Too Much, Too soon working out & kids
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Hurt my back as July turned into August. Couldn't move by the 3rd week of Aug. Pain meds, stretching, heat, you name it I tried it and improved. Sept 3, I went to walk. Had to stop at a mile. Sept 9, I walked two miles. 36 hours later, my back freaked out. Frustrated! i was RUNNING 2+ miles! I did a sprint triathlon in July! I'd walked 1 mile a couple times leading up to the 2 miler. Too much too soon. Unfortunately, tonight my night to swim (and strengthen said Core muscles that stabilize my back), I've got parent commitments keeping me out of the water.
Which brings up too much too soon for my teenaged son. He spent 2 weeks in a psyche hospital after overdosing the first day of 9th grade on his bipolar meds and the pain pills for my back. (Aside: when I can barely walk in from work to get to my medicine, having to dig out my keys to unlock the medicine box really, really frustrated me!) Son came home on Saturday. An hour of him yelling at his parents: why can't I have my playstation, why am I grounded, I was punished already being in the hospital! As if that doesn't demonstrate his disconnect from reality. Son, you STOLE my medicine, you showed up stoned the first day of school. All kinds of consequences await you! After the hour of mean-ness, can you say difficulty with transition, he settled down. Monday, he was up at 5AM, dressed, wearing his backpack, so nervous about going back to school. He earned 5 days in school suspension for his choices the first day. He made it through monday, even had to write out all the ISS rules. He came home the 2nd day and said he's earned "strikes" for breaking the rules. Today, Wed, he got his 3 strikes within the first 30 mins of school and had to be sent home. Dad, then Mom missing work time juggling the child. Child who probably earned exactly what he wanted in getting sent home: a break from the overwhelming school transition. Too much too soon? If he can't function in school, if he can't handle himself at in-school suspension, shouldn't this be an indicator he needs more help psychologically? Still waiting to hear if his post-adoption services will pay for a residential treatment center for longer term care. The medicaid that was his adoption subsidy won't pay for long term care. If we put him on our private insurance to get him psych care, he loses medicaid. We don't have 4 grand a month to pay for his care in treatment. As parents, we're exhausted with worry, feeling incapable of meeting his needs and keeping him safe. We enrolled him in our county Mental Health Agency. Two weeks before we can do an intake interview and 3 weeks before a psychiatrist can see him. And he can't handle going to school! We've heard the waiting list for the state's mental health facility is months long. How do we cope? Honestly, if we can't generate a plan to help him in the next few weeks, it seems to me our best option to get him the help he needs is to take him back to Family Protective Services to say: he was ours for almost 15 years, but government bureaucracy prevents us from helping him any more. Protective services has the ability to get a kid treament, adoptive parents apparently don't.