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what's reasonable to expect from a running coach

Sunday, August 12, 2012

if you had a (not so inexpensive at all) running coach and had about 6 sessions, which mostly went well
and you liked her and were also in the process of joining the group program she also worked at AND you developed excruciating pain during one of the group sessions and left early because of it,
and emailed her about it, and she said, ice it, take 2 days off, then try again and let me know
and you did and that was agonizing and you told her so and asked some questions
and she answered 5 days later saying she'd lost your mail but she hoped you were doing better,
and you wrote back 5 days later saying the doctor had said not to run for a while, no answer,
and then you wrote back 10 days later, after restarting with galloway walk/running and asking lots of questions, no answer
and 10 days later (a little more than a month since the onset of your tendonitis of the hip), you still hadn't heard from her,
is it unreasonable to be feel hurt and angry?
she claims she never got the emails, but she certainly got the one i expressed my anger in.
and it's all my fault for not calling her instead (we'd pretty much always communicated by email) -- she can't understand why i feel abandoned and hurt. she doesn't call clients. huh?
yes i realize i could have been more adult about it, and not asked if she always abandons her clients because they're hurt or wimpy, but is it really unreasonable to expect your running coach to check in occasionally on injured clients?
(cross posted to my running teams)
coming up tomorrow
is an oct 7 half marathon possible or is it time to face reality?

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    Check with the doctor about running before you start and get a NEW coach
    you were not unreasonable at all.
    Hope your leg gets better and you can run again emoticon
    2433 days ago
    You are absolutely not being unreasonable. You have every right to be upset and hurt by your coaches actions and lack thereof.
    I agree with everyone else here - it is time to find another coach - one who cares about you as a person.
    Good luck!! And, I am so very sorry you have had to go through this.
    2441 days ago
    I wish you didn't have to go through so much frustration right now! I also wish I had answers for you, but as pretty much everyone else has mentioned, it's best for you and your doctor to come to an agreement on the best approach to training now. Whatever you decide, please be careful and consider finding a different coach so you won't have to worry about the tension that's come up. Tension definitely doesn't help a run!
    2443 days ago
    i think the others have said it well.if you are uncomfortable with your running coach, it is time for a new one - when you can get back to running. as for the half, you need to check with your doctor, of course, and with your body - can you walk? can you shuffle? can you go distance? or build to distance? those are the questions which your body will answer. and best to listen to it, even if it is disappointing. assuming your doctor says ok, i'd work on building up the walking distance and if that goes ok add very short running breaks in your walks and see how that goes.
    2446 days ago
    I agree with others here and would be disappointed myself if a coach of mine had acted the same way. (No, I haven't got one!) As for the half, only you and your doctor/physio can tell. I'd hate to go without you though! Do you think you could walk part or even most of the way? I might be doing just that. But it would be terrible to end up even worse off.

    2446 days ago
    Life is too short and running coaches too expensive to have one so uncaring - and who lies too. I think she just doesn't care about you at all but was happy to get your money. Many people are 'technicians' who are interested in things (running, marathons...) rather than in people, but for a coach I think it isn't really acceptable. I would look for another coach.
    2446 days ago
    I don't know what a running coach should be like specifically, but I can tell you that anyone you hire to perform a service for you should only maintain their job for as long as you find their service appropriate for you. Meaning, if this coach doesn't mesh well with you and doesn't fit your needs...don't go back to her! Find a new coach that DOES work the way you want them to. There's got to be someone in your area that will behave more professionally and more thoughtfully and suit your needs better. Good luck!
    2446 days ago
    NOT unreasonable. what fangfacekitty said...
    Some great comments here.
    Yes, your long-term ability to run should take priority...
    Patience...difficult though it may be... emoticon
    2446 days ago
    I would go with my gut and my heart. Having expectations is not a bad thing...I would have them...I know how I am. Wishing you the best! Hope you had a good weekend and are ready for a great week. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon emoticon
    2446 days ago
  • MIRAGE727
    My running coach would be exactly that. If I injured myself, I will go to my doctor, get it resolved then embrace whatever time it takes to be ready to resume. Since I'm paying my running coach, I'd tell them to sit on a back burner until I got cleared! They can't take that, I can resolve that as well! I take proactive steps when it comes to my health, which is a priority now. I made a mistake once and almost killed myself by continuing to run. The bottom line is I have control. There is no room for error or wasted time. I don't know if that helped any but it confirmed my direction for me! All the best for a speedy recovery, be strong, and be safe.

    2446 days ago
  • no profile photo SGREVET1
    There are times when closing a door is the right thing to do. Slamming a door in anger to try to get back at someone you perceive has hurt you is probably more harmful to the slammer than the slammee. But I pretty much always feel that it's unhealthy to keep a toxic person in your life. We have too much work to do in this short lifetime to let people like that hold us back. So you weigh the positives and negatives and make your determination, and then... move on.
    2446 days ago
    It is absolutely not unreasonable! And to say you should have called her but that she doesn't call clients is a bit hypocritical. A good coach would have responded, a great coach would have checked on you without your e-mailed questions.

    Maybe I was just spoiled by my running coach. He is definately a great one.
    2446 days ago
  • AMYB1985
    I feel that any professional should take a very active interest in ALL of his or her clients, including and perhaps especially anyone who became injured. And many of us get a sharp tongue when hurt and angry; she wasn't being particularly adult in ignoring emails and claiming she didn't get them. Really? That's the equivalent of, "My dog ate my homework." Very unprofessional.

    As for the half, I think you should consult with your doctor. See what he or she says. Speaking as someone currently on the bench with an injury I want to tell you that you do NOT want to make this worse. Missing an event now is disappointing; being benched for months or (god forbid) permanently would be devastating. And I suppose it partly depends upon your goal for the half. If you just hope to finish then maybe if you walk at least part of it you could do it. But if you were hoping for a new best time my opinion (which is in no way medical advice) is to forego this race. Pushing yourself on an ankle which may not be fully recovered is inadvisable.

    Feel better soon!
    2447 days ago
    Even if I didn't expect her to check in with me, I think it's entirely reasonable to expect the truth from her.
    2447 days ago
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