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Update - Bummed Out

Monday, October 01, 2012

Bad news... I didn't get the job.

Long story short. I applied for a job with a terrific company on August 7th. Was contacted a couple of weeks later to set up a phone interview. Had two (what I thought) were great in person interviews. Found out they contacted my former employer for references on September 13th. Today, October 1st, I received the rejection email. Para-phasing, "thank you for your interest. You have great qualifications. Unfortunately, due to the heavy volume of candidates, we can't offer a job to everyone". yadda yadda yadda.

I'm trying not to "ruminate". That was something I read about in one of the great Spark articles on overcoming stress. Don't replay the same events over and over and over in your mind. It's not healthy.

Some days looking for work is like being in a game of chutes and ladders. One day, you're going up up up the ladder. the next throw of the dice and you're going down down down the chute. I felt pretty optimistic after the second interview. Thought it went great and maybe it did. I knew it might take a while for them to reply. Waited for two weeks. Then sent an email asking if any decision had been made this past Saturday. I'll admit it, as the days went by after that interview, the more pessimistic things started to look.

Friends of mine said I should continue to be optimistic because I did make it this far into the interview process. Hard to be optimistic when you did make it that far only to be REJECTED in the end.

Needless to say, I'm totally bummed out. Just when I thought there was light at the end of the tunnel; now, I have to continue my search for a full time job. Which hasn't been easy as many of the fellow Sparkers in the same position know. What now ? I keep plugging along and hope that something turns up soon.

It's funny. I had a physical last week and when I told my doctor I'd been experiencing some mild depression since being laid off, he asked if I was "weepy". No, I was fine. Sure, I've had moments of depression these last few weeks, but on the whole... I've been okay and not weepy. Today... I feel more than a bit weepy and probably could use one of those anti-depressants he offered.

Being laid off sucks. Pardon my French.

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  • no profile photo LOVEXAVIE
    Totally sucks!

    But here's something else to consider, especially when the ruminating starts to take hold:

    Maybe there was something about that job - something you couldn't possibly have foreseen - that just wasn't right for you.
    And an even BETTER position will be made apparent for you soon. One that you wouldn't have seen if you took the other job.

    Sending you good thoughts and I just know the right job will come along and boy, will they be glad to have you!!
    2348 days ago
    Something else will come along! Hang in there.
    2377 days ago
    I am hoping the universe lines up an even more awesome job than you ever imagined! You deserve it! Anyway, I'm rooting for you! emoticon
    2390 days ago
    We have a saying in Greece, "every time God closes a door, he opens a window...".

    I'm not much of a believer but I agree with that. There are many opportunities and when the time is right you'll find exactly what is meant for you.

    Every obstacle you find on your way is there for a reason: Either to make you go another way or to make you stronger during your effort to overcome it.

    Just keep searching and I'm sure something very very good will come out of this.


    2391 days ago
    DH is at a gig he is meh about, it was contract to hire and they finally hired him FT about a year ago. Now rewind 2 years ago and he was interviewing. He was offered the job he is at right now and a job he just LOVED he was so completely sure he would get it. It was a job finally close to our house and the hours weren't crazy and it was a lateral move in salary so all good. Well there were actually 4 rounds of interviews 3 of which he had to go in for and he was on the fourth interview but did not get it. So he reluctantly took the one he is at now but is still forever looking. So long story short (too late) you aren't alone in disappointment over a job you really wanted but something will come along I promise! emoticon
    2392 days ago
    That does really suck. I hope something pops up soon for you.
    2392 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear about your not getting the job. You were so hopeful when we saw you. But I KNOW that anyone who puts the miles on their bod walking like YOU do can hang in there with this whole job thing. You amazed both of us!

    2394 days ago
    This is just a tough time for all in the job searching mode. The economy makes it to where they are getting so many applicants that they are even rejecting highly qualifieds. It just is what it is. We can only pray that things change soon and our govt. stops making jobs a political thing and gets off the backs of the folks that are trying to build complanies. That is the only way to get jobs going again. Keep it up though and keep the faith, there is always that silver lining out there.
    2394 days ago
    I'm so sorry that you didn't get the job, but put it this way - they didn't deserve you. I don't know what your situation is, but have you thought of opening your own spinning studio. I mean it doesn't have to be massive. Just a thought.

    With regard to feeling weepy, we all feel that way from time to time. I don't know how old you are, but are you anywhere near menopause? Maybe some St John's Wort.

    2395 days ago
    Oh, man that sucks! Sorry to hear that, and they lost out, because I'm sure you would have been great, and I hope the next opportunity is much much better. emoticon
    2395 days ago
    I am very sorry and sad for you! Hang in there, you'll find something just right for you!
    2396 days ago
    emoticon I'm sorry. I am one of the Sparkies that know how that feels. I'd just be reiterating what's already been said, but I do think this one wasn't "the one" for you and you'll find it soon enough- it's out there!
    2396 days ago
    I'm so sorry about the job. But I'm with the others. Something will come along that will be just perfect for YOU!
    2396 days ago
    emoticon It does suck, but it is also true it is a good sign that your skills and abilities are viable because you DID make it to a second interview. You never know what the deciding factor is. I once interviewed several times for a dream job, where I was a really good match. All but offered it to me last interview. Didn't get it. Why? It was tied to a university and last minute they were forced to take an internal transfer instead. Lost out due to politics, not me. Chin up!
    2396 days ago
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    2396 days ago
    There must be something better coming along or you would have landed that particular job. You know the saying 'When one door closes .....' That's what is at work here. emoticon to you for being laid off ... times are so tough and it is really a chore to think positive. Believe and it will all work out.
    2396 days ago

    I truly do hate (but believe in) the phrase "this too shall pass". Life definitely has its ups and downs, and right now you are suffering a down phase with respect to work.

    I have had my share of down phases (most notable was the death of my infant, firstborn son). But with the help of famiy and friends, I was able to overcome the black hole of grief and continue on to have children. What works for me is the "5-year plan". Whatever is bothering you right now--will that look the same in 5 years? Or think back to how far you've come in the past 5 years.

    You can do it. You will make it. This too shall pass.... emoticon
    2396 days ago
    Being laid off does stink. But you are dealing with it. Think about it honestly, will medicating make you really feel any better than exercising will? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep looking. I know it sounds trite, but sometimes the best things come from what feels like the worst situation. Somehow, things will work out. Just keep doing your best, and keep plugging along emoticon emoticon
    2396 days ago
  • JACKIE542
    So sorry! My two sons just graduated from college and can't find jobs. I always tell them when they are rejected it's because something better will come along, it was not the right job. They get very mad when I tell them that. I won't say that to you because I don't want you mad at me. lo.
    I do hope something comes very soon!! emoticon
    2396 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/1/2012 12:23:58 PM
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