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What I Did Instead Of Binge

Saturday, September 08, 2012

I've had a pretty rough morning. I'm still very sick, but I had to bring my darling daughter to soccer practice. While there I ran into the toxic friendship that I can never seem to escape, and we had a conversation that immediately brought up a lot of old, insecurity issues for me. I'm not sure why this one person affects me like this, but it's honestly not worth thinking about.

I want to talk about what I did.

I was pretty upset by the time practice was over and we were home. I had my usual out-of-control feelings, and I had the usual response of wanting to binge. It's a constant battle even now. But, today I chose to try something different. I sat down at my computer and opened Word. I don't share things like this on most blogs, so I intended it for my eyes only. I had no idea what I would write. I wanted to keep my hands busy. I wanted to vent and feel sorry for myself (while also beating myself up for being inadequate).

That's what I would normally write. But, today something different came out, and I feel like it's a true step in this journey. I decided to share it because it was so unexpected - and it actually made me feel better.

Talking Out The Crazy

Let’s pretend for a moment that you are a rational person. Let’s really think about what is actually happening in real life. Reality. Remember reality?

Honestly, you are in great shape – even with what remains of the belly. Remember what it used to look like? Ew. Get some confidence, girl. You do things other people don’t. Now I am not saying get cocky and be a jerk. Leave that to other people – you know who I mean. That’s not you. You’re fairly humble, but be quietly confident, too. You’ve earned that right, and you will again – and again – and again. Because that’s how you are.

You have a good heart. No matter who you were, you’re pretty awesome right now. You’ve worked hard to get there. You’ve been through a lot. And, you’ve fixed yourself. You worked through it, and once it’s worked through, it’s gone. It’s not coming back.

This is obviously a slow process. There are definitely still times that bits and pieces come back, but you’ve made huge progress. Every day work toward what you want your future to be. Never give up. FIGURE IT OUT. That’s how you improve. That’s how you grow.

Lately things have been clicking. Falling into place and working. Keep it up. It pays off. It’s been 4 years of hard work and facing fears, but where is the old Em now? She may still lurk around the periphery on occasion, but she knows not to show her face. You make healthy choices now. That’s normal. That’s your normal.

You can’t rush growth. Just know it is happening as long as you are trying. Keep learning. Keep dreaming and believing. It will come together.

And, that’s the other thing you have going for you. You’ve got time. 31 and you’ve completely turned your life around. Think about how long you have to enjoy it.

So, ENJOY it already! Stop being stupid and trying to compare yourself to others. You are you. You can only be you. So, be yourself and love your life. Every moment.
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    Big (((HUGS))) for you, my dear - you are awesome! Toxic friendships, or perhaps this one is a toxic acquaintanceship, don't do a person any good. Except in your case, it brought you to face your feelings and come out on top! Just push aside whatever feelings of inadequacy are lingering and tell them to get the heck outta Dodge - there's no room for them in your life. Why? Because you are beautiful, and you are worth it!
    2090 days ago
    This is amazing! What insight you have! you have inspired me to face challenges! Way to go!
    2112 days ago
    Wow! I'm incredibly proud of you! Thank you for sharing this as I'm going to try write instead of binge. emoticon
    2112 days ago
    What an amazing alternative to a binge. Thanks for sharing your strength with us.
    2113 days ago
    Wow, what a powerful blog. Beautifully written! I'm sorry you had that experience with the other person, but what a healthy way to work out the negative feelings. And those last words about stop comparing yourself to others, "you can only be you" - that's something I REALLY struggle with and really need to bear in mind myself, so that part was particularly powerful for me. Thank you for sharing.
    2113 days ago
    Hope you feel better soon. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Thanks for sharing this with us.
    2114 days ago
    Wow... talk about a healthy alternative to bingeing... I hope everyone who emotionally eats reads this!
    2114 days ago
    You're not being stupid, you're being human. We are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others. It's how we react that makes all of us different. I'm personally quite moved by how you've decided to react to this particular situation. It takes courage to openly share that voice in your head with the public.
    You have a lot more going for you than you've already mentioned.
    2114 days ago
  • ALICIA214

    emoticon I hope you are keeping that blog so that you can look back on it when
    you feel that you are slipping back. emoticon emoticon
    2114 days ago
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