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What did I just do? July Goals

Monday, July 02, 2012

I don't believe what I just did. There was this icon on my page saying something about a challenge and do it your way so I joined. My experience with the Spark Challenges has been so incredibly good that I went with my gut.

All I have is my gut feeling that it will be good for me and that is it. I will have to study up on this challenge to see what I will have to do to finish.

My Spark People Tame Your sweet Tooth challenge was life changing. It gave me tools I am certain will be with me as long as I don't lose my mind. If you have a sweet tooth and have not done this challenge I absolutely recommend it.

It is true I don't know what I am doing on this challenge whose name escapes me, but I have no doubt I will get an e-mail with a step by step guide to walk me through it.

When stuff like this happens to me I just think "Why doesn't everyone take advantage of this amazing site?"

July Goals: This will be a very difficult month for me on a personal level. July 7th would have been my wedding anniversary and I am still struggling with it. One of my goals will be to be grateful and focus on the blessings in my life.

July is also so hot I have to cut back on my hiking. Another goal will be to make sure I get an indoor workout on the days I don't hike like dancing around the house like a fool with Boo and Moo.

On a good note I have been looking forward to a camping trip in Yosemite for months. I would like to work on my camping skills with a focus on traveling light (I have a problem with bringing too much stuff).

I have several girlfriend events coming up and I love that stuff. I am meeting a big group of old girlfriends I have not seen in decades. I am dreading the personal questions about my marriage. Any ideas on how to shut that down? Last time I told someone I didn't want to talk about it it got awkward. Perhaps I could have a pin made saying "I got dumped and survived, how are you?"
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    Tell them it happened and you don't want to talk about it. If someone persists, remain silent until they get the message. And, if you ever make it to Orlando, I promise not to ask about, um, er, what was it we aren't going to talk about? emoticon -- Lou
    2163 days ago
    How fun, a Yosemite trip. I haven't been there for years. A great area to walk around etc. Maybe you can hint to one of your friends you do not want to talk about your break up, and she can let the other gals know. I agree with the others, there is a lot to catch up on, so I think you will do fine. It is getting hot isn't it. Friday is a chance of thunderstorms. I wonder if you will get rain as well!
    2180 days ago
    As far as not wanting to talk about the marriage, you could just say, "I really don't want to talk about it right now". It is not offensive or rude.
    2180 days ago
    You always do fabulously Victoria and you're so uplifting too!
    2182 days ago


    Smile and Enjoy the Rest of Your Day!
    Melinda (gopintos)
    Dr Oz Show Fans Team
    2182 days ago
    Victoria you are a wonderful person ,ai would simply say chatting about pain brings me down so let me tell you about Bailey or Spark or the friends I have met on Spark anything that brings you pleasure.I tend to deflect any questions I don't want to answer.
    2183 days ago
    You have really come a long way and I'm so glad to hear you have realistic and healthy plans for July! When are you going to Yosemite? We're heading there pretty soon - hmmm, next week in fact! First we're heading to Mammoth and Lake Tahoe and we will only be in Yosemite for 2 days because I'm still teaching so need a signal, which I can't get inside the park. But it will still be a lot of fun and we're looking forward to it!

    As for hiking, it really is starting to get hot - last summer was so nice with the marine layer hanging around but I think this year will be more normal - and more hot! Our hike this morning started at 7am and it was still too warm by the time we finished. The mountains will be nicer and you'll have a great time hiking in Yosemite so I hope that helps - and hang in there, it's only another 4-5 months before it will cool again [gag!]
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    2183 days ago
    I took your advice and joined the challenge (as I'm sitting here eating Twizzlers.) About your upcoming event. I agree that honesty is the best plan of attack. I'm sure your friends will understand and talk about other things.

    2183 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Good for you for taking on another challenge. Having a great experience with others will give you a postitive head start with this one. Also it will be a great thing to focus on with this upcoming dreadaversary. So sorry you have to suffer through all that hurt again :((
    As for the girfriend chats, perhaps honesty is the best policy, saying it was painful part of your life you are trying to put behind you and you want to leave it in the past and immediately change the subject or direct a question back at the person asking so as to not leave any awkward pauses. They would have to be a real idiot not to get the message to leave it alone..
    I will be thinking of you, wishing you warm and comforting thoughts, and more healing..
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    2183 days ago
    Sounds like July is well planned for you! Good for you on the challenge. I have been thinking about the virtual 5k-but may wait till it is cooler! I like challenges here on the site!! Keeps me going!! Good luck! Keep us posted on it!
    As far as the awkward questions and answers: Just tell them, I am doing the best I can, of course, it hurts, but I want to have a good day-so let's talk about happier things like you and yours. Talk about your sister and how she has lost weight, etc. Or you could say Change the subject and laugh and say, Oh, let's talk about you instead!
    Hang in there sweet friend! Glad you are keeping busy and have some old friends to meet up with soon! emoticon emoticon
    2183 days ago
    I love the pin. Just keep the focus on the questioner. "The marriage ended. I'm good with it. What's going on with you, how is your marriage/partner/new job/children, etc.?"

    Good luck on your indoor workouts. I love them because they take away the "it's too hot to workout outdoors excuse."

    You are so right about the challenges. I'm doing the virtual 5K on the treadmill (because it is too hot outdoors). Let us know when you figure out which challenge you're doing and how it goes.

    Rock on with your awesome self.
    2183 days ago
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