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Saturday, November 24, 2012

There is no doubt that Fall is really here. The weather is still erratic - the temps swing all the way from the 20s into the 70s, sometimes within a single day. At least we have not had to use the air conditioner for quite a while now and sometimes we don't have to use the heat either. It had been fairly nice on most weekends, which worked out in our favor as we were still working every weekend at my MIL's until after November 10th. It sometimes cools off and is rainy during the week so I have been getting up early in order to get my outdoor chores done before it rains. This week had been warm all week but it cooled off and was only 36 today. The sun has been out some though and I love that. In Fall and Winter here we don't get a lot of sunshine. Benny and I took a nice, long walk yesterday and today.

My plants finally got frost-bitten, with the exception of some of my impatiens which I had covered with floating ground cover. Years before I kept them alive until mid December but they looked scraggly this year so I decided to dump them early. I finally got my raised beds ready for winter. I cleaned out the hosta beds, perennials beds, and herb beds. I need to cover the veggie garden with black plastic. We brought home 3 Rose of Sharon bushes from my MIL's and planted them by the pond. When we did, we discovered a dead deer that had been shot in the gut with an arrow. Hubby had to drag it off to keep it from stinking. It really upset me as I'm sure it is probably one of the ones who was born here and came to our pond to die a gruesome death. One of the local does used to hide her babies by our pond. Hubby doesn't want me to romanticize it so I won't say much other than I really have a problem with all of this senseless killing. I wish I would win the lottery because if I did I would buy up as much land as I could afford and provide a refuge for the wildlife before they are all murdered.

We are knee deep in leaves and are usually dealing with them but the Mow N Vac needs a new hose. So Ian and I have been blowing them off with the leaf hog. Not very efficient when you live in a hardwood forest.

The tree expert from our power co-op came and indicated that the trees in question did indeed need to be cut down and he got rid of them for us.

We got the fountain out of the pond and put it up for winter. Hubby had been cleaning up the pole barn some.

Blocker is doing well from her surgery on September 23. Porkie was still sick after his first surgery on October 6 and Squeaker started to have problems too so we had to go to the vet in St. Louis again and have surgery on them both on November 4th. We stopped at Petsmart and got some food. Squeaker had a lot of problems post op and Bun developed problems too so we had to take them on November 18 for surgery. Bun is finally getting better but Squeaker is still struggling. We are having to syringe feed Squeaker and give her pain medicine. She is just now eating a little more on her own. So right now we have 3 chinchillas that have to be spoon fed several times a day as Reek always has to be. Porkie and sometimes Baxter and Runtster like to be hand fed as well as they like the attention. Blocker is the only one who snubs this. She's an old tough bird like me and takes care of herself. LOL.

Ian has been having more time off lately and has only been working 4 days a week even though some of the days are 12 hours long. So he has been helping me around the house a lot. Black Friday he put in a killer day and I think they made about $14,000 in sales.

The people who put the new tires on the van may have damaged it as the brakes went out on it immediately. So hubby was driving my car to work and I was driving the truck until he had time to fix the van. My son had to drive my car, his dad had to drive his truck, and I had drive the FX4 on the Saturday we cleaned out my MIL's house. LOL. Benny spend 3 days fixing the van and a front light on my car plus my driver side door as it would not open from the inside. Hopefully the vehicles are going to be okay for a while. He is tired of messing with them.

I am still not feeling the greatest but am doing better. I got rid of my 10 fever blisters, got a new one, got rid of it, and now I have another new one. We were having to eat out a lot as we were out of town more than usual. Wendy's, Culvers, Backyard Burger, Burger King, McDonald's, Long John Silver's. Ick. I am so sick of fast food. I used to love it but I am so not into this any more. My guts hate it and I'm trying to get my probiotics in. I'm ready to eat healthier and am looking forward to it. Ready to get back to a regular exercise schedule.

