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Late night thoughts...

Monday, August 20, 2012

I hate being disappointed when i expect a certain level of behavior and am sadly, often left with much less than that.

Anything from common courtesy, to general respect - now a days it seems to be missing from many of my friends, acquaintances, mere people passing in the super market...

Recently i've been dealing with people in my life that fall into all the categories above and it makes me sad that i have let that become acceptable behavior, it makes me mad that some of things that come across my plate are things i would never dream of doing to another person, and it makes me re-think my choice of the people i allow in my life.

I have some amazing, spectacular, caring and fabulous people in my life. People that would actually think i was talking about them! Because they would, it makes me love them more than anything and want to spend as much quality and quantity time with them as i can! They are the right kind of people and the people i want and need most in my life!

Sometimes it feels like second grade and getting picked last for kick ball, sometimes i feel used, sometimes i wonder why did I let these people even be a part of my life.

I had a sad experience today that just topped the cake and made me angry. I've been working on some thing with saying only positive things about my husband (but i've tried to expand it to everyone) for 30 days in a row, so i spent the better part of an hour trying to be positive, and happy, and putting a thoughtful spin on what happend, and hubby played along for a while and then we just decided - dang it - we are darn angry and that was thoughtless and rude and really, we are done making the effort to have you be in our lives...

So as i tried to fall asleep tonight my mind whirled and whizzed and i decided i needed to get my angst down on "paper".

I'm not going to let poor behavior of another ruin my 7.5 hours of beauty rest, rest in my big bed, with my loving husband, and fabulous little monkies! (aka the pups)

Ta ta, rest well and surround yourselves with those that are good for you!
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    I so agree with the previous comments. And something more--I've learned in my more than 6 decades (ooooh, getting close to 7) on this earth that people definitely will not change if they don't have to suffer the consequences of their actions. Dr. Phil says we teach people how to treat us. A couple of decades ago, I decided that I am not going to trade comments with a smile in the face of the person who has just insulted me (and they immediately notice the difference in countenance, because I'm always smiling). AND I am going to let them know exactly how I feel about their remarks. AND we are not going to have an argument about it, because I am changing the subject immediately. They can just contemplate my comments later...and they usually do, no matter how much they protest (out of defensiveness) at the time. Works for me; I sleep well. emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 8/22/2012 6:47:37 AM
    I wholeheartedly agree!!!!
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    Amen! Nobody should get YOU down because you are emoticon
    2099 days ago
    Hope you had a great night sleep and so agree with your being positive attitude!! Choosing wisely with whom and how we spend our time is such a life time process!! Balancing unconditional love and support with wisdom is a priceless life skill...you go girl!!
    2099 days ago
  • ERIN1128
    I'm sorry your friends are being selfish. :-( I may have said this before, but I really am finding as I get older that it's not worth hanging onto the selfish ones, they just cause more frustration and stress than they're worth, ultimately. Hang in there!
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    Amen sistah!! emoticon
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    This makes ME mad that these particular sloths made YOU mad! emoticon All I can say (and I have YEARS of experience on you my sweetie) is that people are idiots, mostly self absorbed, desensitized by the meanness of the world..and I add certain brain numbing shot em dead, spill their blood every where computer games!

    And sadly as the economy worsens (don't mean to be negative here...but you can see for yourself it's in a pretty sad state) people get more stress and stress seems to translate into acting even worse than our usual disillusioned selves! emoticon

    I've been slighted by friends that are like family that we have known for over 20 years these are people that KNOW the treacherous waters we've been navigating through for years now. People that should be giving you a monster hug and a gentle WELL done for slogging through the doo doo in your life and still making a stab at happiness. Nope...doesn't happen that way. They are downright pissed at us that we are somewhat successful with our new consignment business. Do they EVER come over to walk the gallery and say..hey this is awesome...nope..too busy cooling their jets in retirement bliss..their do nothing days of coasting in blissful platitude. It's SO annoying!

    Perfect example...a girlfriends husband was out of town, she was bored, and lonely so it occurs to her to invite me to lunch, doesn't call ME directly conveys the message to my husband over the phone who promptly forgets to tell me. (I would have been too busy WORKING..to go with her anyhow and she should know this)..but instead she's pissed that I didn't call her (blame the BAD secretary hubs that took the message) and sends me a snipey e-mail. I thought you would have at LEAST called me since you knew I was alone ALL week. Yep these women are REALLY this ridiculous!

    Soooo fast forward to her typical comment made last Saturday with our dine out group.

    Me: 'Oh I'm SO sorry DH didn't get the lunch message to me and so sorry but I didn't have time this week anyhow to do lunch with you, maybe we can make a time next week?"

    Her retort: "NO...Danny's BACK in town NOW!" and she's still pissed...like I say rolling eyes back in head...people are idiots, don't let em get to you..and don't waste your time and energy on the undeserving BOOBS! emoticon emoticon You've got your hubs and the pups and your sparkie friends so really...all is right in the world! emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 8/20/2012 8:04:28 AM
    Like you it amazes how society seems to be getting to a point where common courtesies are a thing of the past. People can be a great source of disappointment, but at the same time people can be a great source of hope, encouragement and support. Some times we come to a point in life when we need to say goodbye to those that bring us down and move forward in our life and into relationships that are healthy and inspiring. I'm sorry you've had a difficult time today, but I am very glad you have your husband as your greatest friend and supporter. Stay strong and do what is best for you and your life.
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