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What is wrong with me!

Friday, July 27, 2012

What is wrong with me that I can't walk in a park that is within walking distance of my home?

What is wong with me that I can't walk in my own neighborhood?

I drive past the park at least 2-4 times a day and (obviously) live in my neighborhood.

My neighborhood is nice - no real threat of dogs. My park is really really nice with some nice walking trails.

So what's stopping me??????????????????

* I'm polerized by thinking my neighbors will "watch" me
*I'm polerized by not wearing "appropriate" clothing
*I'm polerized by the thought that not wearing "walking clothes" that people will think I'm an idiot.

What the heck is wrong with me!!!!!!!! Do I need a therapist? Do I need hypnotherapy? Do I need a reality check?

How do I overcome this? Too easy to just say "get over it" or "just do it" It doesn't work that way in my world.

Why do I care what others see me do or what others see me wear? Maybe because everyone who is at the park walking actually wear appropriate clothing? Maybe because I'm not comfortable with my neighbors?

Yes I have appropriate clothing but when I dress for the morning I grab the closest clothes - jeans - and who wants to change chothes several times a day? (another stumbling block)

So what's the answer? How do I over come this!

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    I don't care if I dress differently than other people in the gym. I wear comfortable jeans to walk the track or shorts. I don't care if I'm the only one in shorts and tee shirt in an exercise class. I don't need to wear expensive workout clothes. Dress as you're comfortable. No one has ever looked at me like they were judging me for not wearing coordinated work out clothes.
    2257 days ago
    Comfy is good. You cando this!
    2258 days ago
    Wear comfy, everyday clothes (jeans and comfy top, good support shoes) and walk everyday for ten minutes. 5 mins out the door;

    turn around and come back. Look up quotes about not caring about what people think of you, and write them down on an index card, or your hand, etc and take them with you.

    When you feel judged, read them outloud as you walk. As you walk more, begin writing an affirmation that is just for you and applies just to you, in your head, and add a little to it and / or repeat it each time you walk.

    Here are some quotes to get you started. Consider them "mental armor" to wear when walking. Write them down on 3x5 cards. Post them on your SparkPage. Tape them to the bathroom mirror.

    “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” ¯ Eleanor Roosevelt

    "What other people think of me is none of my business." ¯ Wayne Dyer

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    2453 days ago
    Maybe try walking in a different neighborhood first. emoticon
    2455 days ago
    You don't need a therapist! Hubby feels that way too. I just wear whatever and usually put in headphones when I walk in the neighborhood. I think people wait for me to come out and they either walk with me (yeah) or stand and talk to me. Whichever happens it's good. Enjoy. Nothing like breathing in fresh air!
    2455 days ago
    I walk in my neighborhood, around a retirement home, nice shady trees, and I walk with people from all walks of life, and ages, we wear what is comfortable, and fits the weather, I never thought that someone would be looking at me, not much to see, so oh well. Give it a try, there is nothing wrong with you
    2456 days ago
    I had this same thought process when I started getting changed at the one wants to see "that" first thing in the morning. So I started a little chant in my head...if I don't look at you, you won't look at me". I would keep my head down and focus on the task of getting dressed.

    Once I worked on that fear enough times I challenged myself, ok not to look at others getting dressed, but to talk to some of the regulars in the gym. So not keeping my head down all the time. Once I started talking to them I realized they were really nice, and likely were not judging me that first day.

    But I did take baby steps and can't say I'm totally comfortable yet - still can't blow dry my hair in my bra and undies...haha.

    Be brave - and take on little bits of anxiety at a time. You can overcome this!
    2456 days ago
    I can totally relate to your story! 5 moths ago I use to be the same way. I too also thought everyone was staring at me. So I started out with trying to get my husband and kids to walk with me which was great, but they would give up on the 1/2 mile point. So then I would do one more lap and call it quits. After doing this for almost 3 weeks I had already noticed the weight coming off so I now don't care what anyone thinks. I told myself I am doing this for me. I am liking the results. Walking has done wonders for me. Most of my life I had always had junk in the trunk if you know what I mean. The best part is I lost most of the trunk from walking regularly. emoticon emoticon Do it for YOU... The accomplishment is worth it. emoticon
    2456 days ago
  • no profile photo LITTLETEALOVER
    I think a lot of people have this issue, unfortunately. When I first started running, I was extremely self-conscious. My solution was to go really early in the morning. The only people out at that time are the hard-core or the really old. Hard-core exercisers will admire you and possibly think you are one of them. Seniors are usually super-friendly and never fail to say hello. You may also want to find a place where you won't be likely to see people you know. I find that I don't give a crap what strangers think of me, but I may think twice before exercising in front of people I know.

    As for your choice of clothing, unless you are wearing something really inappropriate like high heels or a bikini, I don't think anyone will even notice what you are wearing. Just dress comfortably and wear something that will keep you relatively cool. It's hot out there!

    The only way you will start to feel more comfortable is to do it more often. The first few times, you may have to talk yourself into it, but it'll get easier. In a few months, you'll wonder what you were so worried about!
    2456 days ago
    I actually didn't like the thought of someone watching me 3 years ago when I started walking. Who knows what that's all about. I wear regular clothes for the day when I walk. If it's dripping hot, I'll have to change when I get back. One plus, other people do walk in their regular after work clothes. Runners are out running in running clothes. Dogs are out walking. No one really cares what anyone else is wearing. Around the block is about 10 minutes for me. I like my one mile course the best. Best wishes. emoticon
    2456 days ago
  • BEWELL48
    Can you just commit to a 10 minute walk? I bet you will enjoy it! You can do it! emoticon
    2456 days ago
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