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Vacation ending, projects at home

Sunday, August 05, 2012

Last Wed, my family and I returned home to a "repaired" home, which meant drying concrete in the holes to fix the foundation, dirt and some clay embedded into the concrete floors, dust on EVERYTHING. I am not a neat freak by any stretch of the imagination. 3 kids + dog + cats would have drummed that out of me even if I'd started out that way. Kicked butt Wed to get the furniture set back up, of course internet and directv had to be restored. My kids were a week and a half without roadblox, youtube, tv access. It was like an Oprah intervention to unplug :) I have to say we all got along much better than I had feared living in a 1 bedroom apt for that long. Anyway, Thursday dawned, still some cleaning up, of course and the drive to "go, go, go" fizzled a bit. I made a list, of course, of what still needed to be cleaned, wiped down, etc. It's now Sunday and a few things remain on the list. Sigh.

I told my younger kids that "when the house is fixed" my son could get a kitten and my daughter could get a puppy. Well, the kitten came home with us Wed from vacation. 2.5 hours driving with 3 kids in the car + a kitten in a cardboard box. At 70mph, I had to swerve around a hand truck in the middle of the road with very little advance warning. As I overcorrected, I pictured the car flipping over, humans propelling through the air, kitten ejected from its box landing with claws extended into human flesh. We were fine, albeit shaky hands for the next 10 miles or so. Wed evening, we picked up our beloved old labrador from the kennel. Her first experience in jail. She was so happy to see us, then by Thurs morning, she obviously wasn't feeling well, reacting to the stress of being boarded. By Sat, she was showing signs of improvement. Completing the "puppy" promise, we went to the local shelter for my daughter. Found a very sweet, maltese-poodle puppy about 2 months old. Not too wild. With 3 ADHD kids, I'll take as much calm from my pets as possible. We've had a hard and fast rule for years: 2 dogs, 2 cats, no more animals. Well, our old cat left for a month. Hence, my promise to get the kitten. Then, the old cat came back, after mom made the kitten promise. So, as we're registering to adopt the new baby critters, we now need a city permit for more than 4 animals. Ah! It's as if we're inching toward pet hoarders! 3 cats, 2 dogs.

Add in 3 kids, 2 full time working parents, cheerleading and soccer, and this fall is going to be busy!

Two weeks left of my summer before I go back to teaching full time, instead of internet courses and Saturday lab meetings. Need to repair cracks in the drywall from the house settling and repaint eventually most of the house. For now, planning to do my daughter's room and my son's. The oldest son, who claimed the living room as his room 4 years ago will finally get a wall and his own door! As that project is more involved, I'm trying not to overwhelm hubby with it just yet. Living in a college town, all contractors are crazy busy in August prepping for the new school year, too.

14 months ago, my husband moved out, saying he wanted to try a relationship with a girlfriend from high school he'd found on facebook. Heartbreak ensued for me, for the kids. 8 months ago, he said he wanted us to try again, and moved back home 3 months ago. Still so many emotions for me to process. I have a lurking uncertainty that the kids and I will prove too much for him to handle and he'll leave again. I find myself watching my words and actions: if I complain, will he go again? Naturally, resentment festers: how do I find my equilibrium and be myself? For almost 30 years, he's been my best friend, my one constant human. So much of that connection is being restored, rebuilt. Still so much to figure out.
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  • OPTIMIST1948
    Busy = good. Wish I could have a cat, but DH is allergic and I really dont want to scoop dog poop. Just glad the KITTEN didnt go sailing out the window when you had to swerve.

    Um, couples counseling for you and hubby? If he leaves again, serve him with divorce papers. Life is ugly and messy; he wants fantasy perfection.


    2171 days ago
  • SNOWYOGA
    Hi and yes it really sounds busy at your house. We had to put down to family pets last year and that was really hard (our Golden retriever got bone cancer in her lower right leg, the vet said by the time a dog lets you know, it's to late then ito the lungs, (that was right before Thanks Giving. Then this year right before Mothers Day our old lady cat , that we had had for around 17-18 years went) So not such a good pet year. But we did find a puppy that was thw runt the people said because of this they were going to destroy it if they didn't find it a home, but I fell in love with her face. She was 2.4 pounds at 7 weeks old Corgi- Blue healer mix. But if you look at her all you see is Corgi. Never had an indoor dog so this has been new, she wants to eat the house. No matter what toys she has. Sorry sometimes I get off track. But as for your husband I don't really know if I know you well enough to say this, but I agree with what HOLLYL7 said, you (from what I have seen) are a really sweet person! Well thanks for listening and have a great last 2 weeks, I get to move the last of 3 off to college emoticon
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    2172 days ago
  • HOLLYL7
    "This fall is going to be busy" sounds like a real understatement!! I just came home from vacation yesterday with our fam in a small cabin, and my son hadn't put on the laptop, PS3 or a movie for the entire week =) The minute we get home, we all spread out to our own areas of the house and our electronics -sigh-

    I'm sorry about the situation with your husband. I hope that he realizes how selfish his actions were, and has come to appreciate the beauty of a big, loving family (chaos and all!) You are a special person to allow him this second chance. HE is the person that needs to watch his words and actions, and not you!
    2172 days ago
  • HOLLYL7
    "This fall is going to be busy" sounds like a real understatement!! I just came home from vacation yesterday with our fam in a small cabin, and my son hadn't put on the laptop, PS3 or a movie for the entire week =) The minute we get home, we all spread out to our own areas of the house and our electronics -sigh-

    I'm sorry about the situation with your husband. I hope that he realizes how selfish his actions were, and has come to appreciate the beauty of a big, loving family (chaos and all!) You are a special person to allow him this second chance. HE is the person that needs to watch his words and actions, and not you!
    2172 days ago
  • HOLLYL7
    "This fall is going to be busy" sounds like a real understatement!! I just came home from vacation yesterday with our fam in a small cabin, and my son hadn't put on the laptop, PS3 or a movie for the entire week =) The minute we get home, we all spread out to our own areas of the house and our electronics -sigh-

    I'm sorry about the situation with your husband. I hope that he realizes how selfish his actions were, and has come to appreciate the beauty of a big, loving family (chaos and all!) You are a special person to allow him this second chance. HE is the person that needs to watch his words and actions, and not you!
    2172 days ago
  • HOLLYL7
    "This fall is going to be busy" sounds like a real understatement!! I just came home from vacation yesterday with our fam in a small cabin, and my son hadn't put on the laptop, PS3 or a movie for the entire week =) The minute we get home, we all spread out to our own areas of the house and our electronics -sigh-

    I'm sorry about the situation with your husband. I hope that he realizes how selfish his actions were, and has come to appreciate the beauty of a big, loving family (chaos and all!) You are a special person to allow him this second chance. HE is the person that needs to watch his words and actions, and not you!
    2172 days ago
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