Stop being a Debby downer!
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
I'll admit I was a the biggest offender in the Debby downer club. I always had something negative to say about myself and my life. I dwelled on everything I wish would be better but never did anything to change it. I kind of expected it to change on it's own. News flash no matter how many stars you wish on your just not going to wake up with the perfect body and or life. When you come to realize that it's only you who is in charge of your happiness one of the first things you have to do is get out of that damn Debby downer persona.
Ok so your overweight, it sucks and you don't get why you can't be skinny like your size 6 friend who can eat whatever she wants and not gain an oz, don't sit and be jealous get your ass up and work for it! Everyone's body is different and sometimes unfortunately your metablasim is slower then a snail. Contrary to your belief it can be changed but you have to realize no two body's are going to work the same and you just have to accept that you may have to work harder then others to get yours the way you want it.
So that person you really like or married or dated or was with for years has ignored you, fell for someone else, stooped loving you, or just ended up being a flat out asshole and yea that sucks but what is not going to help is sitting there and beating yourself up over and over for it. I'v been there, many times and it's not something I enjoy but I have come to learn that the best thing to do is to not get over it but to accept it and move on. Your best medicine is to use every once of anger as motivation. Guess what? a little plus to that is half the people that f*ck you over (excuse my french) expect you to become terribly depressed and hate life after they have thrown you out like yesterday's trash but what they wont expect is that your happy as ever and that really crappy moment in life was the best thing that's ever happened to you. Don't try getting them back if they loved you they would have never failed you in the first place. Don't waist the energy saying "How could they do this to me, I don't deserve this, Why me.?" Be thankful you are rid of them. You are an awesome person and deserve the world, and if someone can't give it to you stop sulking and give it to yourself!
This blog sounds harsh, and nonsensitive but frankly I wish I had read something like this out there many months ago. Reality is sometimes very hard to accept. Like it or not you do need that person who isn't going to sugar coat their advice and that will make you realize life will not always go the direction you wanted but you can change it's coarse and you are the only person responsible for your happiness, not that job or significant other, or nature even. Yes those things can make you happy but it's you who is to keep it steering on the right path. So Debby stop being a downer about the things you can not change and get up and change the things you can!