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Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Ok... several weeks before Thanksgiving I appealed to y'all (yes, I'm 'somewhat' of a Texan) to kick my a$$ into gear.

Well, I'm going to have to ask for that again! I'm still in Thanksgiving recovery, but should have been done with that by now. Every day I seem to be giving into some kind of ridiculous temptation. Last night it was peanut M&Ms!

So please HELP!!! The Christmas holiday is going to really be difficult for me. I can't afford to start eating out of control this early in the game!
I'm still several lbs above my Ticker weight. If I'm not back down by this weekend, I'll go ahead and change it. But I'm really hoping to get this bloat off by this weekend.

Please encourage me! I've worked too hard to go in the wrong direction right now!
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  • OOLALA53
    Not sure I can add anything. Will you really change your behavior because of us? What are you telling yourself before you eat the candy? What do you need to say instead?

    Okay, I've been slipping by eating an extra serving of yogurt or somethign small after I finish my dinner. However, tonight I am absolutely NOT going to do this in solidarity with you. I hope I'll hear from you that you made it. We can set up a promise every day between now and Christmas. I also want to be more consistent with exercise. Shall we be partners? emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 11/29/2012 6:13:43 PM
    One thing that helped me was this: to realize that there are still x days until Christmas. I told myself that I can either use these weeks to work on health and weight loss or just 'let go' and overeat. Option 1 means I do something good for myself. Option two means that I will spend a few weeks overeating and what is that going to bring me?
    So right now I am looking at that period before Christmas. AT Christmas I may 'indulge' and have foods I otherwise don't have. But that will then be TWO days of overeating, not several WEEKS.

    Another suggestion is to just agree with yourself to do three days now of very healthy eating - no sweets no junkfood, just lots of vegetables and fruit and some nuts, some soup maybe. This will break the 'habit' of eating sugar and junkfood and help you enjoy the taste of 'pure' foods again. Just for three days. emoticon
    Hang in there.
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    Comment edited on: 11/29/2012 8:47:35 AM
  • EUEK098
    Try your best, but if you must give in, let it be within your range.
    1971 days ago
    You are going to enter into this holiday season with a purpose and a goal. You've got your weight goal and you have the tools--mindful eating, active lifestyle--to make this happen. You know what to do. Plan specific actions that you are going to take to help you reach your goal this season.

    Have you had a chance to talk to your husband? I suspect he was the one to bring the M&Ms...not that I blame him or are removing your own choice in the matter...but personally, I don't have willpower if things like that are in the house. I don't buy them. My husband doesn't buy them and it's a conscious choice to bring them home. Once the treat/snack, etc is there, it is VERY hard to resist. So don't bring them home and ask hubby nicely to not bring them home.

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    1971 days ago
    Wow - I can't add anymore to all the great posts you've already received. emoticon
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  • JENNY160
    Since you're in "trigger mode", get rid of all the triggers (hello, trash can!) and sit your a$$ down and meditate. Get your mind into the zone you had awhile back. And slam down some water, girl! Fill that belly with the good stuff so there's no room for the bad stuff!
    1971 days ago
    There are so many great suggestions here already, but I'd say keep trying every day to get firmly back on track until it happens. It's so easy this time a year to let a little slip turn into a big slide, so accept that you're human and move on. When I'm really struggling, I sometimes find it helpful to go back to the basics of my eating plan. I'll pre-plan my meals each day and allow for no deviation until I feel like I'm firmly back on solid ground again.

    Good luck getting back on track. You CAN do it!
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  • CAMAEL100
    OOOLALA says to be tough on yourself before the binge but not after. I had started being just tough on myself full stop! I think that the tough before but not after is a better idea. So forgive yourself the binge. It is done. There is nothing you can do.

    But as for the future!!! Just look at how fantastic you look in those jeans!! You know you can look that good - the photo is the proof! Stuffing your mouth with food that doesn't really taste that good (that is what I do anyway!) is not good for that body!!

    You are there - you have come so far that you have to know how strong you are. I am quoting OOLALA again - it is ok to have urges but we don't have to give into them. I also try to remind myself that we have come to expect answers to everything instantly. So hunger pangs and urges have to be immediately appeased. So I am trying to tell myself that it is ok to feel discomfort sometimes, it wont kill me.

