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Sunday, November 04, 2012

Yesterday, my friend and I went and checked out a new (to us, anyhow) gym. Planet Fitness. It's only $10/month and they have plenty of cardio equipment and stuff like that. They have a circut like Curves for strength training plus they also have the same machines in duplicate and triplicate in another area of the gym so you can do just regular strength training on your own timetable. We are waiting for the 7th to join because the initiation fee drops from $29.99 to $10. So, I will be planning on going to the gym at least 3 times a week. I'd like to go 5 days, but I'll plan on 3 and if I go more, that's just a bonus!!!
I have been eating within my calorie range most days, but not necessailry the healthiest of foods. I am working on that.
I tried today to talk my wife into losing weight-she weighs around 370 lbs. and she got defensive, told me it was my fault for her being overweight because I buy her candy bars or milkshakes and stuff like that. The problem is, if I don't buy the stuff for her, I get all kinds of heck!!! I want her to lose weight, she has all kind of health problems and I tried to explain it to her that way, but she wouldn't listen. I entered everything she ate today into my tracker to see how many calories she really is eating, and it was 4358!!!! And she told me that she wants part of a hoagie that is in the fridge for a snack at 10 pm. I don't know. I guess I'll have to learn to live without her eventually. emoticon
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    You can do it!!
    For the longest time ( and this is just me relating my story as it popped in my head from reading your blog emoticon ) I used to get so upset at hubz and his mom, they eat the ickiest garbage. I wanted to eat healthier, be more active but for whatever reason felt I needed it to be a group effort. Finally i had a little Epiphany and it became clear to me that nobody but me was in charge of me and what I put in my mouth or how much I moved. Funniest thing happened I started moving and eating healthier. I still get upset when I go to the grocery store with them and have been dubbed the food nazi!! THEN the strangest thing happened : I started preparing healthy dinners and they liked them!! I know it is hard to watch your wife eat so unhealthy but remember to feel pride in the steps you are taking for you and try to support her and hopefully she will come around.
    Congrats on the gym membership, when I lived in NOLA me and the BFF got a gym membership together and whenever one of us wanted to skip out, oh no!!Get your butt up and come with me we had a workout date!! IT was nice :)

    just a thought, have you showed your wife her food intake on your logger? I am bad about mindless grazing etc. and until i started logging had no idea just how much I was eating, it was so easy to ignore the bites taken while cooking etc.

    AND tell her we would love to have her along on the walk challenge over at It's A Pugs Life :P I am sure coco would too ;)
    2017 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/13/2012 12:43:22 PM
    That's hard. I think the best thing for you to do is to be a good example...she'll see how well you are doing and follow your lead. Hang in there! Keep up the good work! The new gym sounds awesome! Spark on! emoticon emoticon
    2021 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    So cool that you found an inexpensive gym! Use that as a place to burn off that stress! You know you can't change her, but you can set a good example. Remember that she may be feeling jealous because you are making progress. Her self denial, self-esteem, whatever it is may make her lash out at you. Easy for me to say, hard for me to live, but try not to take it personally. Take care of yourself. Take a walk if you need to just to clear your head and calm your heart.
    2025 days ago
  • PEBBLES706
    Stay strong my friend
    2025 days ago
    You can't control someone else's behavior, but maybe you can set a good example for her. Joining a gym is a great idea. I love lifting weights, doing yoga, and taking cycle spin classes. I'm at the gym almost every day now.
    2025 days ago
  • SUSIEQ911
    Good for you for taking care of yourself regardless of what your wife is doing.

    I don't think you can talk someone into losing weight though. You can express concern, but that's about it. She has to make the decision on her own.

    Can you talk to her again and let her know you are just concerned about her health and let her know you won't be the vehicle for her to keep eating the way she does? She should NOT be putting you in that position. If she wants to continue to eat that was let her do it to herself.
    2025 days ago
    emoticon I am with you.
    2026 days ago
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