Not Gonna Relax -- Gonna Beat the Odds

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Sunday, November 18, 2012

I've had a few interesting comments made to me recently.
1. "Oh, come on, it's the holidays. You can relax a little now."
2. "So? What's the problem? " (At a buffet meal, when asked why I passed on eating the flank steak and I said because it was covered in creamy sauce)
3. "I'm going to drop off a piece of a dessert I made. You can eat it or throw it out. "

The first two comments, I simply looked at the persons with my best "Seriously?" expression and the subject was dropped. With the friend who told me she was bringing by a dessert for me, I asked her "Why would you do that? It's just going to make me feel bad." When she asked what I meant, I explained I would feel bad throwing out her dessert that I no doubt would want to eat and I'd feel worse if I ate it. She immediately said, "Ok. I won't bring it over, then. "

I have a lot of support from the people in my life, but not always a lot of understanding of the odds I face. They figure since I am now at my goal range, I can go back to eating "normally." They don't get that normal eating isn't my strong suit. Or the strong suit of lots of us, for that matter. And they really don't get how much the odds are against me to maintain my weight loss. When I tell them the most optimistic percentage I've seen that people can maintain their weight loss is 20%, they are astonished. When I tell them I've seen that percentage cited as low as 5%, they gasp.

And gasp they should. Whether my chances are 20% or 5%, those aren't great odds, so I am very grateful for all the knowledge and information I have gained here at SP from members and articles. For example, there has been a lot of discussion about the study on behaviors of successful maintainers. I'm doing my best to copy as many of those behaviors as I can. Behaviors like:
-Tracking food daily
- Burning a minimum of 2000 calories per week in exercise
- Weighing daily
- Keeping eating out to a minimum

You know what behavior isn't on that list? Relaxing! So, no I'm not going to relax this holiday season, eat like the average, clueless American and gain weight that I fought so hard to lose. Those last 10 lbs were killers to get rid of and I want them to stay gone. And no, I'm not going to make stupid choices like the flank steak with the mystery sauce. I was already stuck at an all day work retreat. There was no point in making myself more miserable by wondering how many calories I just consumed.

These are such early days for my maintenance. I reached my original goal September 1st and then decided to lose a bit more which I accomplished at the end of October. I'm still figuring out what my calorie range is! I'm not saying I am stressing about maintaining this weight. I'm not. I love being at this weight and how good I feel. I'm just being very careful as I add more calories. I know this is going to be a lifetime effort.

I'm thinking of maintaining as a new hobby or maybe a second job. One I am passionate about and that brings me amazing benefits like increased fitness, improved health and some really cute clothes.

Not something I am going to take for granted or get lazy about. So don't mind me if I don't relax about eating, exercising or my weight. I am beyond happy with my decisions and the results they bring.
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    That's the spirit!!!Great job!!!
    1958 days ago
    Good for you. I don't blame you one bit to stay focused, it is too hard to try to lose the weight, so why do we want to give up what we have already achieved. emoticon
    1958 days ago
    yes you can do this. you are doing so great
    1958 days ago
    Congratulations on reaching maintenance, you look great. I just skipped a party I was supposed to go to and I have not been doing any baking. Keep up the good work.

    1958 days ago
    Good for you
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  • SBFT84
    Thank you for sharing. I am standing in your shoes, and it really helps to read it from another person. I can see what to do for me, when reading about you. Thank you for the lifeline that helps me keep on track in my healthy lifestyle which enables me to burn fat.
    1958 days ago
    Congratulations on reaching your goal weight. Great job. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and not letting people intimidate you. I love the way you think of managing to keep your weight down as a hobby or as a second job, something you will really work at. What a great idea. You are a real inspiration. Keep up the great work!!!

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    1958 days ago
    This is a lifetime event not to just lose the weight. Congratulations on that. Keep up with the lifestyle of Sparks people. emoticon
    1958 days ago
    emoticon You are an inspiration!!
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    1958 days ago
    Right on!!! You hang in there...you rock!!!

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    1958 days ago

    I LOVE, LOVE. LOVE your comments. I'm with you.........let's make maintenance a second job.........that is GREAT!!!

    Merry Christmas to you, God bless and remain VICTORIOUS!!!!!!!!!