Our lives have been a whirlwind of activity working on settling my MIL's estate since we got the offer on the house on October 6. We finally got her final taxes done and sent off and her accountant paid. We got some banking issues taken care of. We had an estate sale on October 13, 19, 20, and November 2 at her house. Several of them were 14 hour days but we did fantastic. Everyone was amazed at how successful we were. On October 27 we did all of the repairs for the inspection and it took us 11 hours. Hubby had to put a new shower head on, pump the water out of the storm shelter, fix the lid on the storm shelter, put a pan under the water heater, and adjust the patio door. We were exhausted but the next day we went and mowed the yard for the last time, fixed the gate, and sold some more of her possessions to people who just came by. On November 3rd we got the remainder of what wasn't sold all moved to her garage and we cleaned the house and shed. We hauled our first small load home. On November 10, hubby drove my son's truck and I drove ours and we loaded the rest of the stuff by ourselves to take home and shove in the sheds. It took us two trips but we got everything cleaned out and told the realtor that the house was ready for immediate possession. We were 5 days ahead of schedule and pretty happy with ourselves. The realtor called on Monday and said there was a snag with the title company. The snag got bigger until it was a huge rip. My BIL's lawyer did not fill out the proper papers so the legal guardian could sign the papers to sell the house. So the closing has been postponed until December 14 but we had to go ahead and let the potential owners move in because they had already hired a moving van. Such a mess. They do love the house though.

Other plans fell through. We had plans to divide the rest of my MIL's possessions among his brothers. There isn't that much left and most of it is junk but we found out we would not be able to proceed as planned. The reason? His schizophrenic brother, who is on probation for multiple charges, got in trouble again this summer by assaulting a young girl. Some charges were dropped but it sounds like he held her captive with a knife. While in jail in the next county he confessed to a crime he had committed in 2010. He had hit and run a 13 year old girl who was riding a bicycle. She had injuries. So he is on a $50,000 bond in our county now and will most likely go to prison according to his financial guardian.

We had a nice Thanksgiving. Hubby had a few days off. I made a turkey breast, gravy, stuffing, bacon green beans, sweet potato casserole, low carb cranberry sauce, crescent rolls, relish tray, pickled cucumbers, pumpkin dessert, apple dessert. Daisy, the abandoned neighborhood lab, got a bowl of turkey and gravy too - no bones. LOL. The chinchillas got extra treats. They got treats for Porkie's birthday too.

I don't do Black Friday but we had to go to the bank for hubby to do some work for the estate and while there we went to Tractor Supply and got a really good buy on some suet and sunflower seeds for my feathered friends.

I'm looking forward to getting some work done around here soon. Holidays for us will be low key as we are in need of some rest and we need to catch up with overdue work. We had to let our own home-life slide while taking care of the estate and trust. We are ready to reclaim our lives.
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    Ohh Tish ! I don't know how I missed this blog .. but I am so sorry you are having so much anxiety from so many directions ..
    I am so glad you finally sold the house, even if there is a problem via BIL ..
    When is there not a problem via BIL ???. I hope by now it is all sorted .. I am so sorry about your deer .. and all the wild life that are hunted just for sport ...
    I too love animals and hate unkindness and unnessesary killing.
    I also hope all the furbabies are doing much better ..
    Take care my lovely friend .. emoticon .
    Much Love Susie
    1914 days ago
    Now that 2012 has passed, I hope 2013 will be better for all of us. It seems 2012 was full of hate and fury. I hope you do win that Lottery - you sound like a huge animal lover like me. Blessings to you and yours - with the future full of good health and happiness for all...
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    1917 days ago
    I am so proud of you taking care of business with your Mother in law. You took it on and took care of it in a timely matter. Not only is this physically hard work, its emotionally hard.
    Terrible news about your BIL, but t its good that he is accepting the consequences for his actions. How is the 13 year old girl now? I noticed you said hit and run, but not killed...I hope. The best that can be hoped for now is that he gets the help that he needs now, and the law is aware of his illness. I don't support putting people in prison unless they harm other people, but even in this case with your brother I can't help feel compassion that instead of punishment, he needs intervention and a network of support so that no one else will be hurt.
    I have a winter vegetable garden that I covered every night from a hard frost streak that we had. I never had a garden before and I was sad that so much was damaged despite covering them with bedsheets. I plan to buy frostcloth next year, hope that will protect them more. One morning when I removed them, they were hard glazed with ice. I think the cloth gets too wet and didn't insulated the plants well.
    I am sorry about deer you found. I never had hunted before, but my family that lives in Illinois always sends us venison sausage. I know they also organize a hunt with a few families to get maybe 5 deer that winter. The meat will last them all winter long. What is sad about the deer you found that it was pointless killed. I would even wonder if a child did it and didn't know what he was doing. I have cried over my Mom killing beautiful bumblebees in her garden, so feeling sad over a beautiful animal is nothing to be ashamed of. I am concern more for the children of today who feel nothing.

