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Thursday, November 29, 2012

There is a sickness making its rounds in the SP stratosphere. Call it complacency, a faltering spark, or whatever else. I'm referring those of us who have a spark ranging somewhere between strong and dead. We are half here, half committed, probably not as gung-ho as when we first joined SP but by no means gone. We wait for some catalyst to prompt us to action with lots of good intentions and inconsistent follow-through.

Before I sound pompous and self-righteous, I too have caught the contagion. In 2012 I have gained a net total of about five pounds this year and all around given a very inconsistent effort. I was not fully committed. Admittedly I am no longer in the honeymoon phase with SP, but I have not abandoned ship completely. From the outside I may look to be all here. I track my nutrition; I exercise sometimes; I blog but not as often as I should. I'm still here at least partially, but it's not the same. So what has changed?

→ What is the matter with us, the infected?

→ Why did the honeymoon phase of having a strong spark have to end? If we had it once, what's to say we can't have it again?

→ And if we can get it back, how do we sustain it – not for a day or a week but for good?

Let's examine what we know of the illness.

We could easily blame the circumstances, the WHAT. I moved houses this year! I shipped my brother off to Afghanistan! My job situation changed! And have you seen what they are serving as school lunches these days?! This year has had its challenges, but does it logically follow that if an ideal situation presented itself right now an iron-strong resolve would naturally follow? Do we need an ideal situation to maintain a strong spark? Maybe the two aren't as closely related as we like to think. Aren't the mind and human spirit stronger than the circumstances?

We could blame the method, the HOW, meaning my results are solely related to the mechanics and their execution. But weight loss, same as any goal, starts in the mind before the mechanics are ever put into practice.

I believe this is a problem of mental outlook. The problem is that we used know the WHY behind the How, and we were intimately attached to it via umbilical cord. It is something we innately knew, and the WHY was powerfully motivating enough to see us through almost anything. Since then we have somehow separated from the central hub of Why, and here we remain unhinged. The How hasn't changed or stopped working, because I can reach modest success by sticking to the plan to the letter. But without the central, grounding Why I'm just losing and regaining the same five pounds ad continuum going nowhere. I have an awful premonition that I'm just spinning my tires like I have all year until I answer that question, that the other things - the tracking, the sweating, the trying and doing - are all peripheral compared to that central, unifying question of Why.

Sound familiar?

So back to the original question:
emoticon How do you find real, lasting motivation and sustain it?

If you're looking at me for all the answers to such a complex question, you're looking at the wrong place. I think the catalyst we are waiting for lies somewhere within us, that we hold the answer for our own motivation, that this is a question we must each answer for ourselves. Think back to when your spark was completely there and you were unstoppable. Did you need someone to show you, or did you dig deep, find that reservoir of strength, and utilize it?

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I know this isn't a complete blog. Part Two is coming, and hopefully it will yield some answers and insights! In the meantime, can you relate to any of what I said? If you are still going strong, how do you keep your mind fully engaged on the end goal?
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    I caught that nasty bug. Yuck! emoticon
    2021 days ago
    yep, all of what you said has happened to so many of my sparkfriends. Since spark is all about lifestyle change, I still do spark daily and much of it has stuck with me. But I like many other sparkers, need to gear up again and do even better to get closer to my goal. I need to make more changes, and your blog has sparked me to start working on changes again. Lifestyle changes.
    Keep pushing every day. That's the spark lifestyle kind of pushing. We can do this.
    2027 days ago
    2028 days ago
    Relate? Holy cow - this is applicable to EVERYONE! I think that at some point, that's why so many jump ship from Spark....they get the 'illness', and then they're gone! :-/ It certainly lies within.........but can we find it?? Great blog!
    ~ Christa
    2028 days ago
  • CARRIE1948
    Brilliant observations! The only person standing in the way of success is ourselves
    2028 days ago
    emoticon emoticon blog!
    2028 days ago
    Ouch , ouch , OUCH...

    So true!
    2029 days ago
    I think we need to look at ourselves great question enjoy your day hugz
    2029 days ago
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