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Sitting In Mom's Hospital Room

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

Sitting In The Hospital Room...lights turned out, listening to my Mom's breathing as she sleeps. It could almost be relaxing if it hadn't been such a nerve-racking day.

My Mom had a hip pinning surgery scheduled today. Earlier this week, she had a spontaneous fracture in her hip -- meaning she did not fall or anything, it just fractured / cracked. Although the surgeon was set to go and said the procedure itself was simple enough, when her team of doctors met (after reviewing latest chest xray), they decided to cancel the surgery altogether. Permanently.

She has several other health issues that have worsened, and the combination makes the surgery entirely too risky. The doctor actually said it would have been "surgery suicide".

We won't have the final recommendations for a couple days; but, it seems they will suggest some form of physical therapy and pain management. Luckily she currently has little pain; as long as she keeps weight off her right hip that is. But, I'm afraid her days of easily using her walker are over.

At times like this, I feel lucky to come from such a large family -- I have 9 siblings. There are plenty of us to help Mom. (Although, sometimes I think the doctors and nurses may wish that they had fewer of us to deal with. )

Tonight, I am taking the first overnight shift to stay here with Mom. She doesn't really like to stay alone and we'd rather be here to watch over her too. I hope she can sleep well.

I guess that's the end of my sad blog. Just thought a little journaling would help.

Good night Sparkers.
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  • _VALEO_
    Hope your Mom is doing better now. You seem to have a wonderful supportive family, and thankfully she is well looked after.
    2016 days ago
    So sorry to hear about your Mom - it is a very emotional time for you, your Mom, and your siblings. She is blessed to have such a wonderful family who are devoted to caring for her. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all during this time and I hope that with bed rest you Mom will be able to achieve some mobility again.
    2019 days ago
    You are very fortunate to have such a large and supportive family. I know how stressful it must be for all of you to see your Mom in the hospital. I will keep your Mom in my prayers and you as well.
    2019 days ago
    I am just reading this now, and hope your mom had a better day today, and also that you got some sleep. I'm glad you have so many siblings for support at a time like this.

    2021 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/5/2012 6:36:39 PM
    2021 days ago
    Hi Merle I'm very sorry your mom isn't feeling her best right now...but I'm sure the doctors know what's best at this time who knows things may change I certainly hope and pray that they will for her....I'm glad you have such a large group of siblings at this time you all need each other right now...Mom is truly blessed to have such wonderful kids in her time of need God bless you and your mom Merle....Praying for your both emoticon

    2021 days ago
    emoticon for all your comments. Each and everyone of you has contributed to this being a better day.

    2021 days ago
    So sorry about your mom. At least you have siblings helping you. emoticon
    2021 days ago
    Keeping your family and mom in prayer. emoticon emoticon
    2021 days ago
    2021 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your Mom, Merle. She is lucky to have you and your siblings to watch over her. Take care. emoticon
    2021 days ago
  • BRIAN36
    I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I know how much you enjoy spending time with her. I suppose you could think of this as just another venue.

    Now that I'm an only child and my parents are in their 70s and not the best of health, I certainly don't look forward to what the future holds for me in that facet of my life. I try not to let my mind wander in that direction...
    2021 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. I hope she feels better soon and that they are able to find the best solution for her problem.
    2021 days ago
    I'm sorry about your Mom. Your comment about siblings was meaningful to me. I'm an only child and at the end of Mom's life I said that this was the only time I ever missed having siblings. All decisions etc were mine alone. It was a difficult place to be. Take care of yourself too.
    2021 days ago
    My prayers are with you!
    2021 days ago
  • MATER88
    I guess you could say it was a sad blog. But looking at it another way, all of you are truly blessed. Well, maybe not the doctors. My sister and I have both moved as far away from our mother as possible. We won't want to come when we have to. It is so sad that so many hurts (deep ones) from our childhood cause us to stay away. But I got the best Christmas present last week. We now live about two miles from our daughter, son-in-law, and oldest granddaughter. We were at her house and she just suddenly said "I'm so glad you live here." And our son is busily trying to make plans for us to fly to them since we couldn't go in October as planned because of my surgery. I am truly blessed. And so is your mother. Does she know the number of times you have updated your status to say you are spending time with her and how great it is? If you haven't you should.
    2021 days ago
    So sorry about your thoughts and prayers are with you both! emoticon
    2021 days ago
    It is tough. My mom has been in and out of hospitals for years, and lives in a nursing home now. You are blessed to have family willing to help. To many of us are the only one helping. I hope they are successful in helping her manage her pain.

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    2021 days ago
    Poor Merle's Mom emoticon

    Thoughts, hugs & prayers your way.
    2021 days ago
    I am so sorry about your mother. I am glad you have siblings for support. Hang in there girl. emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 12/5/2012 12:10:26 AM
  • BOBBYD31
    saying a prayer for you guys, i am glad they elected not to do the surgery, i am sure it was in her best interests. hugs
    2021 days ago
    emoticon emoticon for your entire family.
    2021 days ago
    So sorry to hear about your mom, it's tough when our parents get old and we have to watch this once strong person struggle to walk. My dad can barely move as he was on a respirator last year for 16 days (but they didn't even think he'd live so it was a miracle that he came out of it ).
    I don't know how old your mom is but you should see if you can get a case worker in the house and see if they can help her get a scooter for when she needs to go out. My dad tried getting one on his own (too much money) and a case worker talked to medicare and his insurance and he got one for free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I know there are 9 of you, but you still might need some help and they have people that will go to the house for free to prepare meals, clean and go shopping (also meals on wheels program that is free).
    I wish you all the best! I hope your mom will be okay and you'll all be able to have a joyous holiday season! emoticon
    2021 days ago
    I am sorry this happened to your Mom. She is so blessed to have a large family with so many taking care of her needs.I will be praying
    2021 days ago
    It is comforting to know that you are with your mom. I know that she can rest easier with you there.
    2021 days ago
    Best wishes during a difficult time.
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    2021 days ago
    It is so hard to see our parents age, and to have to deal with the issues that come with that. Hugs to you, and lots of prayers for you and your family. Hoping that your Mom will be able to get back to enjoying a fairly active life! emoticon
    2021 days ago
    That is too bad about your Mom, Merle! Hope all works out for her so that she can lead as active a life as she can. It is tough to deal with ailing parents or anyone we love for that matter. I feel for you....hang in there. emoticon emoticon
    2021 days ago
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