    I know you can do it!!!
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  • MARTY728
    I am right there with you! emoticon emoticon
    1971 days ago
    You have sooo much support at SP! I am touched by all the wonderful words of encouragement. And they are all right. You can "do" the holidays. You've done them for many years! And during those years, you were LOSING weight! Think of how hard that was! (you don't want to go through that again) You've worked an amazing weight loss journey and continue to maintain. You'll be ok. So much good advice here! I like the going to bed early, (I do that), and looking at your old pictures. I also play the tape through, meaning, before I put it in my mouth, I play the whole scene through in my mind....the freak out I'll have, how rotten I'll feel, and angry because no matter how much exercise I do, I cannot burn off THAT many calories in a day. (Now, I'm at the very beginning of this journey, but with other addictions, the "playing the tape through" works very well, and when I've used it on food, it works!)

    Enjoy your holidays, you only live the "2012 set" once.

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    Comment edited on: 11/28/2012 4:04:15 PM
    I'm here to help too! I'm right there with you, trying to keep from getting out of control so early in the season. Making some goodies for my boys' school function and invites to my hubby's friends....Yikes! But we can do it! And I have my planned treats, in moderation, of course emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • IRP1114
    I know exactly what you mean. It is so hard to switch gears and get back into progress mode after a few too many indulgences! I had a long weekend of over eating as well. And it did not stop on Monday! Yesterday I had to come up with a plan and just commit to sticking to it. And I just posted it up. On day two now. Join me in staying committed to keeping it clean and keeping the momentum going the rest of the year!
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    1971 days ago
    I think we are ALL struggling during this time of year. We all have our stories. I've got in-laws coming in for my sisinlaw's college grad this week. They will be here for a week and there will be much celebrating. Then midway into Dec. we will begin getting folks in for my daughter's wedding in Jan. Plus my daughter will be out of college for Christmas break and I'm sure she will have many friends over for the month she will be with us until her wedding.
    Usually this means LOTS of extra foods, treats, snacks, etc. "for the guests". My wife and I just had the talk last night after I found that box of cookies(which will have to be pried from my dying chubby fingers). I told her that we will NOT fill the house with goodies and that if THEY need cookies, they can go buy them themselves and eat them in their cars. ;-)
    This time of year is always tough for ALL folks in so many ways. It's time to take control of our lives and NOT give in. WE are in control and WE need to STOP finding reasons to fail at our goals. Keep the faith sweetie, you can do it.
    1971 days ago
    Many years ago a football coach gave me this advice and it worked for me:

    When you want to eat something you know you shouldn't, just look at it and imagine the food crawling with worms and say to yourself: "I can't eat that, it has worms in it."
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  • ERIN1957
    Are you running?
    Are you running...yes are you? Get out and run, think about what you are running toward and yes from.
    Get your rear out there and do what you do. Do what you know and what makes you think. It will come to you, you want this, you want Florida and having the ability to stay and be in control.
    Control, not excess in either direction. You are powerfully made!
    Love ya!
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  • LEB0401
    You got this!!!

    You just need a day to recast, then these carb-cycle cravings will be DONE.

    Try to get all your carbs from complex sources today, and if the late night candy cravings come, just go to bed early.
    1971 days ago
    I've been in the same boat more times than I care to remember. :) One little thing that helped me get back on track again -- and something I repeat to myself often! -- came from Spark in the form of a motivational quote: "If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up!" I know...it seems a little harsh, but sometimes we all need a good kick in the rear to get us moving in the right direction again. I'm *much* older than you, so take a word of advice from someone who has struggled to maintain a healthy weight for most of her adult life. Get those pesky pounds off NOW because, believe this...the older you get, the more difficult it becomes. :) Stay strong and good luck as you continue on your journey -- before you know it, those ticker numbers will be in sync again!
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    1971 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel as I'm currently in the exact, same situation! (You can read my latest blog for details.) You know very well that no matter how good our Sparkfriends are and no matter how much motivation and support we can find here, we, ourselves, are the only ones who can put an end to this! And I know you CAN and you WILL. Look at how far you've come. At all your achievements and at how good they have made you feel. Now sneak a peek into the near future if you continue to do what you've been doing for the last days.
    Now do what you have to do.
    1971 days ago
    Ok, you're slipping. You've realized this now. Try to focus on what caused you to do so well leading up until Thanksgiving. Find your strength by defining what kept you on track before. Do you think you are giving yourself permission to indulge or binge because you know how your husband really feels deep down about your weight loss?
    1971 days ago
    Okay, I've spent time in Texas (we drive trucks, I've spent time in all 48, lol) so I can 2-step emoticon First, stop buying the big bag of m&m's! You know you did it, (or even if husband did, you didn't ask him to take them to the garage, did you?) So buck up and admit it. If you really need them, buy a bag of snack size and limit yourself to ONE pack a day-and track it! But you don't need them.