    1921 days ago
    OMGoodness! I am praying that your MIL's estate and issues will finally be laid to rest and soon. And I hope that you and hubby will take the time for much needed rest and relaxation.

    Right now there is so much virus going through our county that's it not funny. Most people have been really sick. So take care.

    Have a great New Year this year! emoticon emoticon
    1941 days ago
    Wow, so happy the saga of your MIL's estate is almost OVER. What has it been? At least 2 years, for sure. A long, looooooong journey. It feels like a vampire you are finally staking. At least the Rose of Sharon bushes will be a pleasant memorial. So glad you can finally reclaim your life, hopefully by or before Jan 1st. Hopefully will have staked this problem in 2012.

    Wow, the schizo bro is a piece of work. You were soooo right about him driving.

    I heard Dave Ramsey say to ALWAYS buy title insurance; when there's a nightmare you don' t have to deal with it, and the whole thing becomes someone else's problem. Guess this is one of those times. So sorry, after all you've ALREADY been through with the house. If I ever get employed again, and buy a house in the future, I will definitely get title insurance.

    I wonder what chinchillas do in the wild?, as they are not having tooth surgery then. I wonder if they just die, or how they get by.

    Yucko, fast food. I'm with you on that. I've never seen a Culvers.
    1956 days ago
    I'm sorry I've not been around much. This blog certainly deserved a response sooner! I can't imagine trying to deal with so many things simultaneously and admire you for hanging in there. I hope the fur babies are doing better, that you're feeling better, that things are getting settled with the BIL, and that the MIL estate work is going smoothly -- and that despite it all, you are enjoying the festivities of the season!
    1965 days ago
  • -SHAWN-
    Geeze Morticia... When life is like that for me I gain weight, not sure if it's due to higher cortisone (?) levels or just no way to plan healthy foods in the house that takes time to prepare, probably both.

    Glad you're getting over the hump...
    1966 days ago
    I hope by now that you have been back to eating your usual and not fast food. It is already near the end of the first week of December. I hope the papers get done properly and the new house owners are paperwork free. What a hassle. Sometimes with life changes hassles come in droves. But you seemed to keep your sanity and just worked your way through it all. Good for you. Keep plugging away at getting and staying healthy.
    1967 days ago
    Boy, you have had a lot on your plate. But I am glad that you will be able to reclaim your life and move on. Enjoy the animals and the birds. Things will work out; they have a way of doing that. Hang in there!

    I can see why you might be tired out. Please take really good care of yourself.

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    1967 days ago
    Hope you're OK! emoticon
    1968 days ago
    Wow!!!! Always so busy!!! What kind of surgery did the chins have?
    1968 days ago
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    1968 days ago
    You have been through so much! I really admire the stamina that permits you to do it all.
    1970 days ago
    You and your husband got all the money cause you did all the work -- right? :) Settling an estate is SO hard -- it took you guys just over a year and it's one snag after another. Please get some rest!!!! emoticon
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    1971 days ago
    I so enjoy reading your blogs and about your life. This year is almost at a close and I pray the next year will be better for you. I don't know how you aren't downright skinny with all you do girl!

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    1973 days ago
    You are so busy. I hope when the MIL house is settled you can get some rest. and I hope all your babies recover well. Big hugs!
    1976 days ago
    It's good to see you posting a new blog.

    Have a good day.

    1976 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I am sorry to hear about the sick chincillas and hope they are better. Spoon feeding three of them is quite a job. I am currently giving asthma medication and eye drops twice a day to two cats.

    Good that you finally have a date in December for the final sale of that house. I think it is very nice that you planted flowers near your pond form her house.

    I do not like senseless killing of animals either.

    You have a busy productive life! I am glad your health is better and that you are eating healthfully and feeling good about yourself.

    I am sorry about your brother in law. Maybe he can be reformed in prison.

    Enjoy the reclaiming of your lives. You deserve it!

    1976 days ago
  • SAMI199
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    1976 days ago
    YAY!! Sounds like the nightmare of selling your MIL's house and settling her estate is almost at an end!! I am so happy for you. Now you can have the chance to concentrate on you, DH and son for a change. AWESOME!! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed and hoping that all will go smoothly on Dec. 14th.
    1977 days ago
  • SUNNY332
    When I saw you had posted a new blog, I got so excited and the more I read, the more excited I got. You are "back" and I am glad. You sound so much better and it just makes me so happy for you and me too. I have missed you, my sweet friend.

    Sounds like life is not slowing down too much for you. I hope it does some when the closing is over and done with.

