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Why My Weight Loss is a Secret

Thursday, November 15, 2012

I have been on this journey for a long time. Most times I am losing the same weight over and over again. 2 years ago when I decided to lose weight I did something that I have never done before- I kept it to myself. Why you might ask when everything preaches to "get a network of support" and "do it with a friend".

I realized that "for me" with certain things I work best ALONE. In the past when I told others it then became a cruel game of "watch Nicole mess up, what is she putting in her mouth now" and I found that when I told others of what I was doing it just seemed (to me) that people around me did everything in their power to undermine my efforts. When I say that I am trying to eat better and lose weight someone always brings home donuts or cake, or cook something they know I have a weakness for and when I give in to it, then I am stared at and ridiculed. Of course this could all be in my mind but I really don't think I'm crazy.

The last time I took this approach it worked wonderfully and by the time people realized that I was slimmer and looked different, I was 30lbs lighter and well on my way.

So this time I am doing it again. I have not told anyone what I am doing and mysteriously there is no cake or lavish meals being cooked and all is well. I realized that I don't need anyone's seal of approval or brotherhood mentality to do this. I don't think anyone in my immediate circle really understands. And that's ok. I am in good company here on SP and here, since we are all going through the same thing and facing the same obstacles day to day, I realized that I have all the support I need to get through this and succeed.

I'm just really happy to be back!

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  • no profile photo CD5473425
    Find what works and GO FOR IT
    2985 days ago
  • SUNSET09
    Welcome back Nikki! What tends to happen is, although some may be sabotaging you out of jealousy or they realize they may need to follow suit, you are more aware of these things because it is a life style change for you and a learning experience. As you are elevated, the temptation elevates itself as well. Some do it out of love, some may think you’re losing too much and food is the answer. If it works for you to keep it to yourself, girl do YOU! I understand as I prefer my friends to notice and compliment instead of seeing a few pounds and bragging about it when no one else sees it but me. Keep on, keeping on! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2985 days ago
    Good luck on your journey. You can do anything you put your mind to. emoticon
    2985 days ago
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