earlier in the day and DH said it was too sweet. I try to reinforce my mind that I can make a pig stomach which is a talent in it self. I try to slow down and "think" about my next move. I do have to improve on my listening skills as my DH says I don't listen which is totally demeaning to me in the way he states the issue. If he only knew that sometimes he doesn't listen either. I'm trying to not point the finger at certain people/issues which I have relatively no control over. I have alot of mental improvement to accomplish.
    Thanks for your blog. I'm working on my strategies.
    Bless you emoticon
    2016 days ago
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