    Love you, Girl! Sunny
    1977 days ago
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  • DMF2012
    Hope you enjoyed your turkey day!
    1977 days ago
  • -LINDA_S
    Reclaim that life of yours! You so need a break to take care of yourself. Hope you enjoyed your Thanksgiving!
    1977 days ago
    1977 days ago
    You have been busy; however, you and your husband seem to have things under control. Just curious, why didn't your BILs help with the estate? This would have taken a lot off the two of you. Your Thanksgiving sounds great and sounds as if you truly enjoyed it. The food you prepared was very healthy. emoticon
    1977 days ago
    Good to her from you!
    It sounds like things are about to be finished with your MIL's house. I do hope your BIL's lawyer gets the paperwork straight. It's time to get things back to normal fr you & your family.
    1978 days ago
    Wow, what a month!! I am hoping that the closing comes and goes quickly and that it is one less thing for you to have to deal with. Well, actually from how it sounds, once the closing happens, you will have a ton less to deal with! Hoping all your babies are recovering well. They certainly have a good momma to care for them. :)
    1978 days ago
    So much has gone on with you in a month's time! The death of the deer saddens me, too. If I win the lottery (good luck on that since I seldom play), we can get together and make that dream of yours come true. Wouldn't that be fun?! Honestly, when you describe your weather, I think you must live next door...we are getting the exact same stuff here. Sounds like good news/bad news with the estate stuff. You're making great progress and almost've done a great job of pushing through all of this. Hang in there. Hoping you are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel there and feeling that "reclaim" on your lives soon. Hope you had a great weekend! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon
    1978 days ago
  • WILLOW49
    So glad to hear from you and to hear things are going better for you. I know you'll be happy when the estate is finally all done, completely done! Hope everything moves forward without any glitches.

    Take care of yourself!
    1978 days ago
    How great to read this blog!!! You sound so much better and it's good to feel like I've been able to catch up with you. The senseless killing of the deer made me so sad. I hate hunting but that is not hunting for food--that is just killing to kill. Disturbing!
    Wow! You're babies have been keeping you busy. I had no idea they were having so many problems! As if you weren't dealing with enough. Hopefully, they are all feeling better and on the road to recovery. It would be nice if everyone in your house could be well and even better if it was at the same time!!!
    How does Ian feel about working fewer hours? It seems he was working an ungodly amount of time there for awhile. I would think the holiday season would mean even more hours. Hopefully, he's working enough hours to make the money he needs (wants).
    Sounds like you're playing musical cars at your place. Hope they are all up and running.
    You did an amazing amount of work since MIL passed. And, you and Benny have done an even more amazing amount of work here in the past month so you could proceed with the sale. Then to have it postponed because a "genius" lawyer didn't fill out paperwork is more than frustrating!!! BIL in prison may be a relief for you!! You can do something else with the leftover stuff!
    I can't tell you how happy I am to hear you are feeling better. Hoping you can get back to some healthy eating, exercise, and a "normal" routine!!! Being able to stay home and take care of your place will be heaven!!!! Reclaiming your life is a wonderful thing for you and your family!
    I am so glad you're back!!!! I have missed you!
    1978 days ago
    Gosh I love to read your blogs! They confirm what I have known all along: what a loving caring fun loving imaginative person that you are! The world was so blessed the day you were born! When you are well Morticia you do more in a day than the average person does in a month! I know you you will always keep moving forward with your life as so many depend on you! You are a sweetheart!
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    1978 days ago
    It's good to hear you'll be getting your life back to something normal.

    I know just how you feel with the murder of the doe. The neighbors across the river have a lot of kids, all with guns, shooting everything that moves. We've found owls, herons, hawks, beaver, river otter, geese, wood ducks, raccoons, just anything that's wild caught up on the dock with gunshots.

    1978 days ago
    So glad you posted & I got a chance to catch up with you and your busy life. Sorry about your schizo BIL that's a real bummer in the family. Hope the rest of the house sale goes smoothly.
    1978 days ago
    I'm so glad that the house saga is nearing its conclusion. You and yours have been in my thoughts, so I'm glad to read that things are going (mostly) well.
    1978 days ago
    You have been a very busy lady. It is good to hear from you and that things are moving along although slower than hoped. I hope that you had a Happy Thanksgiving and wish you a Happy holiday season ahead. emoticon
    1978 days ago
    I have the same plans to help the animals when I win the lottery. I will contact you when it happens or you contact me if it happens to you first, we can do great things.
    I was happy to see your blog today :)
    1978 days ago
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    1978 days ago
    So sorry about the SNAFU with the guardian stuff. I've been encountering those kind of issues with Erik's stuff. I am glad that MIL property is in the possession of people who love it and you and hubby don't have to go work there anymore.
    I love reading about all the animals, although I will admit being confused at times. Your property really sounds nice, leaves and all.
    I guess I'm glad that they caught up to BIL and he will not be a further problem for yu'all for a while.