    Don't buy half gallons of ice cream. Get pints. Yes, its incredibly more expensive. Its also much harder to overindulge when there are two of you and one pint. Sit with hubby on the couch and give him 2 big spoonfuls for every small spoon you take. You'll both win. He gets attention, you get less of a treat, no one feels deprived, and the container gets gone.

    Get a hot-air popper for the popcorn. Much less fat and calories than even "light" microwave popcorn. Or start sitting behind him and letting him lean on you, leave the popcorn on him, so you can't reach.

    Look for lower-calorie options when you go out for mexican food. There has to be something with grilled chicken in it. And just start drinking unsweet iced tea instead of margaritas. Yeah, I know, not as much fun.

    Are there any activities your husband likes that you can do together? Any kind of workouts? (Other than the obvious cardio emoticon )

    Ooh, how's this to motivate him! Take him to the mall, or go online if you're not brave enough, and find something really pretty and sexy that will knock his socks off-as soon as you're the size YOU want to be. Then promise him you'll wear it for him and let him take it off- IF he helps you get to that size?!

    I know how fast the junk food would be out of my house! My husband would probably deadhead home FROM texas, and we live in northern wisconsin! Roflmbo!

    Honestly, sweetie, you know what you need to do. You just need some cheering.
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    1971 days ago
    You can do this, just think about how hard it was for you to work that weight off and how you don't want to do that again. Stay strong!
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  • ROCKMAN6797
    OK, you have had a couple of days of leisure, now it is time to kick it into gear and push toward the Xmas goal you set in an earlier blog. You have come too far to stop now and I know that you got this!

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    Some suggestions:

    Take a deep breath. Make a list of all the reasons you want to get back to your Ticker weight. The more reasons that are "Towards" motivated, the better. Include how fabulous you look in those jeans. :-)

    Do what you can to move as many of you trigger foods at least out of your line of vision, or to places where they can't be grabbed so mindlessly, if you can't get them out of your house completely.

    I just read a great blog about Beck Cards which list all your weight loss victories (compliments, feeling better, accomplishments, cute clothes, a special number on the scale) and motivational sayings that you can read as often as needed to keep you in the right frame of mind. Check out the blog for more info: http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_p

    Think that every time you tell yourself you "don't eat" something (as opposed to you "can't eat" something) you are saying something very meaninful. You are taking power for yourself and deciding you are worth making the healthiest choices possible for your body.

    Hang in there. Don't panic. You can get through this. You got through tough times before and this is no exception.

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  • LADYJ6942
    You can indulge in all you want with moderation. Instead of eating all of something only have a bite or two. You know how to do this, you can do this for you because you are worth it.

    Keep pushing!!!!
    1971 days ago
    Don't give up!! You can do this!!
    1971 days ago
    I'm with you girl! I'm trying to recover from Thanksgiving and having a hell of a time. WE CAN DO THIS!! One day at a time. I don't know if this works for you, but sometimes it does for me....bring out the "before" pictures and look at them. Remember how that felt and remember how it feels where you are now. Sometimes I feel like we get used to how we look now, and kind of forget the progress. When I see it again, it sometimes motivates me to keep going. Also, come to SPARK! We are all here to help! Seems all my spark friends are struggling a bit right now. If we band together, we can get through this!
    1971 days ago
    emoticon I know who you feel I just gained a pound and in a emoticon mood. BUt lets make a goal for each day to stay away from the "peanut m&m's" my favorite too. emoticon We need to get a exercise into our daily routine. emoticon here's to kicking our A$$ back on the right path. Have a great day!! No candy today!! Judy
    1971 days ago
    You have made AMAZING progress and this is a minor set back, it's not the end of the game. You can do this! We can both get through the remainder of the holiday season on track. We can eat more mindfully and stay active. Let's push so that we bring in the New Year feeling like the amazing people that we are. Now, let's get off our A$$ and move. And, hey, why not grab a bottle of water for the ride?
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