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I'm not a Coward, I've just Never Been Tested

Monday, November 05, 2012

Again, this is a song that I picked up long before Hurricane Sandy. There are quite a few images of devastation from my home town and surrounding environs. And it really is awful to see. My folks, who still live in the area, fled after a few days of no power. According to a neighbor, there is now power on an adjacent street. Hence when they return on Tuesday to vote, I think we can assume the electrons will be lassoed and corralled and back to doing what they were supposed to have been doing all along.

But through it all, considering even this, the truth is, the blog title still stands.

What awful things have happened to me? I lost my grandparents when I was pretty young - I never knew my father's father at all. I have lost jobs, and I have held work that I hated. Other relatives are gone; I am utterly uncle-free now. Friends have been through divorces, and have lost their parents. I have been through some weather muck of my own.

But in much of it, it seems, I am the detached observer. My parents are still here. My house is still standing. My credit is not torn to shreds. My marriage is strong and vibrant.

I am not asking for calamities to now fall on my head. Don't misunderstand me. But I am trying in some small way to gain and nurture perspective.

The other day, amidst all of the FB status updates about Sandy and getting power back and helping others, or not having power, or waiting in gas lines, or concern for others, or about the election, there was one Facebook status update that stood out like a sore thumb.

It was someone whining about gaining a few pounds.

I about leapt out of my seat.


Now, for this person, perhaps that was the end of the world. But really!

Slow down. Take a deep breath. Look around you.

A boatload (heh, pun partly intended) of people are now homeless. Schools are still closed. Infrastructure needs to be repaired.

There's an election going on. There is a lot of unemployment. Cancer and HIV still ain't cured.

Let's go global. Ever see pictures of an Indian slum? How 'bout pollution in Bulgaria? Animals that we call pets other people often call food. There's a lot out there, and a lot of it isn't sunshine and roses.

But through it all - the focus was on - what?!!??! - a few pounds gained.

Hey, you had pounds to gain.

The world is not just a black cloud. There is plenty of goodness. There are reams of wonder. There are wild horses, and there are people falling in love. There are folks who are fighting for change. There are scientists working for cures, and doctors delivering babies. There are ancient folk imparting their wisdom and there are engineers designing better tools for our lives. There are kids helping little old ladies across the street, and there are families adopting puppies and kittens. There are stars and there are chrysanthemums. There are books to read, and there's art to appreciate, or even to critique.

Pounds will come, and pounds will go. Step back and have some perspective and chill the F out when it comes to only a few of 'em. I am not saying to let yourself go.

What I am saying is - give yourself a break, and give the world a break. Hell, ya both need it.
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    Funny that. On my FB page there appeared the usual Spark updates..."hit like if you did 10 minutes of fitness"...sort of stuff. In the midst of all kinds of chaos being posted by pals. I usually like it. And I like it here. But Spark posts felt out of place during Sandy. It ought to be a relief to keep the focus on something I am woking to control. It isn't though.
    3106 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    I am embarrassed for that person, to be so shallow and narcissistic! I hav eno aunts, no uncles, no dad, no grandparents, a handful of cousins and a mom and two sisters.
    I am grateful I had some of those lost for a while in my life,, I just replaced two toilets!! I did not grumble, because I HAVE TWO TOILETS, TWO BATHROOMS... they are enclosed inside walls, not flooded or without power.. I was able to pay for them, able to work to get the $$ to pay.. etc, ad nauseum..

    I gained too: a new perspective on what is really important in life..

    3107 days ago
  • TEMPEST272002
    Perspective really is key. And you're absolutely right - a few pounds gained is not a calamity.
    3108 days ago
    3108 days ago
    Well Said !!!!!!!! emoticon
    3108 days ago
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    You know, I believe that those of us who go through life and do the best we can with what we've got are being tested every day.

    Don't sell yourself short.
    3108 days ago
  • QUAIL75
    I completely agree! You have to keep things in perspective and count your blessings!
    3108 days ago
    Great thoughts Jes, a little perspective goes a long way toward keeping one's sanity, eh? :-)

    3108 days ago
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