    Hugs, enjoy a well deserved pause.

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    1978 days ago
    Oh, you must be SO ready to reclaim your lives, and it sounds as if that is going to happen. I'm not happy to hear about schizo BIL, but if anyone ought to be in prison and out of your hair, it's him. (Did sweet, positive-thinking Suzy really say that? Yes!)

    Even though the house isn't officially closed, I'm so happy to hear that the owners are there and love the house. In my opinion that's the way a house sale should be. The people who bought our place in NH fell in love with its quirky little style, just like we did, and I'm sure they're loving it, too.

    I'm looking forward to reading more happy, newsy, woodsy blogs from you now that this misery is coming to an end!

    1978 days ago
    I sure hope December is going to be better, quieter, and have fewer problems for you all than November has been. You all deserve some down time. But thanks for the long message. I always love reading about your lives and animals.
    1978 days ago
    Whew, I am tired just READING about all the work you've been doing!!!

    I know what you mean about the fast food; I notice increasing sensitivity of my GI tract but sometimes there is no alternative. Concentrating on making healthier choices.
    1978 days ago
    Sounds like a lot of stress, so it'll be nice to get it done soon. As for the deer, so very sad. I've noticed a dramatic increase in
    the torture of animals as they reported in
    the news. I have to turn it off as it really
    does break my heart.
    1978 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    I sure hope everything goes well for closing and you don't have to postpone it
    any longer. You will be glad when it's over, I can tell!

    You all did a great job, more than I think anyone would have expected you to
    do. I think since you DID it all, the profits should go to you, at least get paid
    for all you did while the rest of the family did nothing.

    well, it will all be over soon, I PRAY!

    You do have a neat life!

    I love your blogs.

    Keep warm, it's in the 40's here in FL this AM. BURR!
    1978 days ago
    Oh my, another roller-coaster period in your life. It sounds like more good things here than bad and you're so close to being done with the house closing, that will be such a relief to turn the final page on that chapter!!

    It's definitely time to reclaim your life; you're entitled!!


    1978 days ago
    Goodness that was a lot in one post!
    I sold my dad's house October 17 just in time to not worry about it for the hurricane!
    It should have been fine except for wind and trees...but not my worry now!

    I agree about the fast food. We do a lot of road trips and even a salad at fast food places doesn't compare with ones at home.
    1978 days ago
    OH I so heasr you on the ready to reclaim your life!!!! my house is still boxes etc. bothers me downstairs, but up here drives me nuts, and thinking that xmas is coming well I dont' have alot of company etc. but at least would like up here to bve presentable. GEESH.
    Hope you get back to eating well again, I know it helps. Yesterdayy was a great eating day for me, all healthy, no grain, and no sugar so pleased and hope to repeat it again today.
    HUGS and hope all goes well.
    1978 days ago
    Roll on December 14th. My goodness, your BIL is
    in a lot of trouble with the law again, isn't he? As
    long as he signs the proper paper for you and then
    let him go his own way. You did quite a bit for him
    a few years back. I'm sorry to hear about our fur babies.
    Does Reeks still liek cuddling with DH?
    That is a shame about the deer. It is heartless killing
    and all for what? I would love to work at your refuge
    and give you a hand emoticon Daisy must
    have appreciated the special treats as did all your
    furbabies. You are such a good mum to one and all.

    I hope that your trips to MIL's are a thing of the past
    and you can get back to looking after your health and
    family again. Glad you enjoyed your Thanksgiving.
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    1978 days ago
  • ERIN1957
    Wow lady you are a busy one!
    I hate senseless killings and to harvest animals for food is not done that way. Senseless. I would help you if I win the lotto.
    Oh dear our furry companions are dear to our hearts.
    I too have been ill and yuck the blisters are the worst especially when they follow down the throat. I am better too. No fast food though ;-)
    I did Black Friday once, that is all it took.
    I hope things work out well and you can enjoy this special time of year!
    1978 days ago
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