    1958 days ago
    Oh, I'm SO happy for you! Congratulations on reaching your goal - and on knowing how to stay at your ideal weight! People don't celebrate us - or our accomplishments - the way we wish they would. Nothing we can do about that. They just don't get it! The only thing we can ever change is ourselves - and you already know that!

    You're doing all the right things. Keep up the good work! It IS a lifestyle - a healthy way to live for the rest of our lives! What a blessing!

    I wish you many blessings in your life's journey, my friend! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    1958 days ago
    Thanks for the heads up about maintaining among 'friends'. I'd never thought about people trying to get me to go back to 'business as usual'. I've got a long time to grow my thick skin to be able to dodge those arrows.
    1958 days ago
    This hits the nail on the head! And inspires me for the next few weeks. Thanks and good luck!
    1958 days ago
    Wow, way to go on being strong & congratulations on reaching your goal weight.
    1958 days ago
  • LSIG14
    Congrats on having a wonderful attitude.. Relaxing is NOT an option if you want success. Keep up the good work!
    1958 days ago
  • SPEEDY143
    emoticon "I'm thinking of maintaining as a new hobby or maybe a second job." With that kind of attitude YOU will be one of the 5% successful maintainers emoticon
    1958 days ago
  • NH_MOM
    I loved reading this! I lost 55lbs and was on maintenance for 2.5 years(before I got pregnant). I have to say I think losing the weight was easier than maintaining. But one thing I found at the holidays was that I couldn't really overeat. I think your stomach gets used to smaller portions over time. I've also learned not to stress about what you eat over the holidays as long as you don't gorge yourself. If you worry too much it takes away from the fun & enjoyment. Sounds like you are on the right track. Keep it up! emoticon emoticon
    1958 days ago
  • KITTY775
    Your story is a reall inspiration. With great coping skills Le that I am sure you will maintain. emoticon
    1958 days ago
    Woo Hoo! I couldn't agree more! I am 5 pounds away from my original goal, but like you I want to lose an additional 10 on top of that. But I am running across the same things you mention. People keep saying I look fine and don't need to lose anymore. They keep questioning why I'm not drinking when I'm out with everyone. They keep saying I can relax over the holidays and get back to the diet afterwards or acting like I can eat like I used to because I look fine now. You expressed my feelings exactly and it helped me to stay motivated to not relax!
    1958 days ago
    A little relaxation will allow you to put things into perspective. We all have a lifetime to tweak and get things right for ourselves. Congratulations on you commitment to a healthy lifestyle! You will succeed!!
    1958 days ago
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts
    Have been within five pounds of my goal all of 2012
    Up--down up--down never over that five pound limit
    Want to reach it by years end but we have only two weigh in left in this year
    Have snow predicted for this coming weekend so meeting may be canceled
    Our last weigh in is New Years Eve can I do it will sure try
    One day at a time
    1958 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/13/2012 8:51:52 PM
    I applaud you and respect what you have figured out works best for you. I too have well meaning friends who just don't get it and yes one dessert can feel more like sabotage than love. Be strong, be happy and know that I for one have been inspired. ..and yes I weigh everyday too. It is what works for me along with recording what I eat. still working toward my goal.
    1958 days ago
    Good luck and I do cheer you on. My only concern is where you mentioned weighing every day. Even the experts don't suggest that as a healthy behavior.
    1958 days ago
    Yes, my husband and I heartily agree with you. We worked to hard to get to where we are and the benefits we have now far outweigh any tasty morsel that we say no to. emoticon
    1958 days ago
  • L1ZB3TH354
    1958 days ago
    Good for you! I did this a year ago. I decided that from Halloween through New Year's I would work on losing weight and not eat all those holiday goodies. I lost just a fraction of an ounce under 20 pounds over the holidays.

    I have to say I was rather put off by Thiddy's post to you. Yeah, sure, *some* people make a decision to abstain, and then are miserable and deprived, and then fall apart as a result. And I think Thiddy made some assumptions that weren't warranted about how other people felt when you refused the food. (You didn't say that your friend was "hurt and dejected".)

    But I did this a year ago. I did not feel deprived. I did not "nose-dive into a vat of Mashed Potatoes", either.

