How do people do it?!?!?

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Let me start off this blog by saying that I love each and every one of my friends. And I don't mean to come off as cocky when I say that I have a fair number of them. I value having lots of relationships with people and I like a lot of different activities, so I collect different friends at each. I also manage to hold onto people for a long time (maybe because I only get around to seeing them once in a while!) I can't even imagine what people with children feel like with so many more connections and chores! So, that being said, how the heck do other people find the time to keep up with everything going on their lives?!?!

I feel like I never have enough time to do everything. This fitness journey takes up a sizable chunk of time and I'm having a hard time keeping up with everything else. I guess part of the problem is my definition of a workout. It's pretty strict. In order for me to feel good about working out, I need it to be at least 20 (preferably 30) minutes of focused exercise time and I like it all at once so I can shower after. I need to sweat to feel worked out. Right now I have a boot camp on Mondays at 6:30 and Wednesdays at 8:30, then I try to fit in three other workouts throughout the week (just cardio at the moment, but I really want to incorporate strength) At least one friend goes to the gym with me (KOKITTY) so I see her regularly!

I have a full time job, 9-5 and an hour commute each way. That doesn't leave a lot of hours when I get home for all that I want to do. Plus, occasionally I attend political events or social dinners with my boss. (I am seriously considering early work outs, maybe once a week to start, but I have yet to get my butt out of bed for that lol)

Friends often ask if I want to meet for a happy hour or dinner (or both) or brunch on the weekends, or whatever else is going on. I have thought about trying to make my hang outs with friends more about fitness than drinking, but that's very hard! As the weather gets colder, it's going to get harder. Since I like to sweat when working out, I can't think of good activities to do that are also cheap. Any suggestions? I wish we all belonged to the same gym....

There are at least two friends who live about 45 minutes away who have been on my "to-see" list for weeks (dare I say, months!) One has a toddler, so we need to get together at her house and with the boy. He's very adorable, but will require our attention while we visit. A walk around the block would be a nice step up from no activity, but it still wouldn't count toward my five workouts a week, so after getting off work at 5, getting to her house, walking, dinner, visiting, and driving home, I would potentially still have to go to the gym. The other friend is a runner (yay!) but he runs significantly faster and farther than I do, so we couldn't do that together. Sadly for them, I just keep putting off seeing them. Makes me sad too!

I have newly discovered that I really really enjoy my "me-time". Time at home or at a coffee shop reflecting and relaxing, or even just getting some check marks onto my never ending to do list. Working out satisfies a little of this time for me, but it's too focused to fulfill my whole need.

Oh yeah, and I like to sleep.... Sorry this blog just rambled on and on and was mostly me complaining about being busy. I know that these are great things to have to complain about because it means there is lots of love in my life! I would love any suggestions from you folks on time management! I know the go-to is to prioritize, but I'm terrible at that. I either WANT to do it all or actually feel like I have to do it (and can't get that out of my head).

