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I am feeling pretty low

Thursday, December 06, 2012

Hubby and I went to a job fair and had a good interview. We were feeling so positive about the experience. We recieved an email today that said that company is no longer considering us and it's because of my references. I have a former supervisor who apparently has it in for me even though I no longer work for him. I don't want to go into it, but I left my last job on bad conditions not entirely my fault. I really hate to even write this job on my job history but I feel that with the internet, employers will find out about it anyway and then I'm damned because I left it off (it was only 6 months' employment). I took a job I wasn't qualified to do and did it as best I could under enormous stress and ended up getting terminated prior to the end of my 90-day trial time. Do you think I should just eliminate this job from my history and hope for the best? I have decided that I am going to eliminate this recommendation from my profile at least before it does further harm. I just feel like crying. I've made a few mistakes in life, but nothing criminal or really disgraceful and now I can't find a job. Trying to keep it together, but feel so blue.

On the positive side, Wii Fit says I've lost weight so that's good. Wish my scales concurred. These scales must not be very reliable.
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  • BECCABOO127
    emoticon So sorry you are blue. The other commentors left some really good comments. Just move forward, and put this behind you. You can do it! You will get another job, and one that is just right for you.

    WTG on your Wii accomplishments!
    2050 days ago
  • PATRICIAANN46
    I am sorry to hear of your problems with this negative reference. I would definitely leave him off of your reference list because of the short amount of time you were in this job. I hope that things began to look up for you and that you find a job that you love VERY SOON. emoticon
    2050 days ago
  • MYTHMYTH
    In my job, I am responsible for advising new teachers regarding their resumes and the job search process, I realize that you are in a different field, but perhaps this advice will help anyway. First, consider yourself lucky that you know exactly why you didn't get the job you had applied for ! You now know, without a doubt, that you should not use that person as a reference. My general advice is to never ask anyone to be a reference for you unless you are pretty sure that you know what they will say. Also, if you have been out of touch with some of your references for a bit, let them know that you are in the job market again and it's also good to let your references know if they might be hearing from someone - this primes them to be ready to say something positive about you - rather than a few moments of silence while they gather their thoughts. Second, if you are quite sure that employers will find out about the job anyway, then you'd better keep it on your resume. You might ask a friend to do a google search on you and see what comes up. If it shows, you are risking too much to leave it off. Third, you need to be ready to explain any gaps in employment and also any reasons that you have for not providing references for your most recent employment - it's not a bad idea to practice exactly what you are going to say. Good luck!
    Jane
    2050 days ago
  • JESSIG5
    I once read that jobs of less than 90 days should be omitted because they are trial periods, not only for the company but also the employee. Sometimes a job is just not a good fit for either one or the other.

    Try to stay positive.
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    2050 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    You were honest. You did nothing wrong. Plenty of people are in the same boat. Yes, omit the job. Do not use this person as a reference. Only use references that will help you. This job wasn't meant to be. You are learning. Just keep going forward. Think about creating your own job. Everyone makes mistakes. It happened, learn from it and move on. Forgive yourself because you are a good person and only deserve good things. Here's the link for the test I was telling you about. I think once you learn more about yourself it may help explain things - please just a suggestion.

    http://standout.tmbc.com/gu
    i/soIndividual

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    2050 days ago
  • MOONSTORMER
    emoticon i would definitely leave it off - not a long enough time period for them to really care anyway. it's not like you're leaving off a job you did for 2 years!

    the wiifit scale is actually very accurate - they did tests and stuff and it's really good. the inaccuracies come in if you're using it on uneven surfaces or changing from hard flooring to carpeting.

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    2051 days ago
  • DETERMINEDJANET
    I totally agree with this: I would leave it off the resume, and if a future interviewer mentions the gap in employment, then you can mention that you tried this position, but found it wasn't a good fit for you, so you left before the trial period was over.

    Hugs!!!


    2051 days ago
  • KALANTHA
    I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time.

    I don't think it would matter if you left it off since you weren't even there through your probaionary period, especially if your previous employment was more positive.

    Keep trying and when the right job comes along, you'll know it.

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    2051 days ago
  • NOTSOFLUFFYDAD
    You keep hanging in there!! In some states, you can file a report with the dept of labor and industries for a previous employer blackballing you.
    2051 days ago
  • BARBARASDIET
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    2051 days ago
  • MNTWINSGAL
    I'm so sorry this happened to you. Hang in there and don't let it get you down! I would leave it off the resume, and if a future interviewer mentions the gap in employment, then you can mention that you tried this position, but found it wasn't a good fit for you, so you left before the trial period was over. No need to mention the supervisor's name. My bet is that they won't ask anyway.

    I'm still job-searching too....sometimes it's discouraging, but I try to look at the positive side. I know something is out there for me, and eventually I'll find it. And you'll find yours too!
    2051 days ago
  • DETERMINED_ME
    Because you didn't even make it through your trial time, I would definitely leave that job off the resume. No point in having it there as the other party didn't even really get the chance to know who you are. I'm sorry you did not get this job, it's shame that people say mean things to hurt others.
    2051 days ago
  • IAMRADIOGEEK
    Take it off of there and don't look back. You will find a job...just keep plugging away, and good job on your Wii Fit-ing!
    2051 days ago
  • ALISHAB3
    Leave the job on your history, never list that individual as a reference or recommendation again.
    2051 days ago
  • LOSINIT52
    Sorry about the interview. I would most definitely leave it off my resume. Keep your chin up and the right job will come along.
    2051 days ago
  • VIXLADYFOX
    YES!!!! 6 months makes no difference if you leave it off.......but a HUGE difference if you add it and it's negative. Don't let it make you cry again.....it already did that when it happened. Live and learn right? :) emoticon
    2051 days ago
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