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Zoey Final Week 102: August 5 - August 11, 2012

Saturday, August 11, 2012

I have fought the good fight
I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith.
Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness,
Which the Lord, the righteous Judge,
Will give to me on that Day, and not to me only
But also to all who have loved His appearing.
2 Timothy 4: 7 - 8

Where to begin? After the events of this week I didn't think any more "Zoey Updates" would be necessary. But there were so many questions that some answers, if possible, seemed appropriate. How could her condition change so quickly? True, when Grandma and I were with her for three days at the end of week 101, she appeared to be improving a lot.

During the day Saturday before we left, her Oxygen saturation was dropping. The staff replaced the sensor and moved it's location a couple of times. While I was out of the room getting her some soup from the cafeteria, she had an event where breathing was really difficult, but when her position in bed was changed, her breathing improved.

K.P./L.A. has a policy that all visitors must wear a photo I.D. It's a self adhesive badge we put on our shirt. When Don arrived with Dawn in the afternoon, he put his on the bare skin of his biceps. When we were leaving and he leaned over her to say goodbye, she quickly reached up and ripped his off in a playful act. Of course he jumped and faked a huge "Ouch" which was typical of their playful relationship. She had the biggest smile of achievement on her face.

Later Saturday her nose Oxygen tube was replaced with a full mask, after that she was given a positive pressure mask, and finally she was intubated. Oxygen was being pressure pumped directly into her lungs.

By midnight she was moved to Pediatric ICU. Greg, Grandma and I were notified that Zoey's condition was very serious and deteriorating. Dad caught the first flight out of Seattle on Sunday morning. The next 48 hours were filled with medical attempts to save her. When it became apparent that the end was near all the nursing staff from regular Pediatrics, across the hall, came over, held her hand, stroked her hair, and offered words of kindness to Zoey and her parents.

Zoey made a lasting impression on her Medical Team members. She never considered them as people doing a job. When we were with her the last week she still acknowledged each act with "Please and Thank You." She thought of them as "Care Givers."

Zoey left us shortly after midnight Monday, so her official date of death August 7, 2012.

By Wednesday it had been decided that there would be a memorial service on September 22nd, and a private family grave side service on Friday morning. A beautiful hillside location was available.

The text above was used at her graveside service. Zoey was buried in her "Dharma" jump suit with all her favorite items from the TV series "Lost."

All the pallbearers and most of the family wore grey, Dharma T-Shirts with Zoey's name embossed on them. Grey was Zoey's favorite color and she insisted it be spelled GREY as in the English spelling. The flower blanket on her grey casket was made up of white roses and grey carnations.

A dedication page for Zoey is now available on the Internet at this address:

where you can add memories, pictures, thoughts, etc. so that your fond memories may encourage the grieving family and friends of Zoey. I have made a start by adding some photos of Zoey from the archive of Feel free to add your own. You can even add a picture of yourself. Certain limits apply.

Thank You God. Thank you family, friends and supporters for all you've done and continue to do for Zoey and us.

Grandpa Dave 8/11/12

93 days at Kaiser L.A. 62 days in ICU there
232 days at City of Hope
284 days at Kaiser S.D.
609 days in the hospital since diagnosed August 25, 2010

Also, many of the full reports of Zoey's Journey have been archived on the website of the New Apostolic Church in El Cajon.

Zoey was an only child.

If you would like to send condolences to Dawn (Zoey's Mom), her address is...

Please no monies, (that is not allowed nor requested) this is only to support Dawn and let her know just how many people Zoey touched. Only if you are moved to do so.

Dawn Youtsey
12432 Janet Kay Way
El Cajon CA 92021

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    I am in tears. I missed this blog, and just catching up now. You know, she fought so hard and suffered so much that it hurt
    to read those updates. Very sad.
    2109 days ago
    Such a little angel she is! I read some thing once There is no Death only a change of places! She is in good hands ! My brother died almost two years ago and i think of him every day! I keep his memory alive ! Blessings to you ! Bonnie

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  • JIBBIE49
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    2128 days ago
    Sending prayers for you and your family. Very sad to hear of your loss. It's never easy during these times but someday in time we will understand why these things happen. May you be comforted by the grace of our Holy Spirit today and the long days to come.

    2134 days ago
  • SMILEY3826
    so sorry to hear about your loss. my thoughts and prayers go out to you. sending lots of hugs from my family to yours.
    2134 days ago
    Thank you so much, Jetta, for sharing the life of this amazing young lady with the Spark world. Reading about her has impressed me so much, and reminded me to focus on all the important things, like acknowledging all the loving people giving us care and friendship. She truly had a life to be celebrated, and I know that she will be deeply missed.


    2137 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful person and I'm glad to have known her this way for this time. Ipray for you and your family.
    2138 days ago
    I too, send my Love and sincere condolences to all the family, and to you, too all fought so hard....and you have all learned from Zoey....and each other. You know she will be watching over you all, after she has had a rest....
    I was so sad to see this, Jetta.....but glad at the same time, that Zoey is no longer suffering.

    Hard to find the words, sleep well, my little Angel, much peace is with you now....

    Sending Love, & Light to all involved....

    Sylvia xxxxxx

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    2139 days ago
    Please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss. Your blog is very strong and inspiring. It is also full of love. Know that God is with you and your family.

    2139 days ago
  • YOOPER2012
    So sorry for your loss. I pray time will bring healing and peace to your soul.
    2139 days ago
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