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Must...learn...to say... no

Monday, July 23, 2012

My plate is FULL. I do it to myself. I wanted to dig into my house and have all the deep cleaning done by this point in the summer but haven't even really begun. Instead, I run here, do this, do that, etc. I tell people I can do things without always thinking it through and sometimes before I even completely figure out the logistics. I am not angry at the people I tell yes (and more likely have even volunteered for). I get frustrated at myself for it. For example, I joined the booster club, sounds good until you realize that means 2 nights of football every week this fall. I'll split Thursday's between both of my kids and then be at the varsity games most Friday nights. No one made me do this. In fact, I was asked if I wanted to be an officer and one of the other mom's who is in a very similar spot as me told me she just more or less observed and participated when she could the first year. It was something I wanted to do but when I look at the rest of my schedule, it seems so overwhelming. I have been this way for am long time but it seems to be worse in certain categories lately. My problem with that is my activity plate fills up and then my food plate fills up. emoticon Not literally because I will snack and eat junk trying to make me feel less harried and stressed. (Can you tell why I am on the EE team?) Today was bad food wise and I think that was a good thing for me because made the connection between my emotions and comforting myself with food or in the case of today, mindless eating. Not proud of myself that it took a bad day and blogging about it before I could make the connection but glad something began to click. I hope this light bulb moment sticks. Like some of my other posts, not thrilling but I need to put it in print so I can look back and go AH-HA!!!! emoticon
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  • IMAVISION
    I had to learn to make myself stop before always automatically say "yes" to anything anyone asked of me. After all - people don't ask unless they really need the help - right?

    What thinking was that on my part? emoticon

    It took me many years to realize that most of the time people were asking in an effort to put the work off onto someone else. How I wish that I had clued into that years earlier.

    I finally learned to never respond with an immediate "yes" even to the seeminly most simple of requests - such requests tend to add up, don't you know?

    Instead when asked to fill a need - I say that I will talk with my husband & after we have prayed about the matter, I will get back to whomever.

    Sometimes the answer I get is a solid no & I go with it without any feelings of guilt.

    At other times I get the answer to go with what is asked of me & I find a sense of fulfillment when that happens.

    It truly is neat how that works.

    Again, what a difference it would have made if I had learned that earlier on.

    May you find what works best for you in such situations & go with it.

    Be blessed!

    Ima
    2696 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/24/2012 8:28:39 PM
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    2696 days ago
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