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A month of trials and tribulations

Sunday, November 25, 2012

These last few months have been very hard and difficult for me and my family. emoticon emoticon Especially for my 18 yr old son. He started college in August and he was so excited after having a difficult junior and senior year in high school due to health issues. He even decided to stay on campus. We supported him and let him know that we would be there for him if he needed us.
After a rough start, he seemed to settle in, or so we thought, he was actually not saying anything until it was to the point of consuming him and he did not want us to know.
As a parent you want to be there for your child (yes they are still your child no matter the age) but you also want to let them fly on their own.
These last few weeks have been so stressful, between midnight calls, every night, doctor appointments and to make things worse, he sprained his ankle three weeks ago and now he has the flu. So my dear sparks friends emoticon emoticon emoticon what else can go wrong!!!!
We have suggested taking a medical leave from school, but he does not want to feel like a loser and he really wants to continue. So we dropped one class, to make the load lighter and we are hoping that his stay at home for these last two weeks will make him feel better. He only has two more weeks of school and then he will be back home for the holidays.
Tomorrow another appointment with doctor and we will see hos it goes between now and the next few weeks. emoticon emoticon emoticon
My heart and soul are heavy with despair and sorrow for him. My DH is also besides himself and his older brother is trying but finds it hard to deal and I know we have abandoned him in the process. He is also away at college but in opposite directions.
We all spent Thanksgiving together and it was different, but the last day or two he has been a bit more social. emoticon emoticon
On the positive side I have loss weight, how I don't know, because all I do is walk a little and worry a lot.
My spark friends thank you all for all your prayers and support, I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    I was just thinking that when my son went away to a huge, huge university, he was finding it hard to make friends, and his roommate was a loner, so my son joined a couple of organizations where he could interact with small groups. Whatever subject area he likes most would be a good place to start. A few friends with like interests might help to take his mind off the health issues. I applaud him for not just giving up on the semester. Just hang in there; I promise you it will get better.
    1957 days ago
    My thoughts and prayers are with you all...I know how difficult the first semester at college can be....
    1965 days ago
    OH!! So will pray for your DS and your family as you help him toward independence. My youngest DD started college in the fall too and is staying in a dorm. So much to adjust to!! I have been working on letting go and watching the struggles that come during this beginning. So glad that your DS has kept in some classes...will pray for him to finish this quarter well, to get the rest he needs over Christmas break and to be healthy and ready for winter quarter. The 2 steps forward and one step back of this time seems to be stressful and it is hard to watch as a parent. Sounds like you only want the best for him and are trying your hardest to help him. Keep up the work that only a MOM who loves her kids unconditionally can do and he will find his way.
    Hugs Barb
    1968 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/28/2012 8:43:08 AM
    It's so hard to see our kids hurting and struggling and to know how to support them, without taking over and making them feel like we thought they couldn't handle it. It sounds like you are doing a great job and he'll always remember how you helped him and stood by him. Keep looking up, cast your cares on the Lord, he cares for you. There's always a mountain top on the other side of the valley. Every one is different and some young people do better if they wait until they are 19 or 20 to go fulltime and live on campus but instead first, maybe live at home and take classes at a local community or junior college for a year or 2. I know many people who have done it that way and have had great success!! I'm praying for you and your son and family.

    1970 days ago
    I really do know how you feel. If you want to talk SM me. I listen well. Sending positive thoughts you and your famly's way!
    1971 days ago
    Sending you love and prayers. Just as we learned the hard way, it's even more difficult to watch our children learn the hard way. They will make mistakes in judgment and I pray that it helps them grow without causing too much damage. It's not easy. Try to give your concerns to God: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)
    1971 days ago
    I'll keep sending you guys my love and prayers. I hope your son is able to find the right way for him to go to college. It really is different for everyone. I personally did full time for the first 2 years and then took a year off (my mother died) and then I went back part time because I couldn't handle full time anymore. Not everyone can. So, tell him it's okay to be part-time or to take breaks. It can help. Keep up the awesome work !
    1971 days ago
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