Doing This Alone

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Considering how long I have been working to change my life, it dawned on me how alone I have been in all this. While reading an article today about how having a supportive network helps aid in weight loss and maintaining said weight loss, I realized I don't really have a network. My boyfriend is supportive, he bought my gym membership, heart rate monitor, motivates me to go exercise, and eats my healthy meals (even though he stays skinny regardless of diet!). But he truly is the only one that helps me, and even then when he is at work he eats McDonald's and such because he is away from home and can get away with it.

My family on the other hand (all of which are overweight/ obese) show absolutely no interest in eating healthy or exercising, yet they ridicule me for doing so! My father, who has existing health issues related primarily to his weight, is the worst. He picks at me when I pack my own food to family functions, or won't eat out with them, and cracks jokes about me whining that I didn't make it to the gym. My mom on the other hand shows interest in working out with me and trying to change her eating habits but what success can she have living in a home where no one else will.

It is really discouraging at times when they make me feel silly for eating right and exercising. Makes me wonder why I even try, and when I try to talk to them about it, they shut me out and completely close their minds to it! Every time there is a snide comment or fried food shoved under my nose a little more of my strength to keep pursuing this life chips away.

I always try to remind myself this isn't about them, it is about me and providing a healthier me for my darling Scarlett. I look at the struggle I am having now trying to learn how to eat healthy, and remind myself that if I don't stick with this, she could be me in 20 years..over weight and struggling to figure it all out. I want to be able to go out and play with her without getting winded, and I want her to be able to rely on me to be able to help her practice sports should she play one, and most importantly I want her to know I will live long enough to watch her reach all her milestones in life. It amazes me sometimes that my parents did/do not want that for us and their grandkids.

Motivates me even more!
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    It's too bad your family isn't supportive but always remember you are doing this for you!
    A lot of times, when others give you a hard time about your healthy lifestyle changes, it's because they don't understand it, and also it's like you are breaking ranks with them. And also when they see how the changes are affecting you, then they are forced to look at themselves.

    Keep doing what you are doing!

    2100 days ago
    Thank you far I have had great support here on Sparkpeople and I am thrilled about this new chapter in my life. I do believe that IZZA was on the money when she said I may make them feel inadequate and even jealous. However I cannot let that deter me from my goals, and I can only hope they see how much easier things are for me and will want the same. Thanks for the encouraging words! emoticon
    2101 days ago
  • SONITA34
    This is about you and none else, do not let anyone discourage you or stand in your way and i promise it will be rewarding in the end,if your family do not not to support you don't torture yourself over it, like my sister Lillean mentioned that is what spark people is for join a group make friends ( she is my motivation) emoticon
    2102 days ago
  • __IZZA__
    It might be that your family knows that they should be healthy but for some reason don't do anything about it. Therefore, when you talk about how healthy you are and they see how well you are doing they might feel bad about themselves not doing anything and make a joke about you to make themselves feel better again. I don't know your family so I obviously don't know if that could be true but it's the impression I get from your post.
    2102 days ago
    You are really good at self motivating and really it isn't about them but about you and you are doing this for yourself. It really sucks when you don't get motivation from the people you most expected but hey this is why spark people is here. emoticon
    2102 days ago
    It sucks that your family isn't supportive... but your reasons for living healthier are the right ones.

    Also, like Miatia1 said, we're not really alone... that's what sparkpeople is about :)
    2102 days ago
    That is very true. I have been on here about a week or so and so far everyone has been very supportive! emoticon
    2102 days ago
    If your involved with Sparks your not doing this alone unless you choose to. As far as friends and family else where from my own experiences I have concluded they don't want to give support for then they too would have to take a good look at themselves. emoticon
    2102 days ago
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