Feeling my actual feelings. Ew.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Yesterday was a perfect storm for stress eating.

My husband has been out of town all week. The kids are still adjusting to the school year -- my oldest doesn't want to do math the way the teacher wants him to do it, and his Asperger's makes this an emotional thing. Tears during homework, yay. My daughter is doing great so far, but my youngest is dealing with a bully at school.

Already. In first grade.

I'm sick about it. E is bright and good looking and friendly, and he doesn't think this is a huge deal, but I do. Because I don't have that rational, grown up approach that you're supposed to have when your kids come to you with something like this. I don't even know what the correct response might be. I want to cry and rage and tell off his parents -- which I know I can't, so I a close second would be eating bagels until I feel better.

But. Last night, I decided I wasn't going to eat my problems. I was going to feel all of those icky, helpless, hurt feelings instead.

And wow. Not fun. I felt weepy and cranky and guilty and useless. And sleep helped some, but not all the way.

But you know what? I didn't eat 10 bagels last night. In fact, I didn't eat any bagels. I stayed on program and I'm going to stay on program today. And I'm just going to feel this until it gets better -- which, hey, it always does.

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    Chris, I'm so proud of you and how you handled yourself in that situation. My little grandson just started Kindergarten last week & I can so identify with what you FELT like doing. This Grammie could teach that bully a thing or two given the chance. Instead we pray for our little ones and, if the problem is major enough, go talk to the teacher. I'm proud of you for NOT eating your problems and for feeling your feelings. Now let's get thoughtful and determine what we can do about the issue. I'm standing with you. Let me know how it goes!
    2061 days ago

    dealing with your feelings instead of pushing them away with food.

    sound simple.

    i know it isn't.

    emoticon This is for you.

    and good luck dealing with the bully.

    Many schools have anti-bullying policies now- especially in NJ (which aren't really enforceable but that's as whole different stories).

    Sometimes a disciplined art, such as the martial arts, help people bolster confidence in dealing with bullies.
    2062 days ago
    Way to go on not stress eating! Hope things get better for your son soon!
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