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Question... need HELP! Oldest is starting school TOMORROW

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Okay so my Oldest starts school tomorrow.. Pre- K. (Its all day as well) And I hate to say it but I am a wreck!! All I want to do is cry.. of course not in front of her. I don't want to make her any more nervous or scared. I don't know which one of us is going to have it worse really. One day she's excited the next she's telling me "momma don't make me go". She's like me.. changes are hard and very scary and we tend to have issues with them lol... with her its Melt Downs. I know in the end she will love it and it will all go well but its the whole getting past it being new and a huge change! I say that because every since the day she was born I have been with her, with the except when I was in the hospital giving birth to her baby sister. Sure I have left her with her grandparents a few times for a few hours but that's it! So its new for the both of us and let me tell you its so not easy! And I know all you Moms (parents) out there know what I mean, even more so if you've been like me and been so blessed to be a Stay at home mom. I love it and wouldn't trade it for anything! But it has its tough times too. This being the worst one so far!! Anyways So that's where I am! I am over emotional and stressing and neither of those is a good thing... means I am eating just about anything I can find!

So here's where the Questions come in.

How to make this an easy or easier transition?

Any ideals to making her first day/ week special?

So far all I have is.. I want to take her 1st day picture probably with a sign saying her first day of Pre-k ect.

Also I was going to make a special breakfast But the school has a mandatory all kids eat breakfast with her class and teacher.

But I did ask her what she wants for dinner.. she said pizza lol So pizza it is!

Any help, answers, advice would be much appreciated!!!!

Thanks in advance for any and all of you who take the time to read this and give advice! Also Sorry I haven't been on much. Its been crazy and hectic! I m sure alot of you are going threw the same with school coming up and other things as well!! And Best wishes to you all on all of the up coming!! Thanks again SP Friends!!!!

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  • SPIRIT42013
    The best you can do for both of you is stay CALM. As a teacher, I would also advise not staying overly long unless the teacher invites you to, especially if there are tears. It's better to redirect her to something fun, hen slip out.

    So how was her first day?? emoticon
    2488 days ago
    Thank you all for commenting and giving me advice!!! I did just as you all said.. I reassured her this morning that I would be there ready and waiting for her when she gets out and that I can't wait to hear about her day!! Then I made sure she was ready took her and all her things in and kissed her told her bye and that I would see her soon. And Left making sure the teacher had everything and knew I was leaving. I wasn't easy and yes I did cry but NOT in front of her or our Youngest! Thanks again to you all!!!! emoticon emoticon
    2488 days ago
  • KRYSTL719
    I was definately a wreck as well. You let them know your proud of them, and you will be so eager to pick them up everyday, and be eager to learn what they bring home to tell you, and hear about their day, and get irrational thinking how that other 4 year old is such a bully,m lol. It will be okay, you hang in there sweetie. Dont let the little one see you cry.
    2489 days ago
    As others have said, low key is good and will keep her stress about it down. You gotta do pictures, though! I have taken pictures of my babies every year on the first day of school. It's interesting to look back and see how they have grown...

    When my daughter started Pre-K, she was excited about it until the day before. On that day, she curled up in my lap and cried, "I don't want to go, Mommy! I want to stay with you!" After her first day there, she was still emotional, and I found out that she had thought that she would have to stay at school. Poor thing :( I reassured her that I definitely was picking her up every day and that I would never be able to do that because I would miss her far too much!

    My kids started their school year on Wednesday, and my son is in Pre-K. He handled everything like he had been doing it for ages. No problems at all.

    After a couple days, this will be old hat and everyone will be well into the swing of things! :)

    2489 days ago
    I agree with everything MENNOLY said! Don't make a big deal out of it, make sure you try your best not to be emotional and leave right away. Don't linger - she'll be FINE. Trust me! She'll forget about everything when she gets to meet other kids and do fun things. HUGS! Been through it 3 times and by the time the 3rd one went to kindergarten I did the happy dance. We also used to take off the first day of school every year and go out for breakfast as adults so we had something fun to look forward to, also. Good luck!
    2489 days ago
  • WINNIE1978
    I don't really have any advice since I don't have kids, but...


    2489 days ago
    Is it allowed for you to visit at all? Can you come in to join them for lunch at some point?

    Wow, are you lucky that it's a full day preschool! My son had preschool 9 am to 1 pm and boy did I wish it was longer! :) He starts kindergarten in two weeks!
    2489 days ago
    2489 days ago
    Oh I remember those days! I too was a stay at home mom and wouldn't trade that time for anything. I have two children, the best advice I can give you is to try and not be too emotional for the sake of your youngest. I know it's hard, but you don't want the younger thinking it's a bad thing for her to go to school in the near future because it made mommy sad. I know it's tough having them grow up and it seems to happen so quickly, but you will survive, even if it feels like your heart is breaking and bleeding all over the couch. And I guess, you need to remember you wouldn't want them dependent on you into their 40's! I hope that last part made you smile, even a little through the tears.
    2489 days ago
    Keep it low key. Don't make a big deal out of it. That will lead to more tension for her. When you get her there, kiss her goodbye and LEAVE! Don't linger at all! If you do it will make her act out. Once you are out of the picture, even if she is upset, she will calm down and enjoy herself. There are a lot of new to her things to see and do and she won't think of you until you come back when she may put on a show just for you, so that you will feel guilty. Honestly I went through this 3 times and they do act out for mom. The only one I had real problems with was DD1 and she did well once at school but hated being put in the taxi that took her to the army base 30 minutes away. I could not drive her myself because I had to go get DS at one school while she was coming home from the other school. She was 3 years old and had to take a taxi to the army base to get the speech services she needed. Separation is usually harder on the moms than the kids. Hopefully there was an open house that you took her to so she met her teacher and checked out her cubbie and all those things and that she had an opportunity to play with the other kids while you were there. Honestly this will be harder on you than on her.
    2489 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/23/2012 3:10:36 PM
    What about a little party at home to celebrate her first day at school or becoming a big girl? Or maybe a movie night with popcorn and treats. Forgive me if my idea is a bit off whack I have a 4 month old and haven't had much to do with kids apart from her. Hope it all goes well for you both :-)
    2489 days ago
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