In an instant...

Monday, October 15, 2012

everything can change.

Two women died in a tragic car accident in the middle of town this morning on a busy street, during prime "get the kids to school time." They were walking across a busy street, not at a crosswalk, with a baby in a stroller. A baby is motherless, other children are motherless as well. Husbands are grieving. The driver of the car that hit them probably wasn't driving fast, wasn't texting, probably wasn't on the phone, and was probably paying attention because it was difficult to see because of the glare from the sun. She was headed east, right into it. Probably never saw the people in the street. Another friend witnessed it...while driving her own child to school. She could have been the could have several others...

The driver of the car is one of the most wonderful women I know. She goes out of her way to do kind, mindful things for others. She organizes and participates in charity events to help families in need. She always puts others before herself. She's kind, giving, compassionate, honest. She was driving her son to school and then was going to go to work.

My heart is breaking for her. Of course I feel awful for the families of the women who died...don't get me wrong. This was a horrible accident. And my friend, one of the most beautiful people in the world, is devastated for them.

I read the comments that follow the news articles online. I shouldn't. It only makes me angry and sad for the way our society handles tragedy like this. 99% of the people commenting weren't there. They are jumping to conclusions, making statements as though they are fact, when they very well may not be--it'll be a while before we know anything. Making assumptions about the sort of person she is, the sort of person the women who died were. Clearly, they say, one party or the other was drinking! Of course, speed and texting were the cause! It's evident, they state, that negligence on the part of the pedestrians was the problem! How does any of them know what is true? What is not? Yet they spout off maliciously about how the pedestrians got what they deserved and the driver ought to spend a lifetime in jail for purposely running down a family. But not one...not ONE has expressed sympathy for anyone except the sister of one of the women who died--and her sympathy...her statements...were in defense of my friend, a woman she doesn't even know.

Does fault matter right now? Right this moment? Is that really what is the most important thing? Three families are grieving. The loss of their mothers, sisters, one manner or another. A little boy was in the car when it struck other human beings...his mother will never, ever be the same and neither will he. The lives of three families are changed forever... Instead of placing blame, as seems to be our first instinct, have some sympathy for all of them... I have to admire the sister for having such a good, open heart, to be able, in the midst of her own grief, to set aside any anger she undoubtedly feels and defend my friend.

Not one of these three women left their homes this morning thinking that in an instant, life as they knew it would be abruptly changed.

It only takes a second for everything to become significantly different.
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    I saw this on the news. How amazingly sad for everyone involved. I too avoid reading comments. In our society there's no such thing as an accident any more. There's no such thing as a chain of events happening that lead to an event or accident. It has become 100% about blame. To me that is so sad. It makes me sad that this driver will probably get hateful messages or threats for something they had no control over.

    Of course I am saddened for the deaths of two people and for their families. But I am sad for this driver too.
    2045 days ago
    You are so right - your blog encapsulates the situation perfectly.

    My sympathies go out to all involved - such a tragic turn of events.
    2045 days ago
    Oh, I am so sorry for everyone involved in this awful tragedy. Yes, in a instant everything can change. My prayers and thoughts are with everyone who has suffered.
    2045 days ago
  • ALICIA214

    A terrible tragedy all around a lot of pain for all concerned.
    2045 days ago
    emoticon emoticon I am truly sorry for your pain. In this situation we need to realize that everyone involved is in pain. Lives will never be the same. Hugs and prayers for all involved and there families. emoticon emoticon prayers/hugs for you and your such a wonderful person to express how society has become so harsh and always pointing fingers at others in pain. emoticon your friend is lucky to have you, and will need you. emoticon sending sunshine your way. Judy.
    2045 days ago
    My heartfelt sympathy and prayers for you and the families involved. There are no words that are sufficient to comfort, but know that you are not alone. emoticon
    2045 days ago
  • KAYE454
    Yes I know first hand first hand life can change in a minute
    2045 days ago
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