Looking for Advice About My Teenage Daughter

I have a 17 y-o daughter who is a senior in high school. She is a straight-A student who has aspirations of becoming a pastry chef by way of attending Le Cordon Bleu Culinary Institute after she graduates from high school. She's a good kid who never gives us any problems.

She's been dating this guy for about five months who is really kind of a loser, for lack of a better way to put it. He dropped out of school during his junior year and decided to get his GED. He currently lives at home with his Mom and has no job and does nothing but sleep til 2:00 in the afternoon and play X-Box with his friends. He never takes my daughter anywhere nice on a date, they always just hang out at his house.

My husband has kept quiet about it as long as he can and decided today was the day he wants to talk with our daughter about him. He brought it up with me at lunch and said he wanted to talk to her. I told him he should tread very lightly because she might get her feelings hurt if she thinks we don't like her boyfriend. My husband is ready to tell her that she can't hang out with him unless they are at our house until he gets a job. That will not go over well.

We plan on talking to her tonight. I am looking for advice on what to say to her or how to put it so she doesn't get upset. I don't want her to rebel on us and decide we are against her (we're not!!). I am ready for feedback...