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Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Onekidsmom make me think about what it was like to be a curvy and thin 14 year old. It sucked! It was open season on naive kid. Does this intense time of life make eating and gaining weight a viable option to get away from creepy dudes?

At fourteen, I weighed 105 pounds, was a varsity swimmer. I remember how men were disgusting! Strangers grabbed my at body at amusement parks ( I clocked one in the face and he chased me all across the park), weird guys on Chicago buses gave me groceries. And the things men said with their eyes and tone of voice (even my dad's friends....I told my big sister "I don't understand what he said but let's get out of here", as we were guests in Ontario for a day).

You don't need creep-dar (radar for creepy dudes) or perv-dar to understand these people mean you no good or are a little off balance. As a skinny curvy kid, there was never any peace. I hid in a bathroom once at a wedding from the father of the groom because all night he followed me and said "you look like Brigitte Nielsen". Later we did learn he had a borderline personality. At 14 little boys at the pool told me I was fat, and I believe them, because I had gained 10 pounds of muscle swimming varsity.

How is it different today? If anything, girls are losing their "kid" years earlier and the images we see in the media suggest that GIRLS are seeking sexual attention. Isn't it mostly the other way around? Does anyone else have a strong sense of how many creepy dudes are out there?

Are we standing by like my community did and allowing the hazing of young kids from predators and casual creeps? When you see and hear these things today, do you get involved?

Do you stand up for yourself and set boundaries well? What will I do when I get skinny again and someone might pinch my butt? Will I clock them like last time and wind up in the klink .. yikes!
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    I feel like women's bodies are often seen as something that it's "OK" to look at...It drives me crazy!!! I am so much more aware of the creepy factor now that I am a mother of a daughter. I will raise her to stand up for herself and hopefully to be confident enough that she can love herself through any leers and comments. Thanks for giving us all something to think about.
    2090 days ago
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    2090 days ago
    you would think that people could grow up but if you do clock them they deserve it my sister and I use to break ribs with our elbow I do not know if it was in purpose or not but thet guys left us alone
    2090 days ago
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