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Sparked My Husband and Other Gratitudes

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Hi Spark Friends,
I haven't blogged in a while. But I'm excited about a new development in my husband's health journey. Some of you know he celebrated 1 year with no smoking on July 8th. Then something happened that on the surface seemed sad, but as often happens, turned out to be a plus.

I took pictures the last time we visited my granddaughter. I sent them to his computer and he gasped at one where he was on a couch playing with her. He said, "Is this what I really look like?" (This was the sad part)

Now, we all know that the question "Do I look fat in this?" is a question men don't like to answer, but I felt like I was in the same position. So I asked, "In what way do you mean?" This gave me some time to think. He didn't answer, so I asked, "Do you mean your weight?" He said, "Yeah!!!!!!!"

Gulp!!! I decided to be honest. It is no secret to him that he is at least 70 pounds overweight. So, I told him that I loved him and I thought he looked like a loving grandpa, but that the picture was accurate.

He said, "Will you help me? I am serious now!" (This is the positive part)

I of course told him I would, and asked him to define "help". He told me he wanted help with everything......food, nutrition, exercise......everything.

So Saturday we went to the grocery store and did some healthy shopping. To make a long story a bit shorter, we are now doing Nutrition 101. I'm focusing on small changes, success, and frequent positive feedback. We are working on portion control right now and beginning to look at his night time sweet tooth. He is shocked at the real size of portions. We are keeping a food journal on My Fitness Pal. (He doesn't want to invade my personal space on Sparkpeople, even though I've assured him it wouldn't.) I am having him identify his hunger levels and slow down during meals to identify satiation. We'll get more sophisticated as we go. This is certainly helping ME stay on track!! Isn't that always the way?

We have added walking together. He is already asking to walk every day and is going 1 1/2 miles.

This morning he said, "We need to throw out the two containers of ice cream in the freezer". I am glad I'm leaving those decisions up to him. Then I can be sure it is his motivation and not mine. We are going to make it a ceremony. LOL

I told him that all the movie stars have personal chefs and I will be his. He can feel like a star!!!!

On other news, I have a date for my cardiac ablation procedure. I'm so highly grateful that something will help my tachycardia. My quality of life will be much improved.
I am going in the day after my 60th birthday. My birthday is on Aug. 9th and I have the procedure on Aug. 10th. I only have to stay in the hospital 1 night unless there are complications. What a wonderful birthday gift!

So I am keeping my running and exercise schedule on track so I can be in the best possible heart health.

I have a number of friends going through major health challenges right now.........and they are all my age. One has brain cancer, one has breast cancer, one has just received a terminal diagnosis for a recurring cancer in her groin that has spread.

So I am a very blessed woman and I intend to honor my friends by staying healthy and helping my husband get healthier, too!

Our health is a blessing and each day is a gift. I so deeply and sincerely believe this.

The fact that we have all come to Spark to get healthy and fit in our own special way is a miracle. We are an amazing community of life giving support.

I must thank SparkGuy for the courage and the inspiration to begin this beautiful venture called Sparkpeople.

God Bless you all,
Leslie

My Awesome Husband and Granddaughter.
P.S. This is not the picture that Sparked him. But I love this one.
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  • SHARIBEAR2
    What a great couple you and your husband! I have written down the date of your procedure and will pray for you. God bless you and your family. I love the picture above. Being a Grandma....my favorite part of life right now!
    2306 days ago
  • KANOE10
    How wonderful that your husband is focusing on his health with your support! I love his picture. He looks so happy.
    You know the same thing happened to me. I began losing weight and reached goal. My husband decided to join me in these last few months..He still needs to lose 40 pounds...but at least he is exercising and eating healthier!

    I am so excited for you that you will have the surgery to help your heart.

    Our health is a blessing and each day is a gift..wonderful..and inspirational.
    I am grateful for this day and for Spark friends also.
    Have a wonderful day.
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    2309 days ago
  • _CYNDY55_
    Very emoticon Inspired by You "`*Leslie*`!
    Your Husband wants what You have all ready, to be Fit and Healthy!
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    Thank You for sharing!
    ❤Happiness and Love❤
    Captured in this Picture of your DH and beautiful Grand daughter!

