Why goals suck
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Well, not so much. But anyway ...
Today's Spark Coach motivation is to ask myself, about my goals, "Why do you want to reach those goals so badly and how will they change your life?"
Um ... it won't.
Will I be happier if thinner? No. Happiness isn't about what size you are. If you're not happy now, getting thinner won't do it.
Will I stop being tormented for being fat? No. I'm not getting tormented.
Will my health improve? Probably - but immeasurably. I don't suffer any ill effects of weight now.
So how will it change my life if I achieve my goals? It won't. I'm still going to be the same happy, positive, caring, generous, loving and well-loved person that I am now and (hopefully) will always be.
This is why sometimes it's hard to keep those goals so in mind. It's not going to be life-changing. And I think that if you think it will, you'll be sorely disappointed when you get there.
Do I speak from experience? Yeah, I've been there. I lost 40kg a few years ago, and slowly gained about half that back. I'd like to get back to where I was. I know what it was like at 75kg weight, I know how I felt, I know what my life was like then.
It was the same as now.
But less pizza.