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Out with the old, in with the new, and a bit of a vent.

Sunday, September 02, 2012

So August...

1- Complete 1500+ minutes of fitness.
I fell WAY short of this With only 767 minutes. I had 13 days of missed opportunities in August. 13 days of NO exercise other than my normal errands/chores. I am NOT happy with myself on this one.
I am renewing this goal for September. I made it more than halfway with less than half of my days unused.

2- Lose 10 pounds.
6 pounds total...I am actually ok with this.
More than half and I think 10 pounds in 4 weeks is a bit of a reach for my body. I have always averaged 1-2 pounds a week. I think an appropriate change will be 7 lbs.

3- Lose 2 more inches from my waist.
I lost 1 inch...I'll take it!
The goal is still 2 inches for September!

I am still trying to deal with frustrations in my life.
For whatever reason, I get so irritated when people don't try as hard as I do. I don't ask anyone to do things that I would not do myself. (except kill spiders and other assorted creepies....but thats another blog!)

I thought about things today when I had some quiet time to myself. Weekends are hard for me...not in the physical sense, well, kinda physical...its hard to 'splain. Maybe I take things too personally, I dunno.
For instance;
I am working my butt off...literally.
I have been working overtime and dealing with things at work, most times, I come home and have to make supper, IF our room mate cooks, I usually need to cook something healthier to eat. Then, most of the time, I pick up around the apartment and usually I do the dishes because I get tired of looking at them.
I know that I have had some unused (aka un-exercised) days last month, but I managed to get a fair amount in.
I go to bed around 11pm if I am lucky.
My beau has a new job and is physically not able to do housework and will not be able to until we can afford his surgery/gets health insurance. My son is working too and should be able to make all his own bills this month and is in his own apartment. He does help me out if I ask, but I generally don't because he is working full time and lives by himself.

Our room mate works part time, and is thinking of quitting her job because they are 'rude' to her. We are lucky if she gives us 100 a month. (Our deal when she moved in was 300 a month which is about 1/3 of the bills). She does get foodstamps but usually spends it on items that we don't eat. Usually ice cream, milk, chips, koolaid, etc...I spent between 80-120 a week on healthy food, for myself, my beau, my son, her, and her kids when they are here. My beau even bought me a smaller fridge to keep the healthy stuff in because I cannot find things in the big one with all the crap in there.

She does do housework....but only if I make a big deal about dragging myself up to do it or if my beau says something to her about it. She generally sleeps until mid afternoon because she is up all night watching Netflix (which I pay for)

Some of this would not be a big deal, because we would be spending the money anyways, such as internet and Netflix....but I shouldn't have to ask for her help IMO!

She complains about wanting to lose weight, but when I point things out about her diet, she shrugs and does what she wants anyways. I hate when people say they want advice/help and then ignore it.

I suggested to her today that both Sonic and Wendy's are hiring and she told me about how she was up til 4am putting her resume online for manager positions and the TSA and etc...and totally blew me and my fast food suggestion off.

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want to work in a fast food place, BUT I WOULD IF I HAD TO! If it came down to me working in fast food and me not being able to pitch in and pay my way....all I have to say is 'You want fries with that?'

SOOOO, what happens is that on Sundays...and some Saturdays too (or when I am off of work due to an impending hurricane!) , I have a 'nap'. Today, I got up at 6, puttered around for a bit, made breakfast...then it hit me. I couldn't keep my eyes open. I crawled back into bed and stayed there until 1:30 this afternoon.

I know that I don't get a whole lot of rest during the week and part of it is partly my body trying to catch up....but part of it is also that I am unhappy with the situation at home. When I get overly stressed, my depression builds up. When my depression builds up, I sleep.
Which also upsets me as I have worked hard on myself to be medication free and have been med free for about 4 years now.is is the second time that my beau and I have helped someone out and been taken advantage of.

It makes me resentful and sadly, this will most likely be the last time that we ever help someone out with a place to live who is not family. Which also upsets me that it only took 2 people to make that change in me. I am a giving and caring person but will not take the chance again on someone taking advantage.
I am sure that my beau and I will help others out in the future, but it will be in other ways.

Now....I am off to stretch and get my behind and all my aches and pains out the door for tonight's jog before it gets dark!

Peace Out.
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    I would do $300 or get out, but with a list of rules-Like no crap in my fridge. If she doesn't like it -show her the door. But, I have learned the hard way. You have to take care of you and your beau. The only other suggestion is to have her make up the rest of the rent in specified chores that must be done on your timetable not hers.(This was learned the hard way too.) If cooking is one of the chores-hand her the Spark Cookbook. My son lost from a size 38 waist to a size 34 when we instituted the "no crap in the fridge" rule in our house. He's 19 and will be 20 in December.
    Your home should be a refuge from stress-not add to it.
    Spark On! You Got This!

    2058 days ago
  • BBECKER1955
    I think there's some great advice here, I don't think I can add any wisdom. What I do know is I need to keep working on myself. From time to time, I need to generate the space to do that, sometimes physically, sometimes mentally and at other times emotionally.
    Whatever you and your husband decide - all the best. We're pulling for you.
    2058 days ago
    I think you did great in August. I have a hard time not setting overly-ambitious goals for myself. Sometimes life happens and we can't meet every goal but you put in a good effort and that's important, too!!
    2058 days ago
    Congrats of results you had last month especially with everything you have going on. Also looks like some great goals for this month and will be cheering for you. Regarding the other detractors, I wish you all the best. And as I know you will...keep pushing, you are doing so well. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2058 days ago
    The stress from this situation can not be good for you in the long run. If all she i s giving you is $100 you would probably have more money and peace of mind if she moved out! It certainly isn't worth that much aggravation for $100 a month! Good luck but it sounds like you have a taker on your hands.
    2058 days ago
    I so know how you feel! I've had MORE than 2 people take advantage of me and my family as we tried to "help!" One tried to seduce my husband as I worked nights. The second tried to commit suicide in my home. And the third abused my children (physically, mentally, and sexually). Unfortunately, I no long help others either. I would suggest you give your roomer an ultimatum - either start paying the 300 or get out! And don't take "no" for an answer, or anything else!!!

    Good luck!

    2058 days ago
  • KAREN608
    I always say no when someone tries to move in with us. It is sensible, I've seen all the problems of having a roomer from friends. Same with renting my other old house: it would be destroyed if I rented it. That is not being mean. We can help others that live in their own apartment with some cooked meals, pay a water bill... lots of things. I hope you show that roomer the door soon. You might actually save money since she is only giving $100 and eating your food, using your electricity and Netflix. First thing I'd do is suspend the Netflix, and make it as uncomfortable as possible with new house rules like no TV or internet after 10pm. Those hours she is keeping are not right, nor good for you.
    2058 days ago
    I will never again live with someone I don't share a bed with (unless I have kids). It's way too much work. I know what you mean about people not working as hard as you do. I have the same problem. But I also have a problem where if I ask someone to do something so I can relax, I feel guilty about sitting still while they're working, lol.
    2058 days ago
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