Thoughts After Bringing My Older Son to UConn for Orientation

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

On Children
Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
----- Khalil Gibran

I am about to draw back the string and send forth this bright beautiful bow. My heart is broken even though I know in my mind and soul that this is part of life, and it's time. If I'm a crying mess leaving Tyler overnight on Orientation Day, how am I going to feel on August 24 when we bring him up to UConn for the REAL DEAL?

On a totally selfish note, I am SO JEALOUS of Tyler's access to the Student Fitness Center at UConn. It is AMAZING. Indoor running track, Olympic sized pool, 100 cardio machines, full weight room, and zumba and yoga classes! Tyler is kind of blase about fitness...he's done some weight lifting with his brother here and there, but he'd rather watch YouTube videos or play bass. However, he is bringing a bicycle up to UConn since the campus is quite large - and it's a hilly campus, too. He'll get incidental workouts just walking from his dorm to classes.

In addition UConn has a large agricultural history, they still offer Ag as a major . They have an on-campus dairy farm and several gardens. One of the dining halls offers locally grown vegetables and local free-range meats. How awesome is that? I am going to strongly urge Tyler to take advantage of that, but I am also very aware that he's going to do what he wants. I just wish I could be 18 and at UConn....knowing what I know now.

The good news is that I'm pretty much eating in my calorie range. The quality of food could improve. If you need me, I'll be over here alternately beaming with pride, being supportive and excited, and crying like a tool. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    I did my master's at UCONN and had no interest in fitness and no idea what or if they had any in the early 90s. I was off-campus though.. and a newlywed.
    2163 days ago
    Oh man!!! The poem is so perfect. I still have at least 12 years but I'm sure I will be a basket case when it all happens!! That campus sounds AWESOME!!!! I'm sure he'll have a blast! I wish I had access to the gym and the Dining hall it sounds great plus it would be easier to eat healthy if someone else was willing to cook for me!!!! Give him a big hug and tell him how proud you are of him and enjoy the time you have left!!!
    2179 days ago
    Everything sounds swell.... even though you're all teary. You cry it out!! You'll feel better before you know it.
    2179 days ago
    Yep - they grow up and leave home...but look on the bright side - one of your kids is leaving. My 18 year old is living at home for college - no sewing room for mama yet...sigh. But i do get to still meddle and nag and comment on daughter's life for 4 more years....
    2179 days ago
    I can so relate to this right now. My son left for Portugal last night for 13 days. My heart is in my throat and I am filled with anxiety. I keep telling myself next year he will be leaving for college and what will I do then? Logically I know this is the "normal" coarse of action but I haven't caught up emotionally yet! What it has done is allow me to take a look at what it will be like and how I need to make some changes in my life that don't entirely revolve around my son. I spend so much time alone and need to start putting myself out there!
    2179 days ago
  • AMANDA_A_725
    emoticon I'm sure it's hard! But as said, this is part of the goal of parenting. Good Luck! emoticon on your son's acceptance to UCONN! Go Huskies!
    2179 days ago
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