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Tuesday, July 03, 2012

Well I am writing again just because I had a very dear friend come and see me tonight. She is the sweetest girl that I know and she is having trouble at home. she has been with her hubby for a very long time. She was 14 when they got together and she is now 37. She is one of these people who her family and friends are her life. She would help them out she would give them her last dollar. She has been raising 3 kids, looking after her hubby, She was diagnosed with MS and she refused to let it get the better of her so she turned to organic diet and has cut out certain foods that can interfere with her health. She has a lump or cyst on her spine and won't get it operated on until it becomes a problem because she needs to be looking after the kids. Her husbands mother has been diagnosed with cancer and is dying and now she wants to move in with my friend and her hubby. she will then be the sole carer of her mother in law. She just lost it tonight and thought she may not want to be with her hubby as she cares for him but feels that there isn't that love there anymore that she felt before. There are times when we all feel this way well Im sure the majority of us. Especially if we have been in the relationship a long long time. I am sure we all second guess the decisions we have made at some stage or another. I feel that they wont split but that she needs to take care of her for a change. Do we as mothers, and wives feel that we need to do it all. Why do we? We need to take a stand and make others help us out. Make someone else share the load, give us that time out to go for a run and clear our head, do a yoga class, walk the dog, go meet girlfriends for coffee. I am sharing because Im sure we have all been here at some stage of our life and will probably be again and again. I sometimes feel unappreciated and just want some back up...
So that is my little thoughts of tonight. Do some thing for yourselves every now and again.
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    wow! that is a tough one. you are a good friend for listening.
    2452 days ago
    You are a great listener, we all need girlfriends we can vent to.myou are right that she needs time to herself - none of us is capable of doing it all especially with health issues. I would suggest that she gets in touch with a hospital social worker or similar to see what community resources are available in regards to the care of her MIL. Hugs to you both - take care.
    2453 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/3/2012 3:39:00 PM
    I'm not wife or mother, but I do A LOT for my boyfriend, so I can completely relate to this. It gets tiring, but it's difficult to overcome the idea of asking others for help. I hope your friend asks for help from her hubby and kids because it seems like she has too much on her plate. A person can only take so much. I will pray for your friend, her health, and her MIL. emoticon
    2453 days ago
    Poor girl. Sounds like she desperately needs to take some time for herself and rely on others for a change.
    2453 days ago
    I'm not a marriage counselor, and I certainly don't know anything about your friend's situation, but she and her hubby definitely need to talk. Despite her mother-in-law's cancer (which is absolutely terrible), if your friend isn't capable of taking care of her, then she shouldn't be the primary caregiver. It just isn't a good situation for any of them.

    I completely agree with you, though. Everyone needs to make sure they take time for themselves!
    2453 days ago
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