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It seems that the journey of my life is ever changing, which, I guess is good. It would be much sca

Thursday, November 01, 2012

It seems that the journey of my life is ever changing, which, I guess is good. It would be much scarier if my life never changed…

I met a most amazing guy right after I lost 30 pounds, which was half way to my goal weight. Since dating him now for almost nine months, I have not lost any more weight.

One of the great things about him is that he had also recently lost 30 pounds. We had similar stories and understood the challenges of eating out and eating with-in a calorie budget.

Everything had been going the greatest until his 20 year old daughter and her boyfriend moved in with him. To make a long story short, she is the product of a split home and apparently has had no discipline. My boyfriend had seen his daughter for shorts periods of time when she was growing up and always spoiled her tremendously on the few days he saw her. She expects s the same treatment even though she is now living there. She does not work and does not go to school. A friend of mine summed it up the best when she called my boyfriend a “Disney Daddy”

Anyhow, I had enough of having every “date” night with him wrecked because of her temper tantrums that would rival a two year olds(And when I say temper tantrum, I am talking the kind that makes people get up and walk away or stop and stare). He always defended her and said that she needed some guidance and understanding from her father that she did not get during her childhood. I agreed and that I needed to step out of the picture and let him raise his daughter.

We decided to “take a break” and I have decided to take this time of not seeing him and continue on my journey of self improvement. Not only have I been focusing on doing my meditation daily, I also have gotten more time to make sure I get my work outs in. I am focused on keeping track on my calorie count, which is tremendously easier when I prepare my own food.

I think my guy is the most amazing guy and I worry that we may not be together still after our “break”. I don’t know how long I am willing to wait for him to stop being “Disney Daddy” to his daughter and actually say the word “no” to her.

Life is ironic as I have actually had 2 really great dates with my boyfriend since telling him that I was going to step aside and let him “raise” his 20 year old daughter. And the best part of those dates was that she was not with us 
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    Oh I relate so well to the idea of giving him some space to grow up! I hope it goes well for you, but I think you've made the right decision no matter what to focus on yourself. Way to go!
    2361 days ago
    I am just amazed how loosing weight changes us, and when we change, how our life changes.
    2362 days ago
    I think you made the right decision. Hugs to you! Hopefully things will work out.
    2363 days ago
    Perhaps they both need to grow up for their roles in life.
    I am so proud that you took time for you and are putting your needs and sanity first.
    2364 days ago
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