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A big loss and reminders of why our health is important.....

Monday, August 27, 2012

Hi all,

Sometimes life gives you a smack in the face to remind you how important taking care of ourselves really is. I lost a dear cousin this last week -- he died much too soon. Bill was only 56 and struggled with obesity for the last 25 years. He was one of those incredibly loving and giving people who always knew what to say, could make you belly laugh like no other, and had the heart of a saint. Over the last 15 years, I have watched him become a husband and a father of three beautiful children who adored him. He gave his wife and children 100% of himself all the time. The one thing he didn't think of was taking the time to make himself healthy.

His wife, kids, and the rest of the family tried so hard to help him, but no matter how much he said he wanted to lose weight, he always found an excuse to keep eating and not exercise. He could be really stubborn. He would give anything to keep his family safe and happy, but I don't think he really understood that him getting healthy was the most important thing his family needed. I just wish we could have gotten through to him.

We lost Bill last week to a heartattack. Luckily it was fast, but the hole that he leaves in the lives of all who knew him will forever be painful. He ignored the signs, the pleading from all of us, and the doctors, and now he is gone. He used to joke about his weight and being jolly, but in the end we are without him and the laughter has stopped.

I often reflect on Bill's life when I see people struggling with obesity. He has been an example for me to stay healthy even before his death. Now that he is gone, it means even more for me to stay healthy for my daughter and the rest of my family and friends.

Please remember that we are all important to others in our lives and we have an obligation to not only ourselves, but to them to be healthy and happy people.

I know I'll see Bill again someday, but I'll sure miss those big bear hugs until we meet again. Goodbye for now, my cousin. Keep them laughing in Heaven.

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    Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family in prayer. God bless! emoticon
    2058 days ago
  • MISSB8604
    I’m truly sorry for your loss.
    This kind of story really hits home to me because my Dad is in the same boat and he’s HAD the heartattack that could have killed him around 15 years ago. The doctors basically had to reconstruct his heart with veins from his legs. It was horrendous and the doctors even told my mother to prepare for his death. He is alive today, but his habits haven’t changed any. He still eats terribly and never exercises. Although because of my living in the house still, he eats better foods, he still doesn’t make an effort to truly change his habits. I hate to say it, but it’s only a matter of time before he leaves us. Honestly, it’s one of the things that keeps me going on this journey, I just don’t want to end up like him. I don’t want to end up like my morbidly obese great aunt (died), cousin (still alive, but hasn’t changed her eating habits) and great grandmother (died). It’s just not worth it and I deserve a better life then that.

    Thank you for this blog. I’m sure it’ll be a wake up call to a lot of people (it is for me and I’ve lost 70lbs) and it’ll keep them going on this journey, or die trying.

    Thank you very much again and I wish you the absolute best.

    2067 days ago
    So very sorry for the loss of your cousin. Thank you for this post, it may help many out there. My sister is obese & had a massive heart attack 4 years ago. She still hasn't lost the weight that she should. It is heart breaking to see a loved one not want to be healthy for themselves & their loved ones.

    2067 days ago
    What a very important blog! You and your cousin's story could make a difference to many in spark land!
    2067 days ago
    Thank you for your post and I am very sorry for your loss. As I planned to start yet AGAIN today, berating myself for wasting yet another week, this reminded me that there is no excuse good enough. I lost my mother when she was 56 to a heart attack (she was not heavy but a smoker) and I am 55. That is a heavy burden for me as I get closer to that age with a lot to lose (at least I don't smoke). Although I obviously didn't know your cousin, and he sounds like a very important person to a lot of people, and his story will reach a lot of people. Thanks again for sharing!
    2067 days ago
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