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Saturday, November 24, 2012

Advice I would give to anyone, yet don't take myself, whats with that???

I've been sick for the past few weeks. It started after my daughter in law who has terminal cancer left with my grandson to stay with her family for a while. I was run ragged while she was here and got myself exhausted and then sick the very weekend she left. I think I just powered down after having so much on my plate. I ended up with a raging sore throat, aching body, headache - the usual flu symptoms, not just a cold. I was flat for 2 weeks and admittedly did very little in those 2 weeks - just loads of reading, TV viewing and sleeping.

I don't have a domestic, so housework still has to be done. I have a very old house which untidies very quickly and gets dusty very quickly. Hubby is crazy busy at work at this time of the year and not much of a house husband to begin with LOL. Still, I did the barest minimum for those 2 weeks.
I woke up one morning feeling much much better and instantly got up, went to the coffee shop and resumed my life which included bathing dogs because both my dogs picked up mange from an outing hubby took them on. This meant medicating and dipping which I duly did........only to relapse. I could have kicked myself.

There I was sick again, sore throat the whole trip and MAD AT MYSELF. Spent another week feeling energy-less and just useless. After that week I seemed to feel better again and got back up and at it. Yesterday included walking to town to fetch my car which went in for a minor repair. It was waay too hot (for me-I really cant handle the heat) and by last night I didn't feel fantastic, but also not really sick. mostly tired which I put down to the 1km (just short of one mile) walk after doing pretty nothing for a time, which meant I carried on regardless. I went to the beach for a barbecue with a bunch of friends and it was tremendous fun. I met an old friend who says she lived next door to me, knew my name, hubbies name, how long we were married, my older sons name...came unstuck with my younger sons name. Justin and I felt awful because we could only remember her son who was 28 at the time and dying of cancer leaving behind a young wife and son. She remembers me bringing them coffee and home baked cookies while they moved in, says i babysat her grandson while they moved in and also that I gave them candles for their first night because they didn't know about prepaid electricity and had not made provision....I remember NOTHING! Weird, because neither does Justin remember them at all.

Anyway my walk in the heat and my night out at the sea paid a penalty and this morning I woke up stuffy nosed and feeling exhausted again. So when my mom came strolling through to my side of the house asking if I would go with her for coffee (my mom is a typical galloping granny emoticon) I really wasn't in the mood, but felt for her feelings of "aloneness" and gathered my bag and went. From the coffee shop, she just wanted to quickly pop into the supermarket....aaargh.... all I wanted to do was go home. But I dutifully went into the supermarket and bought some bread and some writing equipment to draw a picture for my grandsons card etc. After I was done, I couldn't find my mom in the store so I went outside to the car. Didn't see her their either, so I sat on a bench and just stared into space. I didn't realize at this point that my handbag was hanging on the end of my trolley still. At some point, I needed a tissue and looked for my handbag....MISSING.

I went into the store and reported my bag missing but the truth is, I didn't expect that someone had handed it in. The security searched all the trolleys going in and out and all I could do was leave my name and number in the event someone eventually realized they had a spare handbag hanging off the end of their trolley. The tragedy of this is not the handbag itself....it was old and just a bag. The tragedy is I had been paid back a loan I made to someone only the night before, a whole R2000 (224$) was still in my bag.

At a point I gave up and we went home. On the way home, I spotted my bag lying behind a tree IN MY STREET. The thief had run around the block, and dumped my bag. Well, at least I got house keys, bank cards and ID book etc back, just obviously not the cash. Guess I'll be grateful for that.

So today I feel like Job. I wished I had just said NO THANK YOU.
I really must learn that I don't have to do it all and I don't have to worry about everyones well being. I am so mad at myself but being mad wont help.

So today....this is me

At least I didn't binge eat. I just had tea.......that's good for me in this kind of situation. So I'll see it as not all bad.
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    I lost $264 3 years ago. It was grocery money and gift money for Christmas. The guy took all the money but turned in my license and bank cards - I was sick!!!!
    1969 days ago
    You've had so much on your heart and plate, so to speak. Sometimes it seems that our bodies say "enough!" and down we go. Being imperfect as we are, we try to rush things and get back into our routines in stead of letting our bodies (and minds) heal. So don't feel bad. Get your self a nice soothing cup of tea, sit back, grab a lovely book and enjoy some time for you. In the big picture, we really aren't much good at helping others if we don't take care of ourselves too. Sending you lots of love and hugs. emoticon
    1972 days ago
  • ANDI571
    I always try to tell care givers, take the time to care for yourself. Who told us anyway that we were capable enough to do the job of 10 people. There are things you can't say no to, but there are plenty of things you can say no to.

    Take care! emoticon
    1973 days ago
    emoticon I am so sorry that all this is going on for you!! Do take your Own Advice and take care of yourself. It sounds as though some "Down Time" is in order for you. I'll be praying for you and your DaughterInLaw.
    1973 days ago
    I posted "One day closer to paradise!" on the Huddle before I read your blog. Sounds to me that your situations would really urge you to say PLEASE COME. Get some rest and and relieve your stress, throw your burdens on Jehovah in prayer and he will sustain you and give you the power you need!

    Agape, Sis

    Don emoticon
    1974 days ago

    I hope you are well again soon. Listen to yourself this time. Take the time you need to get better. Many hugs to you!
    1974 days ago
    I am so sorry! I know how much you needed that money. You really do need a long sleep in and rest emoticon
    1974 days ago
    Get well Celeste! What a lousy load to bear right now. Hugs!
    1974 days ago
    Oh No! Sounds like you really need to stay in and relax! Glad your cards & id were still there, but that is still no good.
    1974 days ago
    OK. so my little flu issue seems so silly now, you poor darling!! I do hope you get better soon.... I'm glad they didn't steal your identity, because that could be a whole lot more disastrous than just the money, even though that is horrible too.

    1974 days ago
    Ah Celeste, sounds like you need some Soul healing. I hope you tune in and listen to YOUR needs. Poor you! Sending you healing blessings. emoticon
    1974 days ago
    Poor Celest!!!!!!!!!!
    My heart really goes out to you.
    1974 days ago
    emoticon You poor thing. You really do need to rest and give your body a chance to fully heal. emoticon I know how hard saying No can be, but it really is what you need to do for a few days. Get some good movies curl up on the couch, lock the doors, turn off the phone and pretend not to be in for a couple of days. Hope you feel better soon emoticon
    1974 days ago
    1974 days ago
    awww Celest I know exactly what you mean and how you feel
    A big hug from me to you-- sorry my friend
    Learn to say no-- I still have trouble saying no

    2 weeks ago for me I was not up to par and under fibro fog.. I took my dil and family to mall
    We sat down for a coffee --I was so hot I took my jacket vest off and put it on the back of the chair!! Yes you guessed it - when I got up to leave I did not grab my jacket. Being under the fog and not all there(lol) I had put over $500. in the pocket ... well something clicked and I realized I did not have my jacket .. I ran back to the eating area ..(people must of laughed seeing a 58 year old woman running through the mall). Well believe it or not my jacket was still there and so was the money. I sat down and cried.. so I know how you felt .. I was just a little luckier then you my dear..

    So chin up look after you first when you are back to being you then you can do for others.

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    1974 days ago
    You still have physical mending to do apparently...and may also be dealing with chemical reaction to the dog dip stuff (just a thought). So sorry about the lost funds...at least you weren't mugged in the process! Hope you feel better soon. Are you addressing the physical issues in anyway...nutritionally speaking? emoticon
    1974 days ago
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    1974 days ago
    Wow, hope you feel better!
    1974 days ago
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