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That "Look"

Thursday, October 04, 2012 know the one I mean -- initial shock, followed by a little laugh (because they're not entirely sure if you're jacking with them), immediately followed by a slightly desperate attempt to recover from shock and transition into something close to "blasé"?

No? Well, let me break this down:

I spent the last few days on a video shoot, with my crew. We were shooting at a corporate location, and our contact there was a teeny-tiny woman who, had she been a stranger walking down the street, I would likely have been jealous of how "fit" she appeared to be and how nicely her clothes fit her.

So, we're shooting. And when we have productions like these, they are all-day affairs (this particular shoot was actually a multiple-day affair, but the conversation I'm going to tell you about happened on the first day).

Shoot days are usually 10-hour days -- and you're literally on your feet for nine out of those ten hours, sometimes more. It's tiring, yeah, and very physical, even if you're not lugging gear with my crew. You come to expect that after a day of shooting, you'll need some level of recovery time, whether that means just taking it easy that night, taking a handful of ibuprofen to help with the aches and pains, or taking a relaxing bath to soothe your tired feet and get you ready for the next day of shooting. Happily, most of us don't do this every day.

But, back to Day One of our shoot. Our teeny-tiny contact was our escort for the day, which meant she was supposed to follow us around for the duration of the shoot. Around 3:30, we were setting up a shot and she plopped into a nearby couch, moaning and groaning loudly, "Oh, a place to sit! Oh, thank goodness!"

I asked her if she was okay, and she said that she was exhausted. We commiserated on the physicality of the job, and I told her a story about this 65-year-old gaffer I routinely work with who actually does do this every day of the week and runs marathons in order to keep his level of fitness up to the demands of the job.

Her eyebrows raised and she shot me an appraising look. "So, why aren't you huffing and puffing like me?"

Moment of hesitation, then I figured, eff it, why should I feel weird sharing this? "I'm a runner. Not marathons like Tim, but I run, too."

And that's when I got "The Look". There was a pause, and her eyes grew wide. Her mouth opened a bit, and her eyes actually darted down to my Size 20 self, re-assessing my body. Yep, still fat. A smile came to her face, as if to laugh, and then (I guess she was expecting a "Gotcha" or something?) looked me square in the face.

You could almost see the "Oh, you're *serious*" forming on the tip of her tongue.

Her face froze and she immediately started talking, shifting into forced "casual" conversation, laced with panic, punctuated with a lot of nodding -- like what I just said had not totally blown her mind and that I had not just totally witnessed her freaking out at the thought of a fat lady taking part in a challenging physical activity.

"Oh, you run. That' good." Big fake smile. Yes it is good, Sugarpop. Now can we get you off this couch and move on to the next shot, please?

Why is it so hard to for people to get that "fat" and "fit" can co-exist? Not surprisingly, the same people who have a difficult time understanding that also seem to have a hard time acknowledging that "thin" and "healthy" do NOT go hand-in-hand.

Whatevs, though, really.
I need to let it go.
Because the fact of the matter is, by the end of our production days, I was tired, but still on the move and she missed most of the last day on location because her back was hurting and her feet were swollen.
I'm not being catty.
(yes, I am)

Here's hoping that teeny-tiny learned something from the whole thing. Who knows, maybe she'll have gained a modicum of respect for fat girl fitness, and will hesitate before giving "The Look" to anyone in the near future!
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    Good for you - skinny is not healthier by all means - take it from The Witch Doctor aka LIL Racer . Skinny chicks are overrated by far. Good for her to see and hear that maybe their structure is different from ours- does not mean we not healthy. LIL Racer
    2256 days ago
    I remember my cousin coming home from the doctor, laughing. He's not a runner, but is pretty active. His doctor said, looking perplexed as he perused my cousin's cholesterol, blood sugar, and other indications, "You're the healthiest fat man I've ever seen?"

    When he told us we all burst out laughing (mostly because my coz is a wicked mimic, and the look on the doctor's face was precious!)

    Way to go!
    2259 days ago
    Bravo, girl!
    2259 days ago
  • KATYDID412
    "Yes, it is, Sugarpop." Love it!!!
    2259 days ago
    Kudos for smacking around the mind of teeny-tiny. Sounds like she needed to shift the rocks in her head!! emoticon
    2259 days ago
    Oh boy, she sounds like a very shallow person. You can be catty, I can imagine most anyone would feel the same way. I am proud of you!! Keep running. emoticon

    2259 days ago
  • ANNANN63
    emoticon I think it is great that you taught her something.
    2259 days ago
    people suck but you my dear, crack me the hell up! :)

    Git er! :)
    2259 days ago
    Interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing.
    2259 days ago
    I agree you have every right to be catty. and it would be fun to challenge her to a run but she couldn't even keep.up with ur daily routine. you go girl!
    2259 days ago
    You're brave. This is exactly why I almost never talk about running. I know it's my problem and not theirs (that I don't talk about it I mean, it's their problem and not mine if they have an issue with it) but I just hate hate HATE the look of surprise, assessment, the shrug off that I know means "she SAYS she runs but I bet she walks a lot and doesn't do more than a mile." It's funny, and your story is funny mostly because of the revenge factor that you were good to go when teeny tiny was moaning and groaning, but it is really infuriating as well. emoticon
    2259 days ago
    Heck, if I were you, I'd be totally catty, too! Way to show her how undefined her world REALLY is!
    2259 days ago
  • CHERRY666
    Rawr! Good for you. emoticon
    2259 days ago
  • HFAYE81
    I'd be catty too!!! It's funny but frustrating!!!!
    2259 days ago
    Grrr! This story is amusing and infuriating at the same time! I'm glad you showed her! Being larger does not necessarily mean being unhealthy! I wish people would get that through their thick skulls! I know that "look" well! I often get it when I mention to people how hard and how frequently I work out, lol!
    2259 days ago
    You should challenge her to a run! ;)

    People are so dumb when it comes to fitness. Seriously. I was talking to Yoda about this the other day. When I first started working out with him, I couldn't do even a sliver of what I can do now and not a lot has changed. I've just become stronger and more confident. My weight has nothing to do with whether or not I can do an exercise.
    2259 days ago
    Oh thats great!!
    wonderful story. Thanks for sharing!

    2259 days ago
    meow. emoticon

    I am somewhat serious about by yoga practice and people always give me a look of disbelief when I say I do yoga, until they see how bendy I am. Two of my good friends have just opened a yoga studio--one of them is a size 24, and she can do positions that most size 6s cannot master.

    Good for you for not smacking her, and ever better for you for showing her how tough you are.

    2259 days ago
    Love your style. Nay- sayers beware.Take that exploding like the bomb you are,Boom! OOps sorry I think you got some on ya!
    Yes, you are the bomb and sometimes the bomb goes off. emoticon
    2259 days ago
  • KELLY19770
    emoticon Great story!
    2259 days ago
    That's AWESOME!!! Good for you for showing up that teeny-weenie minded person! emoticon
    2259 days ago
    Bwahahaha you're entitled to be a bit catty. Go you for showing her fat and fit can co-exist and in the meantime we are working toward strengthening ourselves! Keep up the super awesomeness!
    2259 days ago
    A big ol'd eff u to her! emoticon
    2259 days ago
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