Again, I can't even imagine what it's like for people with kids!!
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    some people are more organized than i am, some look busy but they aren't really doing anything. i learned long ago that i have time for what is important to me. i also can make time for things the outside imposes on me, like work or extended family time, because they are important. the only time i feel pressured is when my time conflicts with outsider time.
    3052 days ago
    I'm an advocate for early workouts! It's a pain to wake up but other than sleep there is no other commitments that get in the way. Of course that might bump up your bedtime too which defintely runs into issues with socializing! I think the idea of active get togethers is a good one, try to incorporate groups of friends so you can see them all at once!
    I feel like any creative endeavors on my behalf get sacraficed in place of getting out and being active but I also realize there is a cycle. In the summer I am going to be outside and if I am lucky I can incorporate photography or art. In the winters I am more likely to be inside getting more chances to craft it up or read or write, etc.
    Good luck!
    3052 days ago
    This has just been my observation. People make time for what's most important to them. I used to work at a gym. I'd see some ladies in there up to three times a day for lengthy amounts of time. Of course these ladies did not have jobs so that freed up A LOT of time. But I knew they were married and had children. Now, without sounding judgemental, working out was more important to them than family time was. They would have their kids in the gym's day care for 2hr incruments each visit. They took time out of their day that would have been spent either working, hanging out with friends, or being with family to make ample gym time. From experience I have been one of those people. I've been in recovery from bulimia for 4 years now. When I was in midst of the eating disorder I was at the gym whenever I wasn't working. I'd make time for friends & family here or there but my primary devotion was exercise. Looking back now, I really had no life outside of exercise! There has to a happy medium. Maybe a little time at the gym and a little time for social events, even if neither were for the amount of time you'd usually spend there. Don't be too hard on yourself if you're not knocking it out at the gym like some people do. We never know their schedules. They may have part time jobs with lots of free time. Or they may chose gym time over being with friends and family. To me you seem to be a healthy person. Whatever you are doing right now looks to be working for you. So with that being said, when you come to the end of your life would you rather think "Wow, I wish I would have spent more time at the gym" or "I wish I would have made more time for my friends/family, me time, travel" There is no wrong answer. It is simply whatever suits you best! Best of luck. I hope your schedule is exactly what you need it to be. :)
    3053 days ago
    I do not have an answer....other than when my life feels too busy I ask myself what is truly important to me. Once I get that answered I rearrange or cut out things that are crowding out the important. Lowering my expectations helps too. Good luck to you! emoticon
    3053 days ago
  • SLEE103
    oh vey, I hear ya! I have similar yet opposite problems...let me explain. I'm relatively new to the area I live in now so I don't have a lot of friends. It's hard to meet people when you work long hours, workout, and maybe sleep. I've joined Meetup but all the meetups involve happy hours, dinners, brunches, etc. everything I'm trying to stay away from. Or there's running clubs. Which I can't do either because I can't run (knee problems). I'm constantly on the lookout for festivals, day trips, hikes, etc. that are in my area so maybe you can find things like that as well?

    and keep that "me time" up, it's so worth it emoticon
    3053 days ago
    The reason I got a smart phone, really, was the calendar function. I need it to function. I need a detailed list of everything I do, and a little beeping alarm to remind me to do it. A paper book doesn't work, because I only check it to put things into the calendar, or when it beeps (I have yet to have a paper agenda beep at me)

    Of my officially free time, I have 2 mostly free days, and one "me" evening when I plan grocery trips, shopping, and vegetative time. In those days I plan to visit with people who don't make my regularly scheduled programming.

    Without my calendar, without my phone, I would go bonkers!
    3053 days ago
    UGH I HEAR YA. No really, I feel like this captured everything I have been wondering about too. How do they do it?!

    I have been trying to squeeze walks in on my lunch break. Every little bit helps. I'm trying to learn to say no to people, but it is hard! I also have work functions I have to attend after hours sometimes. And when do you get errands done?!

    I have been considering the morning workouts, but I have to be at work at 730 (with an hour commute - so I would have to be up at like 330am to work out!) and I too am someone who needs sleep to function.

    If you figure it out - help a sister out! Let me know! Because I have no idea!
    3053 days ago
    More jump street, less happy hour? Or hula hooping and jump roping in one of the lovely parks around Denver! Who doesn't like playing like a kid? Plus exercise is more uplifting than a drink, so maybe some friends would be up for it! :)

    (trying to help give good ideas, I swear. lol)
    3053 days ago
    I love your idea of incorporating fitness into your gatherings! I know it can be hard though, especially with the cold coming in and when your friends have a different fitness level. AM workouts could be awesome, but I totally feel you on waking up early enough to get a workout in! Have you tried a pedometer? Or a brisk walk during your lunch break? Honestly, if you wanna make another gym date once a week and plan around it religiously like a boot camp class, I'm down. We can push each other to do more strength!
    As for your friend with the kiddo, what about a walk to a nearby park and some play time on the playground? And as for Sean... well... since he'll run outside in any weather I bet he'd hike or walk around anywhere in any weather too!

    3053 days ago
    Something that helps me is to arrange time for chores that will eventually make you faster. Things like what you see on the site too, arrange for snack packs in advance. Or, use your 'cleaning time' as 'me time'. I can totally enjoy cleaning if I put on some nice music and go all out singing along with musicals and what not. Another, though counter intuitive to the site, is to not read all the blogs and emails and articles on SP every day. This have saved me over 2 hours daily. Hope you can find a way to balance things!
    3053 days ago
    Some days it just seems like there isn't enough hours in the day for us to get what we need to get done. Hang in there it willget better..

    3053 days ago
    well for me i just have to prioritize what i have going on especially since i have 3 kids and its not to bad since i have a 6 year old 12ms and 2ms its just a matter of whats important
    3053 days ago
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