    I'll bet you're succeeding, and I'll bet you will be able to report a nice weight loss by New Year's Day.
    1958 days ago
    Wow! Congratulations on your success and best wishes in maintenance mode! As a yo yo-er I know all to well about those odds. Thank you for your strong and realistic blog. Such words of wisdom!!
    1958 days ago
  • 9CATMAN9
    I really identified with your story... Thank you and Good luck!

    Peace, Scott. emoticon emoticon
    1958 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/14/2012 1:24:01 AM
  • 123ELAINE456
    Awesome Blog. Congrats. on your Weight Maintence. I love your Positive Outlook on Everything too. You Can Do It. Just remember You feel much better and can wear a lot of Cute Clothes and Outfits. Hopefully your Friends will follow You. This is the WAY TO GO!!! God Bless You and Have a Super Nice Day. Take Care. Keep It Up.

    1958 days ago
    So cool to read. Having been at maintenance and then slipping (those last nasty 10 pounds you were talking about), I applaud your efforts. And I too soon will join you in maintenance heaven.

    1958 days ago
    What an Awesome blog!! Congrats, on reaching your goal weight!! Good for you:on
    your healthy eating!! Enjoy those cute clothes!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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  • JERICHO1991
    Great attitude. Never get complacent about maintenance.
    1958 days ago
    great ,way to go emoticon
    1958 days ago
    I have lost 80 pounds five times in my life and one thing I know for sure is that when I get to goal weight, adding or allowing more calories is always a mistake. It's the amount of calories I ate, that got me there. I am not criticizing because I am back on the bandwagon of trying to lose again. I am just saying, that my "normal" portions usually mean 2 or 3 servings, not 1. And, my trigger foods, will always be trigger foods.
    1958 days ago
  • FLRED12
    People don't necessarily mean to sabotage your efforts They just don't understand that weight loss and good health isn't something you do for a set period of time and stop but that it is a life long commitment (if you want to succeed). You obviously have the right attitude. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 12/13/2012 5:20:13 PM
    Congratulations! You look fabulous. Maintainance is the hardest thing. I haven't mastered it but know I will. It is never easy. Just a few changes that slide you back into some old bad habits and the weight creeps back on. I get eactly what you are saying wish you all the best with this.
    1958 days ago
  • JAMER123
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    We all need to try & keep on our normal schedule through the Holidays. Great attitude!!
    1959 days ago
    emoticon emoticon way to stand your ground and stand in your truth about what you want. emoticon
    1959 days ago
    1959 days ago
    Reached goal 20 months ago. Lookin' great, BUT 2 trips in 2 weeks, plus baking for friends and neighbors (my usual gift to all) has me up 5 pounds this morning. YIKES! We need to soldier on and refuse the temptations no matter what. We've worked too darn hard to get where we are.
    1959 days ago
    I am almost there--I am near GOAL and want to go a little under to figure out my calories. I don't want to have to do this AGAIN! I guess it is going to be HARD but I got this far, I can continue to do it!!
    1959 days ago
    It was your old lifestyle that got you into the situation in the first place. It's your new lifestyle that got you out of it. People just don't understand that you are not on a diet. You are living a new lifestyle and hence you have a new life. Well done for your choices and your success. People will "get it" eventually. Fantastic effort. !!!! emoticon
    1959 days ago
  • RUTHEY01
    emoticon Blog! emoticon on reaching your goal and then some. Stay motivated and don't let those "well meaning" friends get you off track. I have a few of those too. My friends tell me that eating meat just during the holidays won't hurt me. I'm a vegan. I just smile and tell them that I am happy and healthier eating the way I do so why should I change just because it is the holiday season? Stick to your convictions. You are doing an awesome job!!
    1959 days ago
    1959 days ago
    Congratulations on accomplishing your goal.
    As more of your friends/acquaintances understand your focus and drive, may they be more helpful to you in moving forward.
    What a great motivation.
    1959 days ago
    Congrats on your weight loss emoticon Keep up the good work emoticon
    1959 days ago
    I am glad you have such a great support system. The best way to relax is to not put yourself into situations where your food and or exercise plan is challenged. Other wise like yourself, be strong enough to put you first. It is not a selfish thing to do. It is one of the best ways to support everyone around you.

    Amanda, RN
    1959 days ago
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