Not Gonna Relax -- Gonna Beat the Odds

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Sunday, November 18, 2012

I've had a few interesting comments made to me recently.
1. "Oh, come on, it's the holidays. You can relax a little now."
2. "So? What's the problem? " (At a buffet meal, when asked why I passed on eating the flank steak and I said because it was covered in creamy sauce)
3. "I'm going to drop off a piece of a dessert I made. You can eat it or throw it out. "

The first two comments, I simply looked at the persons with my best "Seriously?" expression and the subject was dropped. With the friend who told me she was bringing by a dessert for me, I asked her "Why would you do that? It's just going to make me feel bad." When she asked what I meant, I explained I would feel bad throwing out her dessert that I no doubt would want to eat and I'd feel worse if I ate it. She immediately said, "Ok. I won't bring it over, then. "

I have a lot of support from the people in my life, but not always a lot of understanding of the odds I face. They figure since I am now at my goal range, I can go back to eating "normally." They don't get that normal eating isn't my strong suit. Or the strong suit of lots of us, for that matter. And they really don't get how much the odds are against me to maintain my weight loss. When I tell them the most optimistic percentage I've seen that people can maintain their weight loss is 20%, they are astonished. When I tell them I've seen that percentage cited as low as 5%, they gasp.

And gasp they should. Whether my chances are 20% or 5%, those aren't great odds, so I am very grateful for all the knowledge and information I have gained here at SP from members and articles. For example, there has been a lot of discussion about the study on behaviors of successful maintainers. I'm doing my best to copy as many of those behaviors as I can. Behaviors like:
-Tracking food daily
- Burning a minimum of 2000 calories per week in exercise
- Weighing daily
- Keeping eating out to a minimum

You know what behavior isn't on that list? Relaxing! So, no I'm not going to relax this holiday season, eat like the average, clueless American and gain weight that I fought so hard to lose. Those last 10 lbs were killers to get rid of and I want them to stay gone. And no, I'm not going to make stupid choices like the flank steak with the mystery sauce. I was already stuck at an all day work retreat. There was no point in making myself more miserable by wondering how many calories I just consumed.

These are such early days for my maintenance. I reached my original goal September 1st and then decided to lose a bit more which I accomplished at the end of October. I'm still figuring out what my calorie range is! I'm not saying I am stressing about maintaining this weight. I'm not. I love being at this weight and how good I feel. I'm just being very careful as I add more calories. I know this is going to be a lifetime effort.

I'm thinking of maintaining as a new hobby or maybe a second job. One I am passionate about and that brings me amazing benefits like increased fitness, improved health and some really cute clothes.

Not something I am going to take for granted or get lazy about. So don't mind me if I don't relax about eating, exercising or my weight. I am beyond happy with my decisions and the results they bring.
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    emoticon very well said- you have done a GREAT job emoticon
    1956 days ago
    You have a new lifestyle now. People will accept it eventually. And no doubt you will inspire others to start taking care of themselves. Well done!
    1956 days ago
    emoticon You are awesome for keeping up with your goals and being strong enough to tell people honestly to back off! They will get it eventually- you keep going with your goals ;D
    1956 days ago
    emoticon emoticon Don't worry about weighing in so much.....just exercise and track and, you will notice if your clothing is loose.... emoticon
    1956 days ago
    Live your life the best way you know how!
    Learning to say 'no thank you" is something we all need to practice
    some of us need to hear and receive it!

    happy holidays!!!
    1956 days ago
    Great job, and thanks for comments we can all use, especially at this time of the year! I'm also in my goal range, but not as low as I was, so I need to hear from others who are in a similar place. Many, many thanks! emoticon
    1956 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    I have a long way to go, but I've never been able to maintain. With Spark behind me, I know I can and you're part of the reason why. Thank you. I love your attitude and I congratulate you on your success!
    1956 days ago
    This is a wonderful blog. No, we can't rest on our laurels. We didn't come this far by relaxing. We worked hard for it and now that same hard work has to be our new way of life if we want to keep what we've won. Congrats again on reaching your goal and maintaining it. I want to be one of the 5 percenters too!!! Walk on!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1956 days ago
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    1956 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/14/2012 8:42:59 PM
    Very strong!
    Keep up the good work : )
    1956 days ago
    You handled your unhelpful colleagues very well - congratulations!

    With an attitude and determination like yours, I reckon you'll make it into that special 5%. Keep up the good work.

    As for me, I'll try to remember that you achieved your weight loss through a lot of hard work and perseverence - it wasn't easy. If I want the same results, I must be prepared to put in the same effort.

    and I WILL.
    1956 days ago
  • DIAMOND102
    Hey you Rock!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1956 days ago
    Way to go! I have reached my happy point in the last week. I'm pretty sure I still might shed some weight while toning but I glad to be where I am. I know how you feel here. My husband told his mother about my new current weight and got back "you don't need to lose anymore." And I get asked often how much longer my "diet" is going to last. Anyway so happy for you and keep it up!!
    1956 days ago
    Hi there,

    Thanks for sharing. It was a pleasure reading your blog. Very inspiring. Keep smiling to people with such comments. Enjoy your new hobby.

    Greetings from Amsterdam
    1956 days ago
  • H20-LADY
    Way to go! I've been going through the same thing. So now I pack all my lunches in the evening along with the snacks, makes shopping this time of year so much easier. I go the car get my lunch and then go back to the food court where I purchase a drink and eat my lunch. Then back to the car to drop off my lunch bag. Getting in the extra steps along the way.

