Empty Nest

Sunday, August 26, 2012

I am about to enter a new chapter of my life! My hubby and I will be taking our DD to college tomorrow and we will return home to the empty nest --- well ---- there will still be us and our two dogs --- that's one dog per person! But it's been 27 years since we've been "Home Alone"!

Most people have mixed emotions about entering this stage of life - and I guess I do too --- but I'm going to take the positive attitude and use this time to get caught up with myself. For 27 years, I have put others first -- I have spent time staying home with our kids --- I have been the school volunteer, the girl scout helper, the band booster, the 4-H volunteer, the taxi mom --- and on and on and on! It's all been fun, rewarding, and great! I can honestly say that my joy bucket is full! woohoo for wonderful parenting years --- I have no complaints and I am blessed!

But --- now it's ME TIME!!!! Time for ME!!! and I must say I'm really looking forward to it! I'm ready to get some things done -- stand aside procrastination b/c I'm gonna GIT 'ER DONE!!! I plan to get organized, declutterd, healthy and fine tuned --- I'm ready to have time to do what I want, what I need and what I can do --- I'm even planning on "dating" my hubby again --- you know how it is when you're raising kids -- you tend to put them first -- entertainment is going to a game, concert, school event, etc. -- so once again, we will be going and doing things just b/c WE want to --- does this sound selfish? It's not meant to -- like I said -- I've loved raising kids -- but now that time is changing (although they say you are NEVER done raising your kids!!!!) and I'm going to enter this new adventure with some positive gusto! I'm sure I'll be a mess tomorrow when we actually leave our little girl on campus --- but I'm planning to think and be positive about it all --- it's not like I can turn back the clock ya know! Others far greater than me have tried --- or so I've heard!

Onward ---

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    Great focus, keep me posted on the decluttering. I am working on that.
    2062 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    You seem to have all of your emotions in check, and have given all of this some thought. My DH would be the first one to tell you that the empty nest is great. We moms feel differently because our hearts are still attached. Keep yourself as busy and you want or don't want to be. Maybe you and your DH can take up a hobby together - something you've always wanted to do. I do believe that once you get over that first week or so, you'll be enjoying your "me" time, and your quiet time with your husband.

    2062 days ago
    emoticon emoticon You've got a great attitude!

    2062 days ago
    Yes, it is finally time for you to have time for yourself. It is an adjustment but one with lots of positive.
    2063 days ago
    Enjoy that empty nest! I'm sure it will be a big adjustment, but now is a great time to focus on YOU and your hubby!

    2063 days ago
    You have a great attitude girlfriend. ENJOY!
    2063 days ago
  • KITT52
    time for you will be wonderful, take time to get use to the idea that you can be the most important person in your life....relax and enjoy
    2063 days ago
    What a stage you are coming through you will do find and not at all it does not sound selfish now that you have more time for yourself, you deserve it, you pushed yourself hard for when kids were home so its ok to put up your feet and relax and date your husband once more lol. Enjoy these days
    2063 days ago
  • BEEJAY49
    You will do fine! HUGS!
    2063 days ago
    I suspect you will be pleasantly surprised! Great not to have someone arrange all your time for you. Most everyone loves their children, but they are very time consuming no matter what age. My Mom always said it doesn't matter if you have 1 or 5 five, they take ALL your time. No even my grandchildren are grown. I have enjoyed every phase, but I really do like my me time!!
    2063 days ago
    There were two times we were warned about, menopause and empty nest. I found both to be unmixed blessings. Of course, my oldest and youngest were 9 years apart, so I had grandchildren around before youngest went off to college 2,000 miles away. Enjoy your hubby. Glad you both have a great attitude about this. emoticon
    2063 days ago
  • PRINCESS1959
    2063 days ago
    Our oldest went to college last year. It was difficult but I knew she was just 45 minutes away and I could see her often enough. I have one graduating this year and my youngest is a sophomore. In a way I am looking forward to being an empty-nester but it also scares me. Keep looking for those positives!
    2063 days ago
    emoticon keep us updated
    2063 days ago
    Great perspective! If you start feeling empty in your joy bucket, I'm sure you'll find a way to fill joy again giving to others! Enjoy dating your hubby, organizing your life, and the ME time I dream of? Let's see, my youngest is 9....
    2063 days ago
    Jane, I have to tell you this. When my son left for college, I cried and cried. My husband had other ideas. We turned into newlyweds again and I will tell you this, that IS a very good thing! My very best goes out to your daughter and to you as you begin a whole new chapter to your life. emoticon
    2063 days ago
    Amen, Sister, it's YOU time!
    Go for it!
    2063 days ago
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