    I very much wanted to wish You All the Best on Your upcoming procedure,
    :::tachycardia:::....
    .no complications at all.
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    2311 days ago
  • BC062012
    What an awesome pic and what an awesome journey to health the two of you can share! Keep up all your good work in prep for your upcoming birthday procedure! You are such inspiration Leslie!

    emoticon , Bev
    2311 days ago
  • SHERRY666
    OH LESLIE YOU ARE DOING ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO HELP YOUR DH.... I HAD THAT SWEET TOOTH AT NIGHT ALSO..... AND IT TOOK ME ALONG TIME TO FINALLY GET ON THE RIGHT TRACK WITH THAT......... I'M NOW GOING THROUGH A HARD TIME WITH PORTION CONTROL....... I AM JUST TAKING A LITTLE BIT OFF EACH TIME...... I HAVE TO GO SLOW TO KEEP IT GOING...... FIRST TRYING TO MAKE IT A HABIT.. SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE AS THEY SAY...... I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE SOMEONE HELPING ME TO STAY COMMITTED....... DH IS LUCKY TO HAVE YOU...... AND A PERSONAL COOK...... OH YES I WOULD LOVE THAT...... IT'S VERY HARD COOKING DIFFERENT THINGS FOR OTHERS....... SO THIS SHOULD REALLY HELP YOU ALONG TOO.......... AND YES THAT IS WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT....... I'M ALSO SO PLEASED TO HEAR THAT YOUR GOING IN FOR THE SURGERY... AND THIS IS GOING TO GIVE YOU A MUCH BETTER QUALITY OF LIFE....... YOU SO DESERVE ALL THESE WONDERFUL THINGS HAPPENING FOR YOU AND DH.....
    2311 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/19/2012 2:58:08 PM
  • BETHGILLIGAN
    What an adorable picture!!! Good for you!! Good for hubby!! You are very lucky and he is so lucky to have you to help him on this journey!!! I'll be thinking of you when you have your procedure!! You are an inspiration!
    2311 days ago
  • MEDDYPEDDY
    I have to admit that I envy you - great and inspirational blog! emoticon
    2311 days ago
  • AJDOVER1
    Aw, he DOES look like a loving grandpa! With your help, he'll soon be a healthier loving grandpa!

    I wish you all the best on this phase of your journey. Teaching my Guy about nutritious has been frustrating and hilarious. I hope you can share some stories with us (maybe it's good that he's not here on SparkPeople).

    You're in my prayers over your cardiac procedure. Stay on track with your fitness and nutrition until then! We're with you every step of the way.
    2311 days ago
  • SHEILA-45
    emoticon to you Leslie! You are in the best possible place to help your husband. You've been through the SP program and have succeeded. My favorite motto is "Each one teach one"... Now, with your help it's his turn to make the journey to health. Congratulations to the both of you.

    Getting healthy, getting off all meds, and being around for my daughter and her family were my motivations for joining SP. You are truly an inspiration for all of us at SP.

    I wish you continued health and happiness for you and yours. Take Care.
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    2311 days ago
  • AWESOMECAROL55
    Leslie..What wonderful news!!The journey is much easier walking side by side with the one you love! Fantastic story!! Congrats...hope your surgery goes well!! ((HUGS)) and prayers!!

    Carol
    2312 days ago
  • LITTLEBO
    CARTWHEEL!!! CARTWHEEL!!! CARTWHEEL!!! ROUND OFF!!!!

    How WONDERFUL that you will be on a healthy journey together.... I laughed out loud when your hubby asked "Do I look fat?" Talk about role reversal....

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    2312 days ago
  • MEADSBAY
    So glad to hear about your dear man starting his own journey- and being man enough to ask for your help. I think my husband is about ready to join me, too- I hope he's as willing a partner as yours.
    Sorry to hear about your friends' issues and hope yours provides relief from your tachycardia- that's gotta be scary.
    xoxo
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    2312 days ago
  • TRAVELGRRL
    I am so happy for BOTH you and your husband, Leslie! My husband is definitely my fitness partner and nothing I do could be possible without his encouragement and support. Your relationship will grow because of this new mutually-shared interest.

    You are so wise to let your husband take the lead in making decisions!

    I always learn so much from you and appreciate you more than you will know. Whenever I get an email message that you've written a blog, I'm ON IT!

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    2312 days ago
  • CANNIE50
    What a beautiful blog, and yes, that is a wonderful photo. I am so sorry to hear of the challenges facing your friends. You are a blessing to your family and friends. I wish you amazing treatment for your wonderful heart. emoticon
    2312 days ago
  • LESSOFPMCD
    Hi Leslie,

    Great post. It is true a person has to come to realise they need to lose the weight on their own. It is only then that they will seriously take the steps needed - not just because someone said they should.

    My hubby is heavier than he should be as well. Quitting drinking awakened his sweet tooth - ice cream - cookies etc that he never used to eat.

    He has started to cut those things out - on his own accord - one small step at a time I guess.

    I think your attitude of having your procedure as a b`day present is great! Taking care of ourselves is important - we are worth it and I think too many of us think of everyone else before ourselves.

    Your continued support to all of your SP friends and your wisdome that you give us is truly amazing!

    2312 days ago
  • LIONESS678
    Oh Leslie! That is such a great story! Your love is just, all over this one (I can't even think of any good words). You probably feel blessed to be married to him, but he is so fortunate to be with you! And I would just like to say, from one teacher to another, you are so darned good with the open-ended question and positive and gentle! I hope I can be a little more like you each year I teach (this will be my eighth).
    2312 days ago
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