    1956 days ago
    you are brilliant and a real inspiration.....
    thank you!
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  • PHOENIX1949
    Well said. I must keep repeating to myself 'lifestyle change' 'lifestyle change'. . ..
    1956 days ago
    Way to go on sticking to your guns! emoticon
    1956 days ago
    Absolutely wonderful attitude. Your thoughts are spot on. I am sure you will succeed and if you are happy with the changes you have made, you will not let others derail you. Congratulations!
    1956 days ago
  • GWENDO51
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    Great blog. I would be curious to know how your friend reacts to you in the next few days. Was she defensive or mad at you. You had every right to say something. Sometimes we just get tired of people being so incensitive. I don't think they think!!!!

    Congrats on your new lifestyle
    1957 days ago
    I started off December with such high hopes---the first i did great but completely fell off track since then...so hard to do -emotional eating gets me each time
    1957 days ago
  • DEDE824
    emoticon I don't think people who have not walked in your shoes (or similar ones) can understand. Hang in there and be part of the 20% who have lost it for good!
    1957 days ago
  • KIMBERLY0916
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    1957 days ago
    I am just starting out on my weight loss goal but if I'm really honest with myself it's a life long chore. I love when I get down to a reasonable weight and have learned the hard way, to maintain is the hardest part. Your words of wisdom help. If only we could all get are heads around the new normal. Keep up the good work
    1957 days ago
  • NETSUE64
    You have defined the difference between a diet and a lifestyle!
    1957 days ago
    Congratulations on your weight loss. People have to understand that this is your New Normal. I always say maintenance is way harder than weight loss...we can't go back to the way it was before....stick to your guns and you will be great. Congrats again.
    1957 days ago
    Congratulations, that is what spark people teaches you, to learn to choose your optiones, eat lealthy, and not live a deprived life but always to remember that it is up to you to keep it up.
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    1957 days ago
    You are showing great wisdom............I know, like you, if I eat the
    wrong thing I will start putting the pounds on again. I am not at my
    goal yet, but I know I will get there.....but I also know how hard it is
    to maintain, so follow your own routine that you know is working
    for you.....and I know you will be one of the winners in the maintainence

    1957 days ago
    Great blog....so true!
    1957 days ago
    Way to go! Congrats on being on the maintenance state, and more power to you to maintain.
    1957 days ago
    Thank you for your heart-felt words. I can really sympathise with this and must admit I haven't been as strong in ignoring temptation as you are at times but I am still amazed at the attitude of those around us. I've been told by a few close friends and family not to lose 'too much' now that I've actually made a lot of progress and am looking different. I'm not even at my goal weight yet!
    I know they mean well but its hard enough to keep motivated and strong sometimes without other people teling you to stop being so good. Your words have given me a new resolve. I'm going to a work night out tonight and my new goal is to come home feeling proud of myself - not ashamed!
    1957 days ago
  • DIETER27
    Congratulations . Great attitude. Thanks for sharing this. It will helkp me out over the holidays with dealing with friends and family pushing food at me when I am on my weight loss journey. I can't thank you enough!
    1957 days ago
    Way to go YOU! Congratulations on setting great boundaries with friends and sticking to what you know in your heart to be right and good for you.
    1957 days ago
    Good for you. It's hard not to get frustrated when other people push food.
    1957 days ago
    Thanks for sharing your blog. It got me thinking about how I will try to approach my own journey - I am on day 3.

    I sometimes become frustrated with daily weigh ins because of boloating issues. Seeing the water weight added and then lower the next day after taking lasix deceives me into thinking I have lost weight. Totally see-saw numbers. Perhaps a weekly weigh in might resolve that now that I am actively managing my diet and exercise in an organized fashion

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    Keep up the great work. You can do this!
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    1957 days ago
    Great blog! I totally agree and can relate to everything you wrote! It's too hard just losing the weight this time around and I definitely don't want to have to do it again. I think the "weighing yourself every day" is such a personal choice, You have to know what works for you. For some people, maybe it's not a good thing, but I have to weigh myself everyday, too. I can very easily delude myself into thinking I'm NOT gaining weight back when, if I don't keep an eye on it daily, I am!
    Well intentioned friends and family think we are "depriving" ourselves, when in reality THEY are the ones depriving themselves of good health. It's OK, most people are truly not trying to derail our lifestyle, they're just trying to love us, and here in Midwestern USA, that always involves food!
    I would say, "Keep up the great lifestyle!", but after reading your blog, I know you will!
    A fellow Sparker,
    1957 days ago
    Good for you! This is such a busy time of year with so many temptations to overeat. I am still working on the last 15 pounds; if they ever come off, I don't want them back. emoticon
    1957 days ago
  • MKM2409

    Good for you! I'm having a hard time staying out of the Christmas cookies, etc. and you have given me such inspiration. I'm going to try to follow your example.
    1957 days ago
  • JUNETTA2002
    Good on you
    1957 days ago
  • STHOMAS1009
    YEAH for you!!!!
    1957 days ago
    great blog. congratulations on your success. I like the way you are thinking about it, and see success in your future.
    1957 days ago

    Thank you for the reminder that once you reach your weight loss goal, you still have to keep eating and exercise the same way to keep it off. Congratulations on your weight loss and your new world of cute clothe.
    1957 days ago
    best of luck and just keep smiling others either get it or they don't su re would like to know how you lost those last 10 I've been maintaining for months but really wanting to drop 10
    1957 days ago
    You ROCK! You've inspired so many ... including me! Thank you so much for sharing.
    1957 days ago
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