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I Am More Than My Weight Loss

Sunday, September 02, 2012

Last week a friend noticed my weight loss and I was happy, She was one of the first few who mentioned it. That was nice. Even nicer was all the nice things my Spark friends have written--THANKS!

I saw this friend again yesterday and all she wanted to talk about was how she needs to lose weight and her excuses. I had told her about SP, sent her the web site and forwarded Spark emails on several occasions. I don't think she has even looked at SP.

Frankly, I don't want to hear her excuses. Now, every time I see her, this is all I hear. I really don't like to talk about dieting away from SP because a lot of people just talk and don't do it.

SP is different--here people are actually trying to get fit. Some are just learning and educating themselves, working up to it. Some are actively working on weight loss and fitness. Some have done it and are working on maintenance. But all are DOING IT, not just talking!

I have always had so many more interests than just losing weight and getting fit. I don't want people to just see me as someone who is losing weight. Any suggestions out there on how to change the conversation?
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    Wow! THANK YOU for putting into words how I have been feeling all along. I DONT want to talk about my D&E program in the real world, I want to just DO it. I dont want to be the office "diet expert". I dont have any secrets to share.
    Thank you again, I needed this today.
    2114 days ago
    I agree with Patricia441 that your friend does want to " just do it", but each of us has to get to the point where we are ready to do what it takes. She may have to hear it time and again. She may never be ready. I also agree with Darly55. The best way I have found to short circuit the conversation is to say you're doing it the old fashioned hard way--eating less and moving more. We ALL know that that is what we have to do ultimately, but if it were easy, we would all do it--without SparkPeople.
    2117 days ago
  • JOYFUL62
    I have no brilliant words of advise, but will pray that God gives you his wisdom on how to interact with this person. He knows what is needed.
    2117 days ago
    When you plan a get together, have a place you take a long walk to (like a coffee shop) , sit a little while and walk back. Nothing like putting words into action. Planning get togethers based on activities can be a benefit to you both. Or go to a park with a walking path, pack some coffee/tea and fruit, and walk/talk, then treat yourselves to your mini picnic.
    2117 days ago
    I would keep referring her to SP. Maybe say something to the effect of "There are so many people on SP that can give better advice than me."

    I do know exactly what you are talking about. Been there, done that. Good luck, this is a tough one.
    2117 days ago
  • DARLY55
    I have had those same conversations, and I know who is listening and who is just idly chatting. I have referred several people to SP and they are getting involved in getting on track within themselves. But there are those who incessantly talk about how they can never lose, how they are this and they are that and poor me stuff , etc. I am with you, we are more than our personal journeys, so when they ask me what I am doing to lose, I say " I got smart, I'm eating wisely and moving more".
    It quiets them every time. Only the serious people will ask what exactly that means. The rest will change the subject themselves.
    2117 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/2/2012 12:12:19 PM
    I truly believe that Sparks is a wonderful place to not only get lots of information on losing weight, ways to exercise but to meet other people struggling on their way to a healthier body. I also believe each of us have to come to that place where we are truly "ready" to do this. For most of us it is not easy, in fact quite difficult at times. I pray that this person you mentioned can find her way too.
    2117 days ago
    "Let's walk while talking about it." And then, as you walk, introduce new topics.
    2117 days ago
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