80,000-99,999 SparkPoints 81,835

opinions needed

Friday, September 14, 2012

Ok, so my soon to be ex husband has been out of the house for couple months now
We have joint custody of the dogs, so he comes by after work and gets them for the weekends. He still has keys to my house.

My question for everyone is when or if can I/ should I change the locks? I really don't like that he can come in anytime, but I can't always be there when he gets the puppies. Plus the divorce isn't final and it's still his mailing address.

What are your thoughts?
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
  • DOITNOW2018
    Every situation is different however, changing the locks would enforce the separation and divorce. VELRENO said it best about respecting yourself. The decision has been made so follow through *hugs*
    2047 days ago
    Either marriage full force or nothing at all. Change the locks. No explanations needed. It is not his home anymore. Return all his mail to po and tell him to put in a change of address. If he questions any of it just tell him your future husband is not ok with the liberties he is taking. You must show respect for yourself. How will mr right see it if me ex is still coming and going at will. I am sure the is not a new man yet but it is time your ex starts treating you with that respect. Same as if there were a new man.
    2048 days ago
    Once the divorce is final, the locks should be changed. It will no longer be his place. You can set up a convenient time for him to pick up the dogs.
    2049 days ago
    I think that you should change the locks. He has moved out and you have the right to your privacy. You don't have keys to just come and go at his place, so he doesn't need keys to yours. I would handle the custody of the dogs like with kids. Set up days and times that are convenient for both of you to switch off with the dogs.
    2049 days ago
    Change the locks now if you can, even though the divorce isn't final. He'll have to pick them up when it's convenient for you.
    2049 days ago
    Make sure your divorce includes your exclusive use of the home, and the requirement that he change his mailing address from the house, and the instant the ink is dry on the papers, change the locks.

    He'll just have to wait until it is convenient for YOU to pick up the "kids".

    Just sayin'
    2049 days ago
    You need him to sign first, then change the locks. He can make arrangements with you to pick up the pups just like people do with kids!
    2049 days ago
  • BECCAJ98
    I do want to.....I hate thought he can cone in.
    2049 days ago
  • BECCAJ98
    I don't like it, but don't know if I can since he hasn't signed and it's still his mailing address.
    2049 days ago
  • KAYDE53
    I always believe in a clean break for a divorce, so I would change my locks. I wouldn't want him coming & going. But you have to do what's right for you!! emoticon
    2049 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.

More Blogs